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ANUSHKA86
Nov 16, 2008, 09:40 AM
I'm 22 years old, One years ago I fell in love with a man (30) who lives in my neighbour but he was married. We used to meet casually in park nearby our house during morning & evening walk. He used to come alone as his wife was pregnant. We became good friends soon & developed feelings for each other & shared our feelings with each other. We started hugging & kissing each other & soon we had a wonderful sex. We were so much in love that soon he left his pregnant wife & moved in with me. My wish came true when he said "I'm all yours now". My problem is that I hate his wife who still lives in aprtment which is opposite my house. Though my man nvr cares about his ex-wife & don't even looks at him but I never miss any chance to make her jealous. Whenever I see him outside her apartment I start hugging & kissing my MM to make her jealous. But that's not enough for me I don't know why I hate her so much that I always think of hurting her. May be because she's pregnant? Sometimes I make plans to take legal custody of her kid when he/she will be born by proving her a bad & dangerous mother in court.

xoxaprilwine
Nov 16, 2008, 10:17 AM
Oh I am not sure I can give you a positive answer or a good one for that matter. I will try not to get emotional on this post but I really don't like what's going on.

Firstly, if you know a guy is married and has a pregnant wife why would you meddle in the first place? You know the repercussions of this; that she will be in his life ALL HIS LIFE! So you will need to learn to deal with the fact this ex-wife will be around for a long time so long as they share a child together. You will need to work on your insecurity and self-esteem and getting pregnant will not solve your problem... your what 22? What did I know at 22? Nothing. You have a lot of time to decide if this guy is even someone you want in your life.

Secondly, I am pregnant and if my hubby did that then so be it... his loss, but why would you want to "hurt" his pregnant ex-wife? Why would you be jealous? Do you have any idea how she feels? Do you care about his baby? This next question looks evident that you don't care but... Do you care about how hard things are for her as a direct result of you? He is an _____ because he left her when she needed him most and has nothing to do with her or her baby now so that should satisfy you!. please keep in mind that it is common for men to run from their "responsibility" and how do you know you will not be treated or left the same way? You should have some level of respect for yourself firstly. And come to terms with his ex for your sake. How do you think you would be a fit mother if your emotionally unstable and immature? At 22 are you ready to care and be a step-mom to "their" child? Children are A LOT of responsibly (you think you know but you don't until it happens) and one day you will get that. For example you know that rental movie you watch for 1 1/2 at night... not going to happen... it will be a 3 hour movie or taking a bath... impossible without interruptions, don't even think of just getting up and doing what you want when you want... you have to plan or have a babysitter or it takes you an hour plus your restricted on time... oh and dinners can be a nightmare (temper tantrums) and it will be all around the baby especially when they start to eat on their own and need lots of care and attention (no adult conversation there). Will you neglect that child out of your hate and remorse for his ex? Since you are the new woman in his life it can be frustrating but if you love him and trust him you will let this go and be a support not a pest.

Finally, you are treading on dangerous grounds if you honestly think you are going to take her child away because she is an unfit mother. What evidence of this do you have?. this takes a lot to do in the Courts eyes including $. This marriage has nothing to do with you and if you really want to know what I think... I think you need to step back and come to terms with the facts in front of you and take the mature response of being patient, supportive and understanding... keep in mind that you are not married as a third person (you have nothing to do with "their" relationship)... let him figure it out and just be as supportive as you can and please keep your hands out of his pants "she gets it" and "knows" what your trying to do she isn't stupid and the only person that looks foolish is you.

wikedjuggalo
Nov 16, 2008, 10:27 AM
Where to start?

First off if he did that to his pregnant wife what in the hell will stop him from doing this to you?

Grow the hell up stop acting so immature. That dude has some balls to do what he is doing and I won't be surprised if his wife go crazy on one of you. You are a horrible person in my eyes you help tear apart a marriage. By this I mean you are immature and not only did you know he was married but knew he had a child on the way but still acted in the way you did.

By no means is this guy innocent either. He is scum in my eyes.
If you really want advice get out of this relationship and work on your issues.

xoxaprilwine
Nov 16, 2008, 10:37 AM
I was trying to put it nicely but I agree with wikedjuggalo 100%... you have a lot of "growing up" to do. I could only imagine what you did to his ex being pregnant and the stress on that innocent child... you have balls... I still don't get how you can want to hurt a pregnant lady? That's sick you need to really look inside yourself and find those major "issues". I really don't recommend that you take on the responsibility of assisting in raising his child nor do I think "he" would be a fit father... leave her alone and focus on yourself, move or better yet your 22 go be a 22 year old and live your life... focus on your career or school, party and have fun without someone else's burden. This type of relationship never lasts.

asking
Nov 16, 2008, 10:49 AM
I think you should move somewhere else, so you are not seeing her all the time and she does not have to see you. This is a toxic situation. I know you are still in love with this guy, but I'm guessing he will break your heart. I think you hate the ex wife because you feel guilty about taking her husband from her when she is pregnant and vulnerable. Don't make things worse by tormenting her. It's human to blame her, but you need to rise above that.

