Had blown head gasket ,sent head out to have shaved ,put back together can not get timing right ,I can get engine to start if wired 4321 but got 1234 timing 180 out tried everything,
Distributor only go in one way, using haynes manualwhen camshaft sprocket is set with up at top distributor aways points to number 4 cylinder not number 1

It sounds like you set it for TDC on the exhaust, not the compression, stroke.

No I set it at the tdc of the compression stroke.

Don't know then.

It has a over head cam at one end you have the distributor that only goes in one way the other end of the cam you have the camshaft sprocket ,every time to turn the cam and you bring the word up that is on the sprocket the distributor points to number 4 not number 1

Number 1 is at the assesery belt end of the motor right don't the wires have a certain length so if its coils it has to fit that way if its wires it has 4 lenghs?
You should see the word up guess where that goes and two marks opposite each other the two marks should be flat and parallel with the plastic cover behind the cam gear.You may want to check a manual or the internet for pics.

Honda Civic DX Timing Marks (http://autorepair.about.com/library/faqs/bl982d.htm)

What is the compression 95 lbs or better?
0 on 2 valves or more? Is bent valves you didn't get the cam posision wrong to the crank
And /or turn the motor over with the started
Forget the distibutor were they fit one way
That can't go wrong OK? Always turn the motor by hand if it is a new install procedure
For you ask autozone if yer motor bends valves if out of time and turned over some motors wonts some will depend on what one you got OK?

See how to grind yerr own valves at this instruction ? Helpful advice! Relative to head install
valve grinding impromptu (http://www.instructables.com/id/valve-grinding-imprompto/)