Hi. I am in sincere need of help. My husband had been traumatising me for months in an attempt to make me leave. I don't know if he was trying to make me completely disappear or what. When I found his laptop and back pack he always guarded I discovered he had committed welfare fraud. He had divorce applications filled out, 2 passport applications for him and our son and much more. Upon this discovery I realized his traumatising story to get me to leave was not true. He was also pretending all along that we were a family and he loved me. Although I had a separate apt. from his home and realizing he controlled everything including what I could do and not for many years in relationship with our son, I was never aloud to go over to his home. Never. He would come and stay with me and bring our son. I could go on and on with what I could do and couldn't. We were self employed with a large southwest retail gift shop. He litterly abandoned the store and served me with an order of protection against him and my son. Since I had put in notice to move, and thinking I am going home, in which I now know my husband with his story and committing welfare fraud never really wanted me to come home. He had everything planned with letters I had not been at his house in 2 years etc. to make me look like a really bad mother and saying I had nothing to do with my own son.
Bearing in mind, I also had to move and run the store, I was exhausted, bewildered, really hurting needless to say; hence, vulnerable!
My sister and sister in law flew out to help me, and now it gets worse!

In an effort to summarise the best I can, the Rev and his wife appear at my store and from then on he terrorizes me and all my family telling all of us that he found out from the fraud investigator thet my husband paid escorts to do very depraved acts in front of a minor, and that there were 2 calls to child protective services, and that my son was sexully molested and went into very elaborite sickening details. Also told us my husband hired a big law firm and I didn't have a chance in hell. He talked me into signing a power of attorney excluding any banking or decisions about my son. He tried to get me to kidnap my own son and leave state, said he called the domestic abuse line and I could go under ground etc. He also wanted me to sell my car through a friend of his and wanted to know if I had any jewlry and so much more. We did a 3 way with the mall manager because I was about to be evicted and promised him I could pay much more than the buy out because he had buyers from Dubi and so much more. Now my merchandise is gone, almost $150,000 worth and my family wired money for an attorney and there is no attorney and no motions filed that he promised. So now I ampast the date to respond to the divorce complaint, no money for an attorney, and I can't use legal aide because I find out my husband is using them. I am beyond lost, and I am really hurting and don't know what to do. Can someone please help me!

If hubby committed welfare fraud why isn't he in jail?

Where are you - ?

I'm a little confused - your husband abused a minor, committed deviant acts in front of a minor, and you didn't run to Child Protective Services and report it?

This is all so recent that my husband is still under investigation. I'm in Az.

I am sorry, you and hubby did not live together for 2 years, what in the world did you think was going on,

This smells funny to start with.

And you let some pastor ** he had papers to sign??

Sorry but police on the REV for fraud, and it would ot be kidnaping of your own son, if you really was not "seperated" and no need to go underground. Sounds like the REV was working for hubby.

Sorry for the confusion. According to the Rev. he said that the investigator who is looking into the fraud told him that my husband paid for escort services and that the investigator also told the Rev that their were 2 complaints to the child protective services. I was told the investigator was handling everything and I didn't have to worry. What I think now and so too my family is the Rev was trying to get me to leave so he could take over my merchandise sooner that what he did.
Also my husband and I were self employed and saw each other practically every day. On days we did not, we communicated by phone.

Sorry for the confusion. Acording to the Rev. he said that the investigator who is looking into the fraud told him that my husband paid for escort services and that the investigator also told the Rev that their were 2 complaints to the child protective services. I was told the investigator was handling everything and I didn't have to worry. What I think now and so too my family is the Rev was trying to get me to leave so he could take over my merchandise sooner that what he did.
Also my husband and I were self employed and saw each other practically every day. On days we did not, we communicated by phone.



Again - once you were advised of the abuse of your child did YOU attempt to protect the child?

I am having problems with this whole scenario, including why you would believe anyone (clergyman or not) who told you that someone said something, especially an investigator conducting such a sensitive investigation. I work with plenty of investigators from plenty of agencies and I've NEVER seen a single one give this type (or, often, ANY type) of info to a third party - clergyman or not.

Agree with Judy & Fr_Chuck; this whole story is fishy.

What are you talking about when you say you "signed power of attorney excluding any banking or decisions about your son"? That doesn't make any sense whatsoever.

If you are not legally divorced, then you can pick up your son anytime you feel like it; it's not kidnapping. And as Judy pointed out, what have you done since these allegations of molestation came about? Have you taken your son to live with you in your apartment? Have you taken him to a specialist?