I know this is probably too much info but I need help... anyway my husband really wants to have anal sex but we have tried it before and I made him stop because it hurt of course, but what I want to know is there anyway to ease into it without it hurting?:confused:

Using a lube, start with a finger, then a bigger finger then a bigger finger. Keep trying thefinger maybe for a week or two, until ou don't feel pain then have him use lube, and start with hiss head then a little more and a little more. Until you don't feel the pain. It's a long process but take it slow because he if do rush and you make him pull out to fast... you could end up really hurt.

I'm sorry if this was to graphic... I'm just trying to help.

Good luck.

You have to concentrate on relaxing your anal sphincter, your partner can use saliva to smooth the way.

I recommend that you don't engage in this practice... disease, hemmorhoids, and it is abusive if you don't really dig it.

There are always a lot of good available men waiting for you to choose one. You don't have to stay with a guy who won't listen to you. :)

Using a lube, start with a finger, then a bigger finger then a bigger finger. Keep tring thefinger maybe for a week or two, until ou dont feel pain then have him use lube, and start with hiss head then a little more and a little more. until you don't feel the pain. Its a long process but take it slow becuz he if do rush and you make him pull out to fast...you could end up really hurt.

im sorry if this was to graphic...i'm just trying to help.

good luck.

Thanks, no you weren't to graphic hopefully this will work. Thanks again

Condom and lots of lube, as to avoid any anal passage tearing, but I strongly recommend avoiding it if your not comfortable with it, it can be very painful and potentially dangerous.

My husband recently tried anal sex. While we have tried it before we really put a valiant effort forth this time. We used a lube and started with a finger and then two fingers. Then we tried his penis and it just would not go in no matter what position or how hard we tried. I know that my problem was that I was not relaxed and was not loose enough. Also, we used a warming sensation lube which was a bad idea. So, I would suggest you trying to first have a lot of foreplay. You must be warmed up and in the mood to be able to fully relax. If you are not relaxed it won't happen. Then, you must try a good lube... not a warming one as this will just make you more uncomfortable. Have your man gently ease in a finger. Then after that's worked in try two fingers. Then you might be able to start inserting the penis. It will be painful, it will be uncomfortable, it will be a long process. But, if it's something you desire then I say give it a try. It might feel good.

Hi, cece21!

Sure, you can try to ease into such a thing.

However, the bottom line to me would be that those places on the body aren't designed to be joined in that way. Even if you try to ease into it, it might not work.

If you're still uncomfortable even after trying a number of times, then I would like to assume that your husband will be understanding and loving in that regard as to your needs.

Thanks!

A dildo, lubed up and inserted slowly and gently into his anus will teach him exactly how to have anal sex with you.

If it hurt you moved too fast.


You have to be able to relax... try a finger then two then three, lubed of course with clipped and smooth finger nails... you know you are relaxed when you can stop clmping down on the fingers..

Next he has to go slow... if it hurts he is moving too fast or needs lube.

Once you can do that a litle at a time until he's fully in and you are in a comfortible position then you will be able to engoy it.

Keep in mind also you won't be able to do this if you are due to have a bowel movement... its best to time it 1 hour to 4 hours after one until you get to know yourself.

And actually simoneagie isn't too far off on that one... if he knows the actual mechanics as well you both can enjoy it better. When I first married my wife siad she would if I could teach her how to relax to do it... so I did exactly that... learned what it took, taught her and now she loves it... and actually comes asking for it at times.


I will also note that we are married... and monogamous so neither of us has any disease... and 17 years later no hemoroids either.

