Hi, I need help. I have a four year old stepson who has a meanstreak like no other. I have a two year old son from a previous relationship. My husbands son like to hit, push, kick, bite, and throw toys at my son. He has been doing this for the last 14 months. My husband and I just had a daughter 3mths ago. The last two weekends we had him, we cuaght him kicking the bouncer and the swing while she was in it. I almost went over to spank him but I did not because he is not my kid. All my hunny did to him was sit him on the couch and told him to knock it off. That's what he does all the time when he gets in trouble. I went to say something to my stepson but his father told me to leave it alone. The last time he kicked the swing I grabbed his son and put him in the room and told him what he did to the baby was wrong you can hurt her. I then said to him to sit here for 5 min and think about what you did. When my stepson is here, there is a lot of tension in my home until he goes home to his mom. Now the relationship that my husband has with my son is healthy. He plays with him and corrects him age appropriate. I'm okay with that, but when his son is here he does nothing. He is very blind to his sons behavior. In his eyes his son does no wrong, but when my son acts up occasionally, he is all over it. I've already told my husband that he needs to have one on one time with his son but he refuses to do it. When his son is not here, he is always taking my son out and playing sports with him. My son loves baseball and football and likes to watch it on T.V. That is something that my husband is also very intrested in, but his son hates sports. I have tolerated this beahior with his son for a long time but now he is being mean to an infant and I don't know what to do. My husband is now looking at me like I'm the bad guy now and his son is starting to become a wedge between us. What should I do??

Well what you should have done was discussed all of this while dating as to how to parent.

And yep, a light spanking to me would be a good end to it. But at least a strong word and being put in the corner

Can I assume the step son is not there often, so most likely your hubby does not want to do anything to stop him, because he does not want to be a bad guy.

Parenting classes, I guess you are the first I have sugested this to on here, but they will work with the entire family to enteract.

I agree with the parents classes, but in the mean time you have to keep your children safe.
I know this is a big step but maybe if you tell your husnband that as long as your stepson is a threat to the other children then you will have to step in. I know this will lead to more stress, but what choices do you have for now?