I looked all underneath the car but I guess I need to jack it up higher... is it on the drivers or passenger side, front or back side of the motor?. I'm going to change the oil myself... any help is appreciated...

Jack up car and place on jack stands. The oil filter will be located in the middle of the engine on the back side. Use a cap wrench and 3/8" ratchet to remove the old filter. It's difficult to use a strap wrench on most Hondas. Tighten filter to 16 lb-ft.

This link may help:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/cars-trucks/faq-how-troubleshoot-repair-maintain-hondas-46563-5.html#post617849