Maybe I am weird but I do love anal sex. It took sometime however and it is not for everyone. Everyone is giving you great advice. I would say lots and lots of lube, don't be ashamed of using a lot. Also you have to be turned on, it helps to relax. My first time I had split a bottle of wine with my lover and it got us in the mood:) Two ways for positioning in the beginning are laying down on your side and is laying down behind you. I feel as if this was the least painful way for penetration. Also you have to go SLOW. And breathe and make sure that despite the man being in "power" with anal sex, YOU are the one who says how fast, slow, deep etc. and your word is LAW. ANother way which helps me out is having the man behind me doggystyle and instead of him coming forawrd to me, I move back onto his penis. This way, I am able to control the speed and depth. You just have to watch out for how excited they can get and the natural response is to start pumping away.
I hope that this helps. If at anytime you realize it is not your thing stop. Sex is only good and fun when it is comfortable and not stepping past personal boundaries.

Might not be appropriate, but you can tell him the following joke.

A man broke into the bedroom of a couple and the man whispered something in the wife's ear. The husband says, "Do whatever he asks" so we don't get hurt. The wife says to the husband "He wants you".

Anal sex is fantastic... don't knock it. Anyone who does is missing out on one of the joys in life. And its fun for both parties... not just one.

Hey, I've done it. Just can't do it now. Experience it while you can.

There are certain products available at sex stores like special lubes and what not

Maximus - Lubricant - EdenFantasys (http://www.edenfantasys.com/sex-lubricants/water-based/maximus)

If you don't enjoy it though tell your husband and I'll bet he'll understand

Certainly try lots of lube. It takes time to learn how to relax enough but it's worth it. I've gotten to the point I actually ask for it.

I agree, the number one key is you must use a lot of lubrication.

I hope this isn't too graphic, but I have also heard that an anal plug can be used to prepare the anus for the act of penetration. Anal plugs are much smaller than an actual penis, but I was told that they do help relax the sphincter, and stretch the anus, which allows for easier penile penetration.

I was told to insert the anal plug before foreplay, let it stay in for a while, sometimes up to an hour before penetration. She says she relaxes on the bed during foreplay, all the while the anal plug is inserted, and then when they are ready for the act itself, he removes the plug and inserts the real thing.

Worth a try.

Anal sex is great every once in a while. Your partner has to be very respectful of your needs in the process.

My boyfriend liked doing it every once in a while and I stress that because I think if someone wants to do it all the time they think it feels better than vaginal sex.

He just liked the thrill of it because it is tabboo.

He did say he didn't like it better than vaginal sex, which made me feel better about doing it in the first place.

Hello:

I'm not sure what an anal plug is, but a finger works pretty good too. Frankly, it's even BETTER, because if he's into your anus, he's going to WANT his fingers and his tongue in there too.

If he's REALLY into it like that, you WILL be too. Promise!

excon

Hello:

I'm not sure what an anal plug is, but a finger works pretty good too. Frankly, it's even BETTER, because if he's into your anus, he's going to WANT his fingers and his tongue in there too.

If he's REALLY into it like that, you WILL be too. Promise!

excon I couldn't agree more. If he's really into it AND really cares about you enough to help you ease into it you won't be able to help but like it.

Another thing to try is let him try penetration in the doggystyle position, this enables you to pull away and also gives you both (especially you) fairly easy access for cliteral stimulation. This will really help you get into it.

Above all, RELAX, don't think about the taboo parts and enjoy!

he's going to WANT his fingers and his tongue in there too


Yeah, it sounds gross, but that was the first time I actually enjoyed anal sex.

My boyfriend prepped me by licking around the anus and tickling me with his lips. He didn't lick the actual anus.

He did that for a good five minutes and it went in like I never thought could be possible.

I couldn't agree more. If he's really into it AND really cares about you enough to help you ease into it you won't be able to help but like it.

Another thing to try is let him try penetration in the doggystyle postition, this enables you to pull away and also gives you both (especially you) fairly easy access for cliteral stimulation. This will really help you get into it.

Above all, RELAX, don't think about the taboo parts and enjoy!!

It helps to lay on your side. He can either be on his knees or lying behind you.

Hello:

I'm not sure what an anal plug is, but a finger works pretty good too. Frankly, it's even BETTER, because if he's into your anus, he's going to WANT his fingers and his tongue in there too.

