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XxkissesxXX
Nov 10, 2008, 11:58 PM
I'm really scared because I know that my grandparents aren't going to be around for too much longer their 84+87 and all their friends or even family who lived by them has eather passed away or moved.
My familys is trying to get them to move out here where most of their family is but they are too stubborn and don't want to leave home.
I'm only 14yrs. Old and I want to be able to have more of a life with my grandparents
All I ever see them is for 2 weeks in the summer
I love them and I don't know what to do:(
homebirthmom
Nov 11, 2008, 12:06 AM
This is a difficult thing to go through, as I was 12 when my grandmother died, and she and I were very close.
I have no solid advice for you, but I can tell you, Cherish with all your heart what time you do get to spend with them. Do your grandparents have internet access? Even if not, the old fashioned "snail mail" is wonderful. Every week or so, pop a letter in the mail to them, telling them how school, and family life is going. Even a little short and sweet hello letter would make their week, I'm sure. They may even write back.
As for them moving closer, it's very difficult to uproot a family and move to a different location, and for elderly people, I think it's even harder, for their roots go deeper, and most of them, their pocket books don't go as deep.
With you being 14, you are capable of taking care of yourself to a certain extent, have you asked your parents about letting you go to your grandparents' house for a longer duration during the summer so you could spend more time with them? Maybe they would need some help from you, and they probably would love to have their grandchild within reach anytime they felt they needed to hug you. I know my grandparents would've.
XxkissesxXX
Nov 11, 2008, 12:14 AM
I wanted to fly out there for remembrance day so I could spend my birthday with my grandparents (my grandpa has the same birthday)
But they just recently came out here for a week which was a huge step for them and it didn't work going back with them because of school
homebirthmom
Nov 11, 2008, 12:18 AM
This is understandable, as school is very important. I'm glad to hear that they flew out to you, that is a huge step. Though next summer is still many months away, assuming your grandparents are in relatively good health, then perhaps next summer you can spend more time withthem.
XxkissesxXX
Nov 11, 2008, 12:23 AM
Yeah I hope so:(
lrwilkins
Nov 19, 2008, 07:46 PM
Kisses,
I know how you feel. All of my grandparents are gone. Losing them was very hard. My paternal grandmothers death hit me the hardest. So here is what I want you to do. You are fortunate to still have them now. Of course they will not be around forever, but you can make the time that you have with them quality time. And Maybe if you explained how you felt to them and how you want them to move closer so that you can spend as much time with them as possible, they just might do it. Your parents and others may come across as nagging to them. You will come across as someone that really loves and wants them around. Grandparents always want to make their grandkids happy.
My heart goes out to you. I'll keep you, your grandparents, and the rest of your family in my prayers.
Take care Hun.