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benrrrrrr
Oct 22, 2008, 09:04 AM
Rite guys and gals try help me out I have been in a relationship for 6 months with this amazing girl I know from work its been going great but in the last week we have you argued over quite petty stuff, now she has told me before its OK it happens in every relationship, which is true anyway. But last week she confesed to me she still cares for me but doesn't know whether she still loves me or not now she wants at least a fortnight to get her head clear to see what she really wants etc no communication between us at all even tough we work one day together I'm confused myself .now I'm thinking she is prolonging the breakup, but people tell me wait see what happens. People tell me to break it off I don't know what to do because before all of this we both made our feelings vey clear that we loved each other make each other happy and you may say this is mad but want to spend our life together now my theory is she is like this because we allways spend time together that we have spare when she is not at college and I'm not at work and she never gets time alone I have no idea people I have text her saying if she is really just prolonging the inevitable I got no reply but her mum has also said to me that she does need just a week even maybe a fortnight just to have time to herself now I love her to bits she knows this so why is she putting me through so much pain and is it true that she could just be prolonging it because can a relationship really go back to the same when she has said she is confused and doesn't know whether she loves me or not I am so confused pleaseeeeeee helpppp meeeeee

talaniman
Oct 23, 2008, 08:49 AM
I have been in a relationship for 6 months

So how long did you date before the relationship??


We both made our feelings very clear, that we loved each other, make each other happy, and you may say this is mad but want to spend our life together

Yeah it feels like that in the beginning, for most of us. Then reality sets in.

My best guess she and you have moved a little to fast and she isn't ready for such long term thinking.

Why? / because the newness is wearing off, and she has to adjust to the idea of what you two have committed to.

You need to just date, and have fun, and see where it leads, and get to know each other.

No way is 6 months enough time to really know each other, despite the intense feelings , or proclamations, young love makes.

Too much, to soon, crash, and burn.