If he's REALLY into it like that, you WILL be too. Promise!

excon

Ex:

Try this site. There is a picture.

En.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anal_plug

Butt plugs (or anal plugs) are sex toys designed to be inserted in the anus and rectum for sexual pleasure. In some ways, they are similar to a dildo, but they tend to be shorter, and to have a flared end to prevent the device from being lost inside the rectum. Many dildos lack a flared end, and thus it is ill-advised to use such dildos anally, since they may get stuck, requiring medical extraction.

People of all genders and sexual orientations may use butt plugs.

Exactly my view

yeah, it sounds gross, but that was the first time i actually enjoyed anal sex.

my boyfriend prepped me by licking around the anus and tickling me with his lips. he didn't lick the actual anus.

he did that for a good five minutes and it went in like i never thought could be possible.
Try it fresh from a shower or bath... then its safe, clean and fun.

What I ussually do is I start to have sex and when I'm really wet his penis is wet so we start slowley with the head of the penis until it doesn't hurt (I don't use lube, some hurt like KY yours and mine it burns do not use it) probley use like a water based lubracant if that.
We just go from sex to anal sex to anal moving in little at a time of course even when you think you're ready to go in all the way add more

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we just go from sex to anal sex to anal moving in little at a time of course even when you think youre ready to go in all the way add more

You are not supposed to have anal sex and then put it in the vagina without washing the penis first.

This can cause a serious infection.

you are not supposed to have anal sex and then put it in the vagina without washing the penis first.

this can cause a serious infection.

I'll second that, use a fresh condom when doing this or visit the bathroom and wash up well first if you aren't. Why subject yourself to a vaginal infection when simple precaustions will avoid it.

You can move from the vagina directly to the rectum without trouble. (as I believe she had said she did)... but do not move non-stop from the rectum to the vagina.

Tell him you'll start having more anal sex when he lets you regularly start sticking a 20 oz. bottle up his rectum... deal? Seriously... not all are made for anal sex and it is very bad for your rectum also. Fissures and hemmroids are something to consider..

Tell him you'll start having more anal sex when he lets you regularly start sticking a 20 oz. bottle up his rectum.....deal? Seriously....not all are made for anal sex and it is very bad for your rectum also. Fissures and hemmroids are something to consider..
Ummm exaggerating quite a lot aren't you?. I'm a guy in his 40's and not once have I ever seen a schlong in the locker room that was anywhere near the size of a 20 oz bottle.

And 17 years into a marriage my petite wife as not once suffered from any of those. And I am no Pee Wee Herman.

It sounds like this is very much your husbands idea. If you are not really interested then it will more than likely be painful. Only do what you are comfortable with.

I haven't read anything from the OP that states she is not in to trying it. In fact she states that they have tried, but failed. No where did she say I don't want to do this, it's his idea, so I need help to figure it out.

Listen hun, there are several ways to ease in to it, and maybe this experience won't be what you were thinking it would be. Maybe it will suck and maybe you will find you like it.

I've seen good advice about cleaning out your system prior to anal sex, but it's good advice for him to wear a condom too.

As for making it work, there are many products out there made specifically to desensitize. I think one of them is actually called Anal-EZ? Don't know haven't tried it.

The only time I could make this work for me, was when I got sloppy drunk LOL

At least one hour after a Boel Movement to as namy as 3 or 4 you will find the carage empty and unclutered.

Look at it as a garage door that's not been opened for a long time and is a little stiff. Take it slow and it will open, once you get it open then the next time will be easier... You don't just go and kick down the door.

