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moonmother
Oct 19, 2008, 02:21 PM
Hello to all,
If I might, could I ask a question please? I was dating a man that I enjoyed being with very much. However, after a short time of dating and having a great time, he called and told me that we could no longer see one another because he felt like he was cheating on his wife. She has been dead for 2 years. I feel bad for this man, but don't understand the process of grieving. I am blessed to have not lost anyone close to me yet. What is your advice or insights? Thank you so much.

jaime90
Oct 19, 2008, 03:48 PM
I would definitely respect this man, he obviously cared/cares a lot about his wife. I would be there for him, but would not pressure him into anything more than a friendship. I wonder if his wife would want him to consider re-marrying or not.

Amber101
Oct 19, 2008, 04:11 PM
It is obvious that he is not over his wife's death yet and he is finding it hard to move on. I think you should give him some time but be there for him as a good friend. He will let you know when he is ready. The last thing you want is to enter a relationship where a man including his thoughts is not fully committed to you. Only time will tell.

450donn
Nov 5, 2008, 01:51 PM
It is fairly obvious that he has not finished with his grief process. He could be stuck in stage 2 grief and may never move on. As a concerned friend you might suggest that he get some professional grief counseling to help him deal.

rafvrt
Jan 15, 2011, 05:41 PM
Go on over to iTunes and have a listen to Hard Time Movin' On by David Bradley, it may help. You can hear some on his website also. Just Google. Hope it helps!