To be honest, I doubt that you and this guy will stay together very long. Your jealousy is understandable since you know he is capable of being unfaithful. But your jealousy and his infidelity are a bad combination. The baby's birth will only add fuel to the fire.

You will find peace of mind when you can let go of trying to control what your guy does and what his wife does (are they divorced? Are you married to him?). I seriously doubt you can take her baby from her and it would be extremely wrong to try. Put these bad thoughts out of your mind. As you know, they mainly hurt you.

You need to get some space, calm down, and think about long term goals--where you want to be in 5 years and whether you can happily do that with this man. If he has any interest at all in the baby, then he will be in contact with his ex wife for the next 20 years.

Do you trust him? Look into your heart and really think about this. It's not about what he will or won't do, it's about how you really feel about him. You don't sound like you are emotionally ready to have kids. I hope you are using birth control. Do you have a job you care about? Are you going to school? In the context of a satisfying life, the current drama he has brought into your life is not likely going to make you a whole or better person.

Try to get some distance on your situation. I know it's hard, but step back and think about what's best for you. Passionate love does not last, ever. And how he's been to you the last few months is not an indicator of how he will be long term. Look instead at how he's treating his wife for an indication of how you are likely to be treated in the future.

talaniman
Nov 16, 2008, 01:37 PM
Are you a troll? From your other post you must be great in bed, but as a human being your lacking in any redeeming qualities, so the solution to your problems, is to just wait until the universe flushes its toilet, and you get the crap you deserve.

TrueFaith
Nov 16, 2008, 01:52 PM
You lack everything that is moral and just in this world.

You young foolish child.

I will not help you. You stole a married man away. You are selfish and an ugly person

I can't wait to see your face when all this cames back to you.
What a waist of skin you truly are!

myheart0345
Nov 16, 2008, 02:13 PM
Do what's best for all of you and leave him alone.
Also you really need to get some counseling.

xoxaprilwine
Nov 16, 2008, 02:14 PM
"Let me tell u one thing it's not difficult to seduce any man in this world, specially married men. If his wife is ugly & he's not happy in his married life that means the ball is in your court, u can get him anytime u want. Try to show your emotions & break him emotionally from him family first. When he'll be in your full control don't loose your grip on him. Try to touch him hard, keep on kissing him & hugging me, Have sex with him. I can advice u this cos i did the same with my married lover who's now all mine
Wish u gud luck"

I had a look into your previous posts with regards to married men and how you truly felt about the subject of married men. It appears the OP has fun chasing after married men and disturbing marriages... like a game. This is what you put in your previous post to someone else... my goodness what are you thinking? How can you cut him off from his family? He is having a baby... get use to not having HIS FULL ATTENTION... you are not genuine at all. If you think this type of control is going to KEEP him in your grip you need to reconsider even having a relationship at all you are you're a confused little girl and need to really self-evaluate.

Remember that nothing goes unpunished... its Murphy's Law, its Karma or its whatever you want to call it and when it hits you it will come back three times as bad... it always does. The universe has its way of giving back to you what you give to others... I really hope you reconsider your actions and I am not posting here anymore.

08_777444
Nov 16, 2008, 03:34 PM
ANUSHKA86

You said you want to hurt this pregnant woman and you think the reason is because she's pregnant.

I thought you might want to know that the reason you want to hurt her isn't because she's pregnant, you want to hurt her because you're psychotic.

Psychotic is a term used to refer to someone who suffers from psychosis. You have also exhibited behavior typical to that of a sociopath as well.

Therefore, I thought you might like to read the definition of sociopath and psychosis:

Definition of sociopath:

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1. A person, as a psychopathic personality, whose behavior is antisocial and who lacks a sense of moral responsibility or social conscience.

Definition of psychosis:

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1. A mental disorder characterized by symptoms, such as delusions or hallucinations, that indicate impaired contact with reality.

2. Any severe form of mental disorder, as schizophrenia or paranoia.

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1. A severe mental disorder, with or without organic damage, characterized by derangement of personality and loss of contact with reality and causing deterioration of normal social functioning.

2. A severe mental disorder, more serious than neurosis, characterized by disorganized thought processes, disorientation in time and space, hallucinations, and delusions. Paranoia, manic depression, megalomania, and schizophrenia are all psychoses. One who suffers from psychosis is psychotic.

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1. Any severe mental disorder in which contact with reality is lost or highly distorted.


Now, it is quite clear to the observer that somewhere along life's path you lost your moral compass and your ability to function normally. I am not saying that to poke fun either - you really need to get some help before someone gets seriously hurt. You wanted to know what is wrong with you and that is the answer.

In your other post you talk about how you actually make it a habit to seduce married men, especially the ones with ugly wives. This refers back to the psychoses.

Personally I don't like responding to posts like this because you never know if it is a troll, but a pregnant woman and unborn child, I had to take the chance.

Until she gets help, I'm afraid the rest of society is left to suffer.

liz28
Nov 16, 2008, 06:59 PM
Hmm, so first your wish came true when you got her husband and now you want to take her baby when it is born.

Why you couldn't find someone that is single and have your own baby because I don't see a judge taking you serious but you might give him or her a good laugh.

I guess you feel like you won a prize but there is a such thing as karma and I guess you heard the saying that "what goes around comes around", believe it.