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ttal_87
Nov 8, 2008, 07:45 PM
Yes I been trying to get pregnant but it seems that I can't conceive what sahll I do.:(

J_9
Nov 8, 2008, 07:46 PM
How old are you? How long have you been trying?

ttal_87
Nov 8, 2008, 08:12 PM
Well I'm 20 yrs old and I been trying for a year and nothing. But the thing is that I had got a shot for like 2yrs agoa and I didn't have a period for about two yrs in jul 08 and this month so I tried again and nothing yet I have a daughter but she is getting big and I want another baby but its just not happening.:(

ttal_87
Nov 11, 2008, 05:58 PM
Please help me figure why I can't get pregnant

DoulaLC
Nov 12, 2008, 01:09 PM
Since it has been two years since the shot, and you have been trying for a year, you may want to consider seeing your doctor to have some testing done.
It may just be your body is still getting back to regular cycles, but there are ways your doctor may suggest to help with that. Sometimes being on birth control pills for a short time, even though it sounds counterproductive, can help hormones come back into balance. There are some herbal supplements that may also help depending on what the problem may be. First thing would be to see if there is a definable problem that can be dealt with.

ttal_87
Nov 12, 2008, 08:42 PM
Thank you for answering my questions. I talked to a soctor about it they isn't willing to help mw cause when I was pregnant with my first child. They found out that I had pancrititus. Which they thought it was my gal bladder which I had told them I had surgery when I was 15 so finnaly they ran some test and they couldn't find out what was wrong with me but till this day they can't figure out and they won't help me until I found out what's wrong with me and what's causeing the pancritius to react but they want me to seee all these doctors money that I don't have right now so I ho,d back all my appt. I just want help to get pregnant so that's what I'm going to do is that... but thanks for helping

super gurl
Nov 15, 2008, 10:11 AM
If you don't have the money to see the doctors then are you sure you are ready for another baby?

ttal_87
Nov 15, 2008, 07:51 PM
Yeah cause there is always help out there to help you out when you get pregnant. The reason I say that is because if I go to my doctors appt. is cause they always want money down before I see the doc. And it adds up but there is a plan that if you are pregnant they will bill you when your pregnancy its over and you can pay in payments...

ttal_87
Nov 15, 2008, 07:52 PM
But I'm so ready for another baby my daughter is about to be three and she has nobody to play with so that's y I want to bring a brother or a sister in the world...

J_9
Nov 15, 2008, 08:08 PM
there is always help out there to help u out when u get pregnant.

Please, I hope you aren't talking about welfare!! I work hard and pay taxes to support people on welfare who have babies just to get a bigger check. Please don't say I am callous or rude, but I deliver babies in a rural hospital for a living. I am a licensed registered nurse in labor and delivery and I hear this all the time. It just sickens me that people expect money for having babies.


they always want money down before i see the doc.

This is because us nurses and doctors have a job to do, it's to take care of you. We deserve to get paid, we work hard for that paycheck. If you can't pay us, how are we supposed to feed our families? Should we ask for handouts too? To pay our student loans that are in the thousands of dollars, for some even hundreds of thousands of dollars... No, we work for a living.


and it adds up

And it adds up even quicker after the baby is born. What if you were the mother of the infant I took care of last night? The one who will be in the hospital for months on end because of complications. Who's going to foot that bill?

I'm sorry to be so harsh, but I work hard for my money and I don't think I should be giving it away if you can't afford the doctor for your pregnancy. If you can't afford the doctor, you can't afford the child.


but im so ready for another baby my daughter is about to be three and she has nobody to play with so thats y i want to bring a brother or a sister in the world...

OMG, this is the most selfish thing I have ever heard in my life!! A 3 year old cannot play with a newborn. Plain and simple.

ttal_87
Nov 15, 2008, 08:11 PM
I know that but she plays with our friends baby's and to me she loves baby's and I know they can't play with a newborn but when they grow up she can.

J_9
Nov 15, 2008, 08:15 PM
Then wait until you can afford it. If you can't afford a doctor, you surely cannot afford formula, diapers, food, clothes, doctor bills, vaccinations, etc.

I don't even want to tell you how much the hospital bill will be for the infant I had last night, will have tonight, tomorrow, and possibly for weeks to come. You can't predict the outcome of every pregnancy.

ttal_87
Nov 15, 2008, 08:16 PM
Well you say that I can't afford the pregnancy or the doctor or a baby well how did I do it the first time and to me I think my daughter is in the best of health and me and her dad gives her everything she wants and I can afford a doc. And to be pregnant just put your shoes in why shoes and you will see what I mean its really hard these days I don't know who you are and don't know your life but I just want answers to help me...

ttal_87
Nov 15, 2008, 08:19 PM
I know what the doc. Bill looks like my husband has a good job and I know he can afford. Cause he would do anything for his daughter. And in the future

J_9
Nov 15, 2008, 08:21 PM
well u say that i can't afford the pregnancy or the doctor or a baby well how did i do it the first time and to me i think my daughter is in the best of health and me and her dad gives her everything she wants and i can afford a doc. and to be pregnant just put ur shoes in y shoes and u will see what i mean its really hard these days i dnt knw who u are and dnt knw ur life but i just want answers to help me ...

