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a1b2c3
Oct 8, 2008, 03:11 PM
So I am a female having sex for about 1 year. But I don't feel any pleasure when it comes to sex, oral sex, foreplay or masturbation. It does not feel good even a little bit. Is something wrong with me? I get horney, I feel like I want to have sex, but, I feel nothing else.:confused:

