Last week my girlfriend wanted a break because she dose not know if she wants to be in a committed relationship now. She also said that sense I'm 19 and she is 16 that I will be starting my life when she is still in high school. We have been going out for 14 months. It seemed like every thing was fine so this was out of the blue. Although she asked me how I knew I loved her if she is the only one I have loved. Just the other day she asked me I I will come to thanksgiving with her. I have only texted her when she texts me. She said that she wants to be friends untell she knows what she wants to do. What should I do? Any help will be great.

Leave her alone and move on with her life. Do NOT be friends with her right now. You can't break up with someone but then ask if they want to be your friend. That is not fair and is flat out selfish. You guys are extremely young and have a lot of changes coming. If she wanted to be with you, she wouldn't ask for a break. It is over, most likely. At least, you need to act like it is over. Sorry for your loss, but is is life.

I agree with KC. Do not be friends with her. I think what happened was she dumped you but then got caught with the sting of the break up so she keeps you around as she brings herself down emotionally.

She is full of excuses and at 16, she is not one to be talking to you about how you know that you love her. She is being very selfish and you don't need to be around for her while she tries to figure out things. I am pretty sure that is something she won't figure out until about 8-10 years from now. Move on with your life and find someone who is mature enough to handle a relationship.

She asked for a break, give it to her, and let her have some space to grow up! Life is waiting for you bud!

16 and 19 is actually a big difference. Are you going to be starting university or college soon?

I will be finnishing my college this year. She will be 17 in jan and I will be 20 in July. We were good friends before we got to gather so I don't know if I want to give that up. Or will it be for the best if I do?

I know how you feel man I have something like this going on too the best thing you can do is keep busy have plenty of nights out with friends let her see you can get on without her if there is one thing I know its girls want what they can't have lol but really every 60 seconds you spend down in the dumps is a minuet of your life gone and you only get 1 shot at it so take things as they come let her be for a bit if she texts you do text back but so as to let her know your still around when she thinks about you but don't beg for her love that will make things a lot worse

OK. That is what I have been trying to do. I told her that I would go to her thanksgiving before we split. Do I still need to go?

I wouldn't make my mind up about that just yet buddy u still have a bit of time to see how things are when it gets a bit closer to thanksgiving you will know yourself how things are going between u 2

All right. Should we hang out very much if she asks? We agreed that we would get togather some time around the beginning ot the year to talk about us

Well face to face is the best way to discus a relationship. I wouldn't hangout 2 much because then she will feel like she never really got her break you no. when ye do meet up don't pour your heart out man stay strong 2 much emotion might scare her

Sounds good. OK ill keep my emotions held in.

Best of luck man it sounds like u really feel for this girl !

Could u have a look at my situation and c what u think

I know that you don't want to imagine your life without her, but don't do the "friend" thing. I'm sorry to say that this relationship probably won't move on much further.

Have you also considered that she is under the age of consent, and you are an adult? It only takes one person to report you, and the relationship the two of you have could mess up the rest of your life. You could even possibly be labeled a sex offender. Think about it, you really could.

I'm not saying this to be mean, I'm just trying to warn you! You obviously have serious feelings for her, but some people may not see it that way, or care for that matter. It is the law. I would be very careful until she is at the age of consent where you live.

16 yr old girls will change their minds often, and to go along with being friends until she makes up her mind is a bad move for you. Stand up for yourself, and don't wait around for her decision. This is your life, and I have a sneaking suspicion if you wait around, you will be twice as hurt and disappointed, and it will take you even longer to get over it.

Wait until you both mature a little bit, and if she comes around when she is a bit older, then that's great! But don't sit around waiting for it.

That will probably be for the best. So are you saying not to be a friend with her untell we decide about our relationship or for good?

Yes, that is basically what I'm saying. You have to realise, that waiting around only makes you look needy. Being friends will only hurt you and you will appear like you are willing to sit at the sidelines while she is in charge of whether she wants a friendship or a bf/gf relationship. If she sees that you are moving on, it may make her take a look and decide what it is that she really wants.