I am lost... have no idea what to do anymore. I have a 16 year son who is angry all the time. We've had problems with him smoking pot, his grades are horrible, he cusses at me all the time and tries to tell me what to do. He's been skipping classes (he's a sophomore) and I've actually thought about having him homeschooled. Problem is I have a full time job which I am not willing to give up. This last time he skipped school he has been suspended for 3 days as a result. He wants to go to the JVS next year, but I really don't think he'll make it... Do I take him to court and press unruly charges against him? He says if I do he will make my life a living hell and do whatever he can to get in trouble and go to jail... He has made our home total chaos... We have a 12 year old daughter who he absolutely acts like he hates with a passion... shes scared of him. As I'm typing this he is laying on the couch arguing with me about taking a video game back that doesn't work... I've been trying to tell him for the past hour that I cannot take it back without the receipt and he's acting so ridiculous... He hits things... He's put 7-8 holes in his bedroom wall from being angry... Am I making things worse by turning him in?

I have looked at a site that might help you.

Setting Personal Boundaries - protecting self (http://joy2meu.com/Personal_Boundaries.htm)

Find out what you can and write back,

KBC

Iam sooo very sorry for you and your entire family. Its time to put a stop to it. Start bu talking to the school counselor and they can give you great advise and give you personal referrals to other party's that can help. Ive been the same place you are, when I saw what my to younger kids were having to go through, I said enough. I spend the day talking to all sorts of counselors and by the end of the day my son was going to group home for kids who have the same problems. We as parents don't ever want to send a family member away but when you see what is happening to the rest of your family that's when you have to take a stand for all of your family. My son went to this group home he still went to school and there they talked with each about anger and then family members are aloud to come in and the kids just let go and really tell some of the parents off which is good. So what Iam trying to say love him and tell you do daily but be honest and tell him the family can't live like this. So its time for help to make this family whole again... It worked for mine not to say we don't argue still but no where near we use to...
Please let me know if there's anything I can do to help, Iam doing the best I can do now is by praying for you and your family..

Goddd Bless