Well it all started a year and half ago. I was 21 and she was 18. We met over a friends house. She chased after me and we evetnually started dating and were happy. We didn't see that we had much in common at first and almost broke up after a month but we stuck through it and grew really close in that last week before she left for college that is 5 hours away. We did good while she was there and we realized that we were falling in love. 3 months later in the relationship we tell each that we love eacher other and I give her a promise ring. It made her so happy and me happy. Fast forward... winter went well and we got through her firsat year of college without any problem.. I would visit her and she would come home a few times. The summer following her first year was great. We see each other almost ervyday and we grew so much closer. On the last day we had together before we stared her 2nd year we cried to eacher and realized how much we mean to each other and she said at the momment she thought we would be together forever and that I was the one for me. It was 4 weeks before I would come see her. At that point she was so stressed over school and it was affecting her health and she was always sick and upset. When I came to see her it wasn't like last year hen I would see her. Last year she was so excited and happy to see me after a few weeks. But this time she's seemed different and I thought it was because she was so stressed and sick. I left that weekend and the following week we had a tiny fight.. I started it because I was pissed that she wasn't making enught time for us to communicate. OK sorry let me break from the story and add something. Her first year she didn't really get along with her roomates and only really found a firned with this one guy . She said that her would comforte her when she was feeling down and when she was crying over me. I thoguht nothing of him because I trust her. But eventually I was see signs of somehting more between them such as she would have a custom ring tone for him. She only had custom ones for him and me.. also he had him titled as best friend in her phone and a heart near it.. I mentioned it to her and told her it was weird and I let it go. OK back to story. We had the tiny fight over the time issue and I brought the other guy up and was wondering if he had anything to do with it. She said no but she doesn't know what she's feeling about us anymore. I was worried sick about it but she wanted to get through the week until she came home the following weekend to think about it. So she comes home and I get right into it because I am so worried and I need to know what she's thinking and feeling. That that point all she knows is that being at school and since it was so much harder that she doesn't think we can make it throguth the long distance thing. She also sad that she doesn't feel like I'm the one and all the stuff. It came out of nowhere to me. She kept saying that she feels pressured from me in the apsect to where I do think about the future and I do see us together but she's gets scared I guess and she doesn't see us together because it was be so hard. So other things were said and that was the night. The next night comes and we talk again. I get a few more answers out of her. She says she's being getting feelings about us not being right and her heart says it isn't right for her to have a long distance relationship right now. Keep in mind while she says all this she also says she's doesn't know why she started feeling this way and that all she needs is time to think. So I went home and did dthinking and went back over her house. The only idea I can come up with is that we break up for now so she an sort things out . I mainly broke it off because I couldn't wait until she's figured it all out because it would kill me insdie and worry so maybe ending it now it help me cope better if she finally decides that she doesn't want me. We talked and cried for a while and she give me ome reaons but also says she's can't think straight and she's so confused and that all she needs is time. I don't know if she's being thruthful by saying that she's doesn't think I'm right for her or if it is an excuse because she's so confused. I'm thinknig she's really confused because of all her stress in colleger and the way its effecting us and her health. We end the night by her saing that her heart is telling her this isn't right for her and she can't deal with the long distance anymore. But she still loves me and this is that last thing she wanted and she didn't want to hurt me. I'm not getting mad at hr the whole time I was in shock because it came out of nowhere especially since a few weeks ago we both think we wqere going to be together forever. I'm trying to reason with her the whole time by sayng she making a big mistake and that college is changing her. She's not realizing it. I tell her that if she truly loves me then she would do whatever it takes to make it work because I am willing to do whatever it takes and I don't want to lose her. She doesn't seem to comprehend andything I'm saying. She says she's confused and needs time. What do I do. Should I back off and let her have time to think and hopefully by us not being a couple she will realize what a big mistake she's making? I can't give her too much time and it won't be fair to me waiting around feeling like crap and drepressed. I need to start moving on because I can't get through her head and make her realize what we have is special and we can make it work.. we already got through a year of it. I still love her so much and I know she loves me. What do I do and anyy suggestions on what she's thinking or really feels?

My long distance boyfriend(now ex) of 1year and half.. did that to me last week... I am giving him time to think now, do NO CONTACT.. she really needs time to think.. its been a week and I still haven't heard from him. But it will be the best decision when he does call I will update for you

What I think she is feeling? Maybe "Mr. Best Friend <3" has pulled a fast one and got in the way of things. Reading a majority of the posts here about long distance, it seems to be the trend..

She keeps reassuring me that he is part ot the problem but not the main reason. She says she does care for him but not like she cares for me. She is just close to him and she feels like he's the only one where she's at that can comfort her and he understands her because he has the same work load.. im thinking that school is just so overwhelming her and confusing her.. also making her sick because of stress. She is dsoing this to us, doesn't talk to her friends at home often and doesn't have much time to talk to her parents. But she can't switch schools and lessen her work load with classes.. I ran out of ideas to convince her that we can make it, she doesn't realize it anymore like she once did.

She did say that he is part of this problem, am I understanding right?

Yes she did but she's not stressing that he's a big problem.. shes been truthful about everything and I really don't think she would lie about it. Let me also say that we starting talking and getting to know each other better over myspace. She hates the website now, she's more into Facebook. But anyway since this all happened she added a quote saying" all i need is time" and changed her song to one that meant a lot to me about our relationship. I don't know if she wantes me to hang onto hope or what she's doing.

Seems your underestimating the power of being there. If your not giving her what she needs, when she needs it, he obviously is.

Let it go, as your to far away to do a darn thing, and it's a little to late. That's a drawback of LDR's. You ain't around when your supposed to be.

I just don't understand why she is willing to throw away a great thing especially after the great summer we had. Why is she willing to do this only after a few weeks of have more hard work at school and being more stressed. Is it because she loves me but isn't in love with me anymore? Is it because she's scared to try and make it work because it will be hard? Is it because she too young still and just confused? All these are possibilities I'm thinking but she says she still loves me and this isn't what she wanted and she diudnt want to hurt me.. yet at the same time she's willing to give upjust because she's confused and doesn't know why she's feeling this way. Please anyone, I need more answers, I need more help in trying to cope with this and better understand why she is doing this..

Only she knows the answers to those questions and nothing you can do to find them out. Just let it go, don't spend your time waiting on something that isn't going to come around. She isn't going to come back running, stop reading into that myspace crap! Delete it or delete her off your friends list or be prepared for a lot of sleepless nights wondering what that confused face means on her profile

Don't believe that bull about needing space, 99 percent she's intrested in another guy, if she loved you she would stick by you. You have to let her go, don't contact her until she contacts you, and if she doesn't, then it wasn't meant to be. Read my thread, i was in same situation as you! Goodluck bro.

Thank you everyone who has responded to me. It really helps knowing I'm not alone. I'm not dumb by any means and I realize what's my best solution to this and allow her time and space. But at the same time I'm kind of still in denial that this is happening.. we broke up only 2 nights ago. I know she loved/loves me and don't understand how she can completley changre your mind about us after a few weeks at school. We already got through a year of doing the same thing and we did it well. I think she's really more stressed and can't deal with the long term thing anymore and also her close guy friend at shool is confusing her and messing with her emotions because he is there for her when she's physically needs sum1 when I can't be there. And she's confusing emotions between the both of us. Anyone agree or have other ideas? I know I should wait it out more and give her time but I'm still grasping on hopes that she will realize what we have.. anyone think there's any chance of her doing that and coming back before school and other guy messes with her more?