I used to be one of those "HELL NO' kind of girls and then I found someone that knew what they were doing. A lot of the home party plans or sex shops have Anal Eaze. It's a numbing cream that should be applied to the anal opening about 7-8 minutes before entry. Use lubrication and a real one - SPIT IS NOT LUBRICANT for anal sex!! Next go with some anal beads. They're usually made of silicone and have beads that start very small and end bigger. While he is having vaginal sex with you, he should start inserting the anal beads smallest to largest until it becomes uncomfortable. SLOWLY pulling it out - it's not a rip cord, you should do this a couple times until there is no pain. It can be rather enjoyable but it is definitely not something to rush into it. My guy knew what he was doing and wanted it to be just as enjoyable for me as it was for him.

Since you are willing to try it, use LOTS of lube and go slowly. If at any point you decide that this is definitely way more fun for your husband than it is for you, it's your right to say no. Also, ask him if it's o.k. if you "peg" him. If you're not a Dan Savage fan, that's the term for a woman strapping on a dildo and engaging in anal sex with her man that way. In fact, even if you're fine with being the "receiver" of anal sex, I think you should ask him anyway. Why shouldn't he enjoy what is supposed to be so enjoyable for you? :D

Why shouldn't he enjoy what is supposed to be so enjoyable for you?Hello Ren:

So, I suppose you go down on chicks (if you're a chick), because you want to experience what HE does... Or the other way around if you're a guy... But, you get what I mean..

Of course, the truth is, he's NOT supposed to experience the same thing his girlfriend does. That's what makes is DIFFERENT...

I don't know why you can't get that. Maybe it's cause you enjoy experiencing the SAME stuff your partner does... MOST ordinary people don't do that...

excon

Actually, Ex-Con, I do go down on chicks, but that's beside the point.

I know what it's like to be in the OP's place and I heard all the reasoning- "If you do it right, it doesn't hurt", if you go slow, it's great"... Some minor but painful damage later, it turned out not to be my cup of tea. Some people love it- heck, the O.P. may end up enjoying it immensely... but, if she doesn't like it, even just a little bit, she should be given a pass on this one.

As for her partner not being expected to experience what she does, well, why the heck not? Why should he not experience this amazing feeling? My point is that he should be absolutely willing to do this, especially if his partner develops a yearning to strap it on and have at him, right? If she goes slow and uses lots of lube, it should be pleasurable for him. Just saying. What's good for the goose is good for the gander, as my dear old gramps used to say.

As for her partner not being expected to experience what she does, well, why the heck not? Why should he not experience this amazing feeling? My point is that he should be absolutely willing to do this, Hello again, R:

I don't like oysters. I've never tried them. I actually DON'T have to try them to know that I don't want to. Now, there are some people out there who think they're "amazing". My point is that, just because some people think they're amazing doesn't mean that I should try them. It just doesn't.

Now, I know you UNDERSTAND that logic. But, somehow, not when it comes to sex. I don't know why. I think you've got some underlying issues that you're not copping to.

excon

Actually, Ex---I'm kind of with her on this one.

Anal sex CAN be extremely pleasurable for her---but most of the time it's NOT.

And I've always told any guy that INSISTED on it, any guy that HAD to have it on HIS terms and not when *I* initiated it that I'd be happy to let him RECEIVE anal sex.

So it's not that I would enjoy that the same WAY that he'd enjoy pitching, but dammit, if he's going to be PUSHY about it, I'll give him something to push back against.

Frankly, I blame most women who are against anal sex on men that are too pushy about anal sex--and men that have NO technique at it other than just insert-push-pull.

Hello again, R:

I don't like oysters. I've never tried them. I actually DON'T have to try them to know that I don't want to. Now, there are some people out there who think they're "amazing". My point is that, just because some people think they're amazing doesn't mean that I should try them. It just doesn't.

Now, I know you UNDERSTAND that logic. But, somehow, not when it comes to sex. I dunno why. I think you've got some underlying issues that you're not copping to.

excon

The funny thing here is that to me, your response indicates that you have issues that you're not copping to, Ex-Con.

