You know guys, I've been reading all the advice and perspectives that you guys have been giving me about my past relationship (horrible and confusing experience) since my first posting. And you have been giving me excellent advice, even though at first my thought process was:


"O thats not her...she's not that kind of girl...she's different!"

But the more time goes by and the hurt starts to melt away day by day... I start to see those perspectives. Everything from... she doesn't want you... she doesn't love you... go no contact (was hard for me but I'm doing great at it now), its not meant to be... you gave her everything... you wasn't a challenge enough for her... she lost interest... etc... etc Just going back and reading everything. A lot of good info.

To be honest and straightforward, if I would have never came to this site I would kept making the same mistakes over and over and over again. Believe me!


I've learned so much about me personally, a woman's mind and relationships!

But the only problem that I have now is that I still tend to beat myself up, and blame myself for her changing on me. But that's slowly going away also.

But right now my main focus is on ME! And me only! I will never make someone a priority in my life, while I'm just another option to them. But I do know that she's not the only good, smart, christian, beautiful woman out there. There's more where that came from. (Even though its hard to see that at the moment sometimes)


Just on here venting thats all...alot is on my mind right now...

You are beginning to see the light. Nice. They say that you should make yourself busy after a rough break up to keep your mind occupied. Being on here is almost like volunteer work, since you have ample opportunity to help those out who are going through similar situations, only do not see the light ahead just yet. It always does good to help people, especially when you yourself are still hurting. Nothing fills a void like generosity towards others.

You know I blamed myself for all my relationships going wrong ,them turning nasty on me and after I found this site I realised that non of it was actually my fault.all the years id spent blaming myself and putting myself down,telling myself I don't deserve to be happy etc now I know I deserve to be happy [AND I AM] I have a wonderful boyfriend,2 wonderful kids,a beautiful new house,I deserve it all
And so do you and so does everybody else
We all deserve the best we can get

I'm glad you are feeling better.

Remember its not just us. It takes You as well to listen and to learn and to filter in what works best for you :)

Don't beat yourself up too much.
We learn something new everyday

You are beginning to see the light. Nice. They say that you should make yourself busy after a rough break up to keep your mind occupied. Being on here is almost like volunteer work, since you have ample opportunity to help those out who are going through similar situations, only do not see the light ahead just yet. It always does good to help people, especially when you yourself are still hurting. Nothing fills a void like generosity towards others.

Yeah... key word "beginning to see the light" But I'm to keep myself busy as much as I can and trying to not think about her at all.


But going through this situation allows me to be able to help other people on here who are going through the same situation as I am...

you know i blamed myself for all my relationships going wrong ,them turning nasty on me and after i found this site i realised that non of it was actually my fault.all the years id spent blaming myself and putting myself down,telling my self i don't deserve to be happy ect now i know i deserve to be happy [AND I AM] i have a wonderful boyfriend,2 wonderful kids,a beautiful new house,i deserve it all
and so do you and so does everybody else
we all deserve the best we can get


Yep! And after all I have done for other people, being there for people, and putting my heart and my feelings out there...


I DESERVE THE BEST ALSO...AND DESERVE TO BE HAPPY...AND DESERVE THE BEST...