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Jonny_br
Oct 17, 2008, 09:04 AM
I am not starting a flame about how life is meaningless or that teenager unconformism things... I just want to say out loud how I feel and what's my doubt.

I've posted before that I'm 20 and never had a relationship, it's fair enough to say that I have a socializing problem a I'm the owner of the lowest self steem ever, I'm trying not to let it come in the way while I try to read the posts here.

Reading out this forums (the realitionship forums), I've come to perceive how we ,human beings, may be damn confusing and I got the perception that a basic part of relationship is basically suffering , not just rejection but actually doubts and being used - I know it's a half perception but it's how I came to feel , I can't possiblily notice what's the "income" to engadge on relationships?

I mean, I feel like everyone - I feel the lack of relationships - but right now my though is: like angry, which is better repressed, I should repress this feeling.

Bural21
Oct 17, 2008, 10:50 AM
Relationships are meaningful because they help us grow as people and they help us find what we want in life. They give us fun experiences and so on. Don't let yourself esteem get in the way. I guarantee if you act confident, you'll get more in the end. Relationships may seem tough to some, and we ALL have moments where we make mistakes and get hurt - but it's a growing process. I don't don't if I answered anything... but I hoped I could help, even a little. Good luck, and let confidence shine!

TrueFaith
Oct 17, 2008, 11:27 AM
You can put that view to anything in life

What's the point of ANYTHING really

In this grand univers where it takes a 100.000 years travaling at 299 792 458 M/S just to see our little Galaxy.

And another 150 billion years to view our known univers

It kind of makes you think Hmmm. Me talking or not talking to this girl won't make that much of a cosmic difference, and you are right

But we don't live that big do we. We live mostly from day to day, and everything we do is to make ourselves feel better. And being with someone that loves you and cares for you

Even if it is only for a short time. Its still worth doing it.
Yeah people cheat yeah people lie.
But if you notice on this board and everywhere

We always seem to come out on top. We find other things in our lives, it makes us stronger,

There is always a reason why we do things.
You will get there.

The first thing you need to do before thinking about a relationship is work on yourself esteem and confidance.
Be proude of who you are no matter what,
And the rest will all just fall into place trust me

Best of luck

kctiger
Oct 17, 2008, 11:32 AM
Point of relationships: It is your capacity to love that makes you a human, and your choice of who to love that makes you free. Without love and without relationships we wouldn't exist. All things come to an end. ALL things do. It is dealing with their ending that we find out who we truly are and what we are truly capable of. Don't worry about finding a relationship. It will find you, believe me. Life happens. When it does happen, let it! Don't be afraid of being hurt. Letting go of our fears is the first step towards happiness. I am going through a PAINFUL break up right now, but it was all worth it... always will be! And that is one more person, although we are and never will be together, that I will love forever.