Your lobster analogy doesn't do much for your case.
Imagine the poster's husband does not like oysters. Like you, he knows he doesn't want oysters ANYWHERE in his body. However, he really, really wants his wife to enjoy oysters because he heard how amazing they can be and he really gets excited by his wife trying "oysters". Wife tries oysters and she isn't thrilled by them, either. Imagine that OP's hubby insist she try oysters with lemon, or in a bisque- but she still doesn't like them. Is the fact that she doesn't like oysters in her head? Or should her husband acknowledge that like him, she is just not that into "oysters"?

Actually, Ex-Con, I do go down on chicks, but that's beside the point.

I know what it's like to be in the OP's place and I heard all the reasoning- "If you do it right, it doesn't hurt", if you go slow, it's great"... Some minor but painful damage later, it turned out not to be my cup of tea. Some people love it- heck, the O.P. may end up enjoying it immensely...but, if she doesn't like it, even just a little bit, she should be given a pass on this one.

As for her partner not being expected to experience what she does, well, why the heck not? Why should he not experience this amazing feeling? My point is that he should be absolutely willing to do this, especially if his partner develops a yearning to strap it on and have at him, right? If she goes slow and uses lots of lube, it should be pleasurable for him. Just saying. What's good for the goose is good for the gander, as my dear old gramps used to say.If there was damage, someone wasn't doing it right. Your average poop is no smaller than your average guy is.

But both parties do have to be willing and open to even try. Otherwise the reaction is to clamp down rather than relax. And you can't enjoy it unless you relax. And no you can NEVER force it. The first time or two is going to be uncomfortable. I doubt you liked that first cup of coffee you ever tried. Or that first drink of Booze.

If there was damage, someone wasn't doing it right. Your average poop is no smaller than your average guy is.

But both parties do have to be willing and open to even try. Otherwise the reaction is to clamp down rather than relax. And you can't enjoy it unless you relax. And no you can NEVER force it. The first time or two is going to be uncomfortable. I doubt you liked that first cup of coffee you ever tried. Or that first drink of Booze.

Poop exits. Penii enter. And exit, and enter again... I really think that the act of defecation is different than sexual intercourse. My point is that for some, it's never going to be anything but an -ripping, bad time, and those people should be excused from the act. Also, X seems to believe that as a man, he should be exempt from penetration... I don't believe this is the case.

I don't want to quarrel on the O.P.'s thread, nor derail it... however, I will take further comments through p.m.

Oops... censored. I attempted to write a-s-$ ripping.

Hi guys and Girls,

Ceci is long gone and you are still going back in forth, she may bedoing it or she got the idea that she will not do it, no repond from her from Dec-16th-2008 and today is Feb-24-2009, Thanks.

Hi guys and Girls,

Ceci is long gone and you are still going back in forth, she may bedoing it or she got the idea that she will not do it, no repond from her from Dec-16th-2008 and today is Feb-24-2009, Thanks.

That's only 2 months. People do sometimes come back after 2 months, believe it or not.

If the thread had been two YEARS old, I would have closed it already.

Believe it or not, I do take moderating seriously.

Poop exits. Penii enter. And exit, and enter again...I really think that the act of defecation is different than sexual intercourse. My point is that for some, it's never going to be anything but an -ripping, bad time, and those people should be excused from the act. Also, X seems to believe that as a man, he should be exempt from penetration...I don't believe this is the case.

I don't want to quarrel on the O.P.'s thread, nor derail it...however, I will take further comments through p.m.
A door is a door... this isn't Alice in Wonderland... its as big going through one side as it is going through the other.

The act may be different... but there is a LOT of nerve endings at the Anus that can provide large ammounts of pleasure.

Just because YOU refuse to do it, don't want to for whatever your personal reasons might be doesn't mean most people won't get a lot of pleasure out of it... women as far as the men. Hey its your butt, YOU are losing a chance at a lot of pleasure as well as any guy you will date. (I'm assuming you are female, pardon if you aren't).

