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h0llister
Oct 16, 2008, 08:58 PM
Hello, as most of you know, I'm single now (after a 2 year long relationship) and a lot of the guy friends that I have are wanting to date me now. I don't want to lose a lot of my guy friends but yet a lot of them want to date me. (im guessing they have liked me for quite sometime but never told me because I was in a relationship) Is there a way to tell them no and still be friends? Guys opinions please! Or girls experiences with this! Thank you so much everyone!


And p.s. on 4th day of NC and loving it :)!!

spyderglass
Oct 16, 2008, 09:25 PM
You could just tell them you want to take a break from dating right now.

sunshinesmiles
Oct 16, 2008, 09:48 PM
Yep.. definatley be nice about it.. but you have to set boundries and let them know that you are content with being single and that you value there friendship.

jjwoodhull
Oct 16, 2008, 09:50 PM
Be nice, but firm. Tell them you think of them as great friends, but you need time for yourself. Ask them to be respectful of your wishes.

And some advice - you should take a little time for yourself before moving on to a new relationship.

h0llister
Oct 16, 2008, 10:37 PM
Thank you, I know I am totally not ready for a relationship!! I'm still emotionally messed up a bit! I just am hoping when we hangout they don't start hitting on me and stuff! I'm not ready to deal with it. But thank you for the advice!

JBeaucaire
Oct 17, 2008, 01:02 AM
How about, "You're my friend. Nothing's going to change that, so that means we're going to keep acting like friends. Agreed?"