To-day my son wrote these words to me, "You wouldn't know anything about me. I need to be me. I am me.You want to know me, it's too late. You have never bothered. I am ashamed I have no dad. I have no bros or sisters. I have you. who are you?"

Yes I am a single mother. Have worked hard to no avail, obviously as the reason I workded so hard is now discarding me. Yes, the Marujania has made differences over the 12 year usage of the "stuff" Since before turning 16.

Before the above words were sent, there was a lot of swearing, etc. Knowing how it hurts me, the words came through like SLAP after SLAP after SLAP.

Hello?

Who uses the marijuana? You or your son?

How old is your son?

Your post is quite hard to understand. Can you clarify it a bit please?

Just sit down with your son. And talk to him. Nice and quietly, just see what specifically is bothering him, and then you can go from there and try to fix things, I have yelled many thing at my parents, and basically all of them I've never meant,

Hello?

Julie, please understand that this is a message board and not a chat room. We are common people who live ordinary lives. We volunteer our time here for free, and, as such, it may take a while to get an answer. Most of our members are currently sleeping, taking care of families, or working at this time of day.

Please be patient, the answers will start coming in time.

S you requested clarification re the pot - my son has been smoking it since before his 16th birthday and that is a total of 12 years.
As you know pot is readily available if you have the money.

Start by acknowledging your son's feelings. Validate them by saying "I know you have negative feelings about me" and "I want to do whatever it takes to improve our relationship."

Ask your son to help you find a solution like "what can we do to make this better?" Communication is key. Write letters if you can't find words. Try to break the communication patterns that have developed over time. Admit to him it's hard being a parent. Tell him of your concerns and your desire to find a better way to communicate. Good luck.

I think he is trying to reach out and open lines of communication.
By his age most kids that resent and hate a parent are to the point where they just simply lash out with "You were never there for me. I hate you and want you OUT of my life for good.''
What he wrote sounds more like a boy crying out for help and desperately wants you to respond in a positive way. So I agree communication and being a part of his life is most important as marvelus said otherwise those could end up being his next words.