Me and my partner have been together for almost 4 years we have a 20 month old little boy and we have had problems ever since I found out I was pregnant his mum and him as well told me I had to get rid of the baby because it was going to be deformed because a couple of months before I fell pregnant I was taking tramadol for my kidney stones and stent well I just put it behind me in the start an it all started to work out well to this day its always in my head and its pushing me away from him and to make things worse he promised on his sons life that he would never smoke pot again because the last two boyfriends I had was on it and both hit me so I'm totally against all drugs but I found out that the one time I finally got to go out and enjoy myself my partner had a friend aorund an smoked drugs while my son was in his care and I don't no what to do I just want my little man to be happy and safe he is my no.1 and always will be any advice on what I should do and we have tired to put the past behind us but it caught up to me and made it all worse please help I want the best for my son...

Sounds like you should go.

You definitely need to go. Would you like to lose your child? Then you don't need your child to be around someone that is doing drugs. Secondly, he doesn't sound like he could ever mount up to be the father type to the child, especially if he is going to do drugs or even associate with people that do them, let alone, around your child. This guy sounds like a loser and I think the things that he and his mother both said about you needing to get rid of the baby, is ridiculous. I don't really see too much positive about this guy, and even you said that your baby is your number 1, so you need to follow through with that. Ger yourself and your son around a good man, if any at all.

Do whatever it takes to protect your son.