My dad left my mom when she was pregnant with me. Why? He had bookies after him... he did some illegal gambling and whatnot and my mom refused to leave the state with him. My mom told me that my step-dad was my father up until I was in the third grade. She then told me that he wasn't and that my real daddy wanted to talk to me. I honestly wasn't affected my that. I was so happy that the abusive prick called 'daddy' wasn't my real father. So I talked to him everyday for a month. One day I came home from school so excited to tell him what happened at school (I won some kind of award lol) and when I called he told me never to call him again.

I was heartbroken.

Then when I met my now boyfriend... he re-found my father for me. I was 17 when he found him and we were reunited. I lived in jersey, he lived in Washington state. We talked a lot made plans to meet over the summer. When I went to meet him he cancelled an hour before. Then changed his number. I found his email address a month ago and emailed him, telling him how I really felt. I left him a number so that we could fix these problems... he calls. We talked for a while. He asked me how college was going and I told him good and what not. E made plans for me to fly out to him for christmas. I legally still live with my mom but I stay in my apartment with my boyfriend all the time. So basically I have two homes. What does he do? Call child cuppost and tells them that I no longer live with my mother. He used me to find out information so he could STOP PAYING CHILD SUPPORT!! I feel so hurt and alone and abused and I love my mom so much and I feel like an idiot to callmy father when my mom took care of me my whole life!

I was in a really really bad car accident last thanksgiving and I broke my whole face, my arm and had bad burns though my whole body. My mom suffered siezes and was unconscious for 3 days. My car was ruined. And of course my boyfriend was there for me but I wanted to support of a parent and when I reached out to him he ignored me and told me that I was fine. Like come on... I don't know what advise I'm looking for I just feel abandoned and alone and used. I just want to know that I'm not alone and what can I do to either make him realized how bad he hurt me or get over this.

Someone please help me. Im so hurt.:(

Sometimes a biological father can be as bad as a stranger at taking advantage. My x was always within a state away and my kids could contact him when they wanted. I didn't put him down the way some parents would but I did caution them that he can be a user and out for himself and other like things. I warned them that when he is showing interest in them he really has an angle to benefit himself. I told them don't get too chatty with him telling him things cause he would find a way to use them against them or me. Through the years he has manipulated and use here and there but since I told them like it was and they could see for themselves they know not to trust him.
One time he asked our daughter to lend him a few hundred dollars and she didn't. He wasn't happy when he saw her buying an appliance for herself instead.
All you really can do is chalk it up to a lesson well learned and try to repair any damage possible as far as trying to help and be supportive of your mom as much as you can.
I hope this helped a bit.

Time can only heel the wounds that you have obtain both emotionally and physically. Another option is to find a male who can positively mentor you, it doesn't have to necessarily be a parent who positively impacts your life, there are a lot of organizations where successful adults volunteer to mentor teens and college students so they can realize their full potenetial.

You sound like a lovely person, don't give him sadisfaction of seeing your hurt. Your better than that. It may be hard but try to move on with your life and some day you'll know what you want to do.