And there are a large number of people on this forum who will argue its anything BUT a ***ripping. It's that though process that's preventing you from enjoying it. Sexual Repressions deprive a lot of people enjoyment they would otherwise experience.

Speaking of poop, what if it makes an appearance? Then what? You know, poop happens

Speaking of poop, what if it makes an appearance? Then what? You know, poop happens

Lol...

If it happens then it will just have to be dealt with. After all, it really wants to be done.

So it has to be dealt with in every aspect.

Speaking of poop, what if it makes an appearance? Then what? You know, poop happensThat's why I recommend doing it from 1 hour to 2 hours AFTER you take a poop. The garage is empty and you can park your Suburban in it easily then.

And if there is a tiny bit of poop? Big deal, changing a babies diaper is far worse.

Really Smoothy? I thought men hated diapers. So, in general, do all men enjoy the backdoor?

Really Smoothy? I thought men hated diapers. So, in general, do all men enjoy the backdoor?


I don't know if all men enjoy the "back door" as you put it, but I think most do. I know a few guys who want know part of it. Reading some of the post on this thread I have to agree that for me it does not take the place of vaginal sex but it is a nice change every once in a while. Some women like it some don't. My wife not a big fan but she has had a few pleasurable times with me. Not just something she wants all the time and I respect that. Bottom line its on her terms only.

I don't know if all men enjoy the "back door" as you put it, but I think most do. I know a few guys who want know part of it. Reading some of the post on this thread I have to agree that for me it does not take the place of vaginal sex but it is a nice change every once in a while. Some women like it some don't. My wife not a big fan but she has had a few pleasurable times with me. Not just something she wants all the time and I respect that. Bottom line its on her terms only.

Exactly... not something you do all the time... it's just a thrill!

And enjoyable with someone you love and you do it right together.

Anal sex can be enjoyable once the fear is gone. I introduce anal sex to my fiancé and believe it or not is was nervous on the first go but after that he got over it. We only engage in this sexual act from time to time but like some mention you have to relax because otherwise your muscles will tighten and this makes it hard for your partner to enter and make sure that area is clean. Anal beans must help you too and gradually get you pump for your husband to enter you.

Thank you DSM and SouthernGal. Having experienced this already with my ex-husband, I know what to expect. I'm in a really nice relationship now. The best since the divorce. We're coming up on a year now. So... his birthday is next week and I was just thinking... ; ) Just a little nervous.

Thank you DSM and SouthernGal. Having experienced this already with my ex-husband, I know what to expect. I'm in a really nice relationship now. The best since the divorce. We're coming up on a year now. So.......his birthday is next week and I was just thinking.......... ; ) Just a little nervous.


Well I have to say I think he is going to have a great birthday. I think it is such a turn on when the woman asks for it. I always feel bad bringing it up because I don't want my wife to feel bad for saying no.

Good luck, have fun and relax. You know you guys can have a lot of fun doing stuff to get you ready. The foreplay sex, touching caressing all beforehand just makes the whole night a mind blowing experience. :D

So, DSM, this would be an acceptable b-day surprise for you? I wonder if there's a Hallmark to accompany it.

I'm relieved you think it would be a turn-on. I just don't know his thoughts on it. Yeah, I know. Ask him.

I did once ask him what his likes are in the bedroom; he said everything. Yeah, a little too general of an answer for me. He was so eager to please when we began having sex that I interpreted that to mean "I'll do anything you want me to"!

(He's over 40 and I'm his first long-term girlfriend since his divorce five years ago)

Anyway, I told him that I like being touched there during vaginal sex and he has been "caressing" that area very thoroughly ever since. His latest move is he has inserted his finger while we're having sex and I assured him I liked that, too.

I think he wants to, just afraid to ask.

I over analyze. Thank you

Really Smoothy? I thought men hated diapers. So, in general, do all men enjoy the backdoor?most people hate changing babies diapers. But it goes with the turf. Unless you can afford a live in nanny.

