confused06
Oct 23, 2008, 11:12 AM
Please help, I'm having a hard time with my husband, we have been living in different countries for a while now (almost a year) I have recently found out that he has had a lover there, we have been married for about 2 years, we have spoken about the affair and I have made it really clear how hurt and betrayed I feel. I have asked him why he has done it and he says he doesn't know, he says that its probably because he feels alone that I am not around, and that reality is that men do cheat, he says that it doesn't mean anything that its only about the sex, he says that in reality men are dogs and that when they get horny it just happens without them even thinking about it. He says he loves me and that he doesn't want to lose me he says I'm his wife and that he will never leave me for nothing or anyone. He realizes what he has done is wrong and that he will try to make me happy but he wants to be realistic that the truth of the matter is that he doesn't know if it will happen again. But he says that if by any case it does he will tell me truthfully. He says that he wants to be truthfully no matter what, that its just simply sex. While I'm writing this I'm getting more and more confused, can a man really love his wife but have passionate moments with another? And its not like I never gave him sex and we were together I think I gave him more than he can keep up with but I'm confused he wants me to wait for him but yet he wants me to be understanding that its just needs :confused: I want to save my marriage but I'm feeling a little devalued (is that a word?) I'm feeling like I'm being played with... anyone any suggestions??