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missinher2much
Nov 1, 2008, 08:37 AM
My ex broke up with me about a month ago and I thought to myself why it went wrong.So now I want to ask her for another chance.Should I do it, If so do I wait a little longer or should I just go for it? I really really want this girl back... Please help.

talaniman
Nov 1, 2008, 08:49 AM
Has she been in contact with you in that month since the break up??

missinher2much
Nov 1, 2008, 08:53 AM
Only a couple of times but we didn't talk about our relationship

talaniman
Nov 1, 2008, 09:12 AM
Why did you break up, and how old are you, and how long had you been in this relationship?

We need more info and background.

missinher2much
Nov 1, 2008, 09:14 AM
She broke up with me. I'm 17 she's 16. 8 months and 3 months before that.

talaniman
Nov 1, 2008, 09:42 AM
Without knowing the why of this break up, I hope your doing other things with other people to balance your life, and let you heal. She may only want friendship, but you want more. In that case, any contact will keep you attached to her.

Thats why No Contact at all, allows your emotions to settle, and see if its false hope you have, or if its real what your feeling.

Do nothing, see how you feel later. Don't be in a hurry as it takes some time.

BMI
Nov 1, 2008, 10:03 AM
Tal is right.

What I would consider is has anything changed? She broke up with you, you miss her, but what has been solved or addressed in terms of why you broke up.

Unless you think she misses you a lot (no evidence of this) what makes you think she wants you back so soon?

Finally, you did not provide a lot of information so I cannot really say you should go for it or not. Though its wise to remember that if she does say no you will feel much worse than you do now. I'd wait and see if she opens up, if not than start distancing yourself.

missinher2much
Nov 1, 2008, 10:33 AM
Thanks guys