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xaque
Oct 11, 2008, 01:19 PM
I recently got back together w my ex. She has spent almost every evening this week at my place, and when we r together she really seems like she loves me and cares, but when we r not together, it seems like I'm always the one initiating contact. She says she has never loved anyone like she loves me etc. but one would think if that were true, I would hear from her more instead of always having to contact her. How should I play this? What does it mean? Is she full of sh#t?

simoneaugie
Oct 11, 2008, 02:06 PM
Tell her that you would like her to initiate contact, at least half the time. A relationship is shared, that means that attempts to get together are shared.

She may really like you but not understand that you feel like the one always making contact. Like people who were not taught to say please and thank you, it doesn't mean they are rude.

littleguy000
Oct 11, 2008, 02:13 PM
Well depends. What did she do or you do to get broken up? If it really is something bad then I seriously doubt you too getting back together on a smooth road.
In other words, depending what she is like or what she has done to offend you don't waste your time on her. Lives are short, don't waste your time on people that don't really care about you. Obviously she is not your certain 'someone' and if you don't have that person then you can never be 100% happy with your relationship.

But don't go full on bomb shower on her. Just tell her that we can't be together. But if you do love this women and you think she is your 'perfect someone' then try it. But once she does something that you think can't be repaired then, I'd had to say it... DUMP HER

liz28
Oct 11, 2008, 02:17 PM
Do you know how she was in her past relationships? I agree with Simone that you should be open and communicate how you feel. Have a open talk with her and share each other feelings, thoughts and fears. You stated she was your ex, was she like this the last time your was together? What cause the break-up? You should know her actions, reactions, how she communicates from the time. The second time around should be a step forward not backwards.

talaniman
Oct 11, 2008, 08:20 PM
Guess her moving plans fell through, and she has to stay. As I remember ,your lease was up in September, so I guess you both have signed up for more, right??

Gut feeling, she is full of it!