As far as the backdoor goes... if your wife or girlfield is playing around with a well manicured finger while she's giving you head it can take a great BJ right up to mindblowing levels. But then, I have few sexual repressions as a hetero guy. That's not true for a lot of guys.

So, DSM, this would be an acceptable b-day surprise for you? I wonder if there's a Hallmark to accompany it.

I'm relieved you think it would be a turn-on. I just don't know his thoughts on it. Yeah, I know. Ask him.

I did once ask him what his likes are in the bedroom; he said everything. Yeah, a little too general of an answer for me. He was so eager to please when we began having sex that I interpreted that to mean "I'll do anything you want me to"!

(He's over 40 and I'm his first long-term girlfriend since his divorce five years ago)

Anyway, I told him that I like being touched there during vaginal sex and he has been "caressing" that area very thoroughly ever since. His latest move is he has inserted his finger while we're having sex and I assured him I liked that, too.

I think he wants to, just afraid to ask.

I over analyze. Thank you

Ya I think your giving him a great present. As far as the Hallmark card well... that could be so wrong.

If he has no problem touching you down there when you are having sex then I am sure he will be okay with it.

As far as how to bring it up, I can see were that would be awkward. Here's an idea, when you guys are making love and you both are really into it touch his face, pull him toward you and give him a long passionate kiss, start kissing his neck and then whisper in his ear what you want. What you whisper is up to you, But I am sure you can think of something sexy.

Just have fun with it.

It is all up to the guy, most guys just rammed it in there! I start by giving my wife a good massage. When she is nice and relaxed we kiss for a while and then have normal intercourse for a little while. When we are ready we use real heavy lube and then I slowly put a little pressure with the head of my penis. Not all at once, a little pressure than release than a little pressure and release. Doing this makes her muscle relax and slowly open up. Our first time trying anal together I did this and she said it didn't hurt at all. I am about 7" so I am not huge but not small either and even so this technique seems to work really well. My wife was scared at first but now she loves it and says it feels great. Tell your partner to be gentle and nothing is to be done all at once!!

Well, there's a lot of good advice already, but one more thing: try a silicone-based lube. They tend not to dry out like water-based ones and are nice and slippery. Just sort of ease into it, lots of foreplay, stimulation of the area around the opening, relax and take him in sloooowly. Get him to let you lead.
Incidentally, it's useful to practice on yourself with a dildo, just to get used to the feeling and learn to relax your muscles.

Using a lube, start with a finger, then a bigger finger then a bigger finger. Keep tring thefinger maybe for a week or two, until ou dont feel pain then have him use lube, and start with hiss head then a little more and a little more. until you don't feel the pain. Its a long process but take it slow becuz he if do rush and you make him pull out to fast...you could end up really hurt.

im sorry if this was to graphic...i'm just trying to help.

good luck.I think trying to put it in half hard would be like trying to put toothpaste back in the tube lol

i think trying to put it in half hard would be like tryin to put toothpaste back in the tube lol

Who said anything about half-hard? I think the post meant half-way.

Oh, by the way, in case you're feeling like everyone out there who's any good in bed does this... even Jenna Jameson said in an interview she's only done anal a few times, with 3 guys (not at the same time), and she was in love and in a relationship with them at the time. Not even porn stars are comfortable or experienced with doing everything I guess.

Might not be appropriate, but you can tell him the following joke.

A man broke into the bedroom of a couple and the man whispered something in the wife's ear. The husband says, "Do whatever he asks" so we don't get hurt. The wife says to the husband "He wants you".

That's is really funny:D

Very funny

Hi, cece21!

Sure, you can try to ease into such a thing.

However, the bottom line to me would be that those places on the body aren't designed to be joined in that way. Even if you try to ease into it, it might not work.

If you're still uncomfortable even after trying a number of times, then I would like to assume that your husband will be understanding and loving in that regard as to your needs.

Thanks!

I TOTALLY AGREE, maybe ask him if you can do anal sex on him.