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Aoner1
Oct 20, 2008, 11:44 AM
Well, I'll start this off by introducing myself... I'm a 23 yr old guy, still living with my parents. I grew up in a loving household (for the most part, my dad's a jerk, that's another story), which would probably explain why I have an unbreakable affinity for long term love realtionships. I have 2 questions-

Since I broke up with my girlfriend of 2.5 years... I've been living a very socially active lifestyle. I did the right thing and embraced the fact that I'll probably never be with her again... I've been partying, going to bars, meeting people, having great sex, etc. But I still am extremely unhappy.

It's been about... 5-6 months of this and it seems I can never find a girl I can trust. It's like my attitude of being "happy with life" is attracting girls who are just looking for sex, nothing more. Or, they are just... not trustworthy. Is this usually the case? Am I looking in all the wrong places? If so, where should I be looking? Should I be looking at all? Maybe I should just keep doing this, and she'll pop up one day?

Second question-

I've been dating this girl for a month or so. She's quite the flake, but she loves the sex. We were hanging out once a week, going out, eating dinner, going back to my place. But last night she completely blew me off. No phone call, no text... nothing. She's done this once before but I let it go because, hey, it happens. But what do I do this time?

Should I-

a) ignore her next time she texts me
b) get pissed off
c) forgive her when she calls, and set up another date

By the way, she's very good looking.
(and yes, these are the types of girls I keep hooking up with. Good looking, flakey women.)

JBeaucaire
Oct 20, 2008, 12:36 PM
Except for recreational sex, you're probably going about this the right way. You do need to get out there and be with girls. If your life doesn't include activities that put you in contact with quality candidates to peruse based on character, dating girls you're attracted to by looks is the next logical step.

It's a numbers game, except for the sex. The more women you date, the more likely you are to finally stumble upon one of the ones that fits into your LIFE instead of just your bed. It's a hard line to walk, but you have to keep at it. Except for the sex.

I'm sorry to harp on the sex since I know it's the only thing you're actually enjoying at this point. But that's part of my point. Your penis doesn't define you, but you keep pointing that thing at girls and I promise you the universe will eventually conspire against you and you WILL have baby issues. But you know all that... I'm just saying it out loud again. Once that happens, everything that comes after will be partially controlled by other people, and I doubt that's what you want... yet.

So, except for the sex, you should stay out there and keep doing the work. She's out there.
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EDIT:
As for the flake you're currently dating, it doesn't matter what you do. She's not what you want anyway.

SimpleguyJoe
Oct 20, 2008, 12:41 PM
So she is a flake why even bother with it if it's not what your looking for? For all you know it's because she is with her other BF. I would choose B. and if your not enjoying it just break it off before it becomes something much harder to deal with. There is a girl out there somewhere. Maybe bars and clubs just are not the best place to look. As to where to look, just keep an eye out she might even just find you.

demonicevil247
Oct 20, 2008, 05:38 PM
If what you are looking for is long term relationships why are you going for the women you consider being with any other women? I say that if you insist on looking for the right girl in those places set your standards on what you are looking for and stick to them. If you keep looking for her she will pop up. Speaking from a woman's mouth. Your special someone will be looking for you too so when you find her you will know the difference between the flake and her. To answer your second question. Break it off. Why stay with someone you do not think is "your type", and is not a woman who you would settle for?

Aoner1
Oct 21, 2008, 02:22 PM
why stay with someone you do not think is "your type", and is not a woman who you would settle for?

Because she's pretty, and has a vagina. :p which is probably the reason women can walk all over me. I'm powerless over a pretty face.

Thanks everyone. Maybe I should change back to the person I was before I met my ex... well, a refined version. :D

JBeaucaire
Oct 21, 2008, 03:23 PM
because shes pretty, and has a vagina. :p which is probably the reason women can walk all over me. I'm powerless over a pretty face.

thanks every1. Maybe I should change back to the person I was before I met my ex... well, a refined version. :D
No "maybe"... you absolutely can.