I can't read a word of what you wrote. Please review the site rules, text speak is not permitted and can be deleted.

I have been in your shoes, I have 4 children. But I planned on them, I paid for them by myself, with the help of my husband. My oldest child is older than you.

I did not rely on public assistance to pay for my doctor, I paid for it myself. Yes, it's hard these days!! But if you can't afford to pay for a child yourself, don't get pregnant.

ttal_87
Nov 15, 2008, 08:25 PM
But if you don't want to help me that's fine I don't know why we are talking about our lifes. If all I want is answers to my questions that I ask but thanks for you time and your answers I really appricated.

J_9
Nov 15, 2008, 08:53 PM
Look, we are talking about this because you say that there are programs available to you if and when you get pregnant. Who funds those programs? ME, THE TAX PAYER!! That's who. So, if you can't afford the doctor's bill... DON'T GET PREGNANT just to have a playmate for your 3 year old. Many only-children have had wonderful lives without siblings.

ttal_87
Nov 15, 2008, 08:58 PM
Yeah but I want a big family there are a lot of familys out that don't have money and keep getting pregnant and I c them getting help for it why can't I?

J_9
Nov 15, 2008, 09:04 PM
Go for it... get on welfare... depend on us taxpayers who work for a living and we can't even put food on our tables.

Does it make you feel better to take food out of other childrens' mouths? Well, that's what you are doing if you end up on welfare.

ttal_87
Nov 15, 2008, 09:27 PM
My husbands pays taxes also and I'm not depending on welfare but it would be helpful,wont't u tell that to everybody that who are single moms and, low income people that don't have money to put food on the table do to they get blame also.. all I was asking is answers and you have to bring all this up about taxes and welfare I was just thinking about it but I have good innsurance that will pay for it... im just worried about the bill that's all
And besides I don't think I would get approved cause my husband makes too much money

DoulaLC
Nov 16, 2008, 04:08 PM
yeah but i want a big family there are alot of familys out that dnt have money and keep getting pregnant and i c them getting help for it y can't i?

The money is there for those who truly need it, when they fall on difficult times, for temporary support. It is not to be used as a back up plan or to supplement your income. Just because something can be used, doesn't mean it is right to use it. It depends on the situation and circumstances.
If your husband has a good job, makes good money, and you have insurance, then affording another child shouldn't be an issue.

If your doctor isn't willing to help you with becoming pregnant until you look into your health concerns, then it would be wise to deal with those first. Above all else, you want to be in the best health you can be before you become pregnant again so that you can be doing all that you can to insure a healthy pregnancy and baby.

For now, start putting some money aside until you have enough to cover your co-payments for the specialists that you need to see. Make some phone calls and find out roughly what you will be looking at cost wise so you will know what you need to stash away. Insurance will pick up much of the costs and you can set up a payment plan to pay off your portion. Then you can focus all of your attention on getting pregnant again.

ttal_87
Nov 16, 2008, 06:27 PM
Well thanks for understanding, I really preciated but I will look forward into the cost of getting pregnant and the bills I know its going to be expensive but we want another child and right now I just took a pregnancy test and it said it was negative but I'm 3 days late on my period so I'm just going to have to c my doctor again and see what they can do. But thank you for your support on answering my questions if you can help me by ansewing my questions I will appricate it cause I know that your job is very innportant to you and I respect that but all I ask is that you can help me is that a lot to ask .

DoulaLC
Nov 17, 2008, 04:35 AM
No, it's not asking a lot, but we have given you suggestions and you say you aren't in a position right now (money to see these other doctors) to act on those suggestions, so there isn't much more that can be offered.

It could very well be the pancreatitis is what is keeping you from conceiving as this plays a role in several of your hormones. You may become pregnant even without their help, you may not.

Until you are able to see to having your condition addressed, try to have sex every other day throughout your cycle, watch for changes in your cervical mucus that may mean your body is preparing to ovulate, maybe try temping and charting or using ovulation predictor kits for a few months to see if you notice a pattern, get some regular exercise and eat well.. taking a good multivitamin if need be (partner should do these things as well), but these are about all you can do for now until your doctors are willing to do more. You may even consider seeing another doctor to get another opinion.

Three days late on a period is not unusual, your period may still show up, if not, try another test in about a week and see what results you get. Good luck!

ttal_87
Nov 17, 2008, 04:04 PM
Thank you for the help.

tata85usa
Nov 24, 2008, 12:54 PM
J-9

You are write , I used to work and go in collage, I worked entire night, and 8 am I was in a school, I never thought to go to welfare ( I was eligible , even I paid my school by myself) I was shamed how person who has two hand and feet can t work and went to someone to get help , and someone who worked all night need to pay taxes just the someone’s kids had a fun , ( and one week ago in a radio they sad that in Philadelphia 50% of people does not pay for gas , and that’s why they got a new low, increase bill to pay for rest of them) and also my friend told ,she got ccis ( pays for daycare) but the toddler is home she and owner of daycare getting money from ccis , and the are dividing between each other