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chickenwing
Nov 6, 2008, 12:43 PM
I am 18 years old and there is this man that has truly taken my heart and doesn't even know it. He is much older than me (about 20+ years) and I met him when I was helping him coach his little daughter's team. He is married and I feel absolutely awful to feel this way about him and I know I shouldn't. I ask myself over and over if I'm just a little nuts or if I'm just a fool. But I have never felt like this for someone before ever. I know I'm young, and most people would say that I don't know what love is. Maybe I don't, but what if this was it? I've never felt like this before about anyone. We just connect and we instatntly clicked. I feel the best when I am just near him, I cannot express what I feel in words! What the heck do I do? Because I know he is married and has children, so I should just turn the other way right? Let me tell you, I have tried, but have gotten no where. There is even this cute guy my age that is an awesome, awesome person, but I just have to interest to pursue, because this coach that I help is always on my mind, and in my heart. WHAT DO I DO? I am so confused as to why I feel like this! Is it security? Maturity? Love? Could it really be love? Could someone please help me out a bit, or at least relate to this most outlandish situation?

talaniman
Nov 6, 2008, 01:43 PM
You know what to do, don't act on those intense feelings, and nothing will happen. It leads to nothing but misery, pain, heartache, and trouble.

We all get those intense feelings, but we don't let them over rule good common sense.

Why ruin a chance at healthy love, with a young, available, single, and free guy, because you don't know how to cope with your own feelings, when they can lead you down a screwed up path?