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Oct 22, 2008, 06:03 PM
I have a problem... So my ex and I split about 2 months ago. It was pretty mutual. We both know we stayed together way longer than we should.
So we share the same friends, one in particular. We both met him separately. We both stopped talking to him for a while until he popped back into our lives. He became my good friend and my ex's best friend and now just good friend. So, what happened was that I was attracted to him... I had a crush on him while I was still with my ex. The friend also felt the same though I didn't know that at the time. Me and him have been talking a lot more since the break up. We've always flirted, and I thought it was harmless except a few days ago it went some place I never thought it would. He revealed that he had always had a crush on me and that he didn't do anything about it because I was with my ex, but now that I'm not with him anymore, he wanted to do something about it.
Problem = He has a girlfriend now... but he's in an open relationship so he's allowed to see other people. So I said OK, we'd give it a try except that we're friends and we both like being friends and I don't want anyone getting hurt. I'm not sure how much I really like him and I don't want him to fall for me or anything like that and then have our friendship be ruined. So we talked about this and he said he didn't want to hurt me either, but that he was willing to go for it because of how long it's been that he's liked me. It's been 3 years.
So we were supposed to get together last weekend, but that didn't work out for various reasons. Then I had an incident and had to go to the hospital. My friend was with me and didn't know who else to call because I have no family around, so she called my ex. He came to see me. I told my friend this. After that day, we went from talking a good amount to barely talking at all. It's weird now and if we do talk, it's short and to the point. Definitely not the same as before. I don't understand what happened. I want to ask if something is wrong... not because of the whole crush thing, but just because we were friends to begin with and I don't want to lose the friendship. Should I give him a few days and see what happens?
So we share the same friends, one in particular. We both met him separately. We both stopped talking to him for a while until he popped back into our lives. He became my good friend and my ex's best friend and now just good friend. So, what happened was that I was attracted to him... I had a crush on him while I was still with my ex. The friend also felt the same though I didn't know that at the time. Me and him have been talking a lot more since the break up. We've always flirted, and I thought it was harmless except a few days ago it went some place I never thought it would. He revealed that he had always had a crush on me and that he didn't do anything about it because I was with my ex, but now that I'm not with him anymore, he wanted to do something about it.
Problem = He has a girlfriend now... but he's in an open relationship so he's allowed to see other people. So I said OK, we'd give it a try except that we're friends and we both like being friends and I don't want anyone getting hurt. I'm not sure how much I really like him and I don't want him to fall for me or anything like that and then have our friendship be ruined. So we talked about this and he said he didn't want to hurt me either, but that he was willing to go for it because of how long it's been that he's liked me. It's been 3 years.
So we were supposed to get together last weekend, but that didn't work out for various reasons. Then I had an incident and had to go to the hospital. My friend was with me and didn't know who else to call because I have no family around, so she called my ex. He came to see me. I told my friend this. After that day, we went from talking a good amount to barely talking at all. It's weird now and if we do talk, it's short and to the point. Definitely not the same as before. I don't understand what happened. I want to ask if something is wrong... not because of the whole crush thing, but just because we were friends to begin with and I don't want to lose the friendship. Should I give him a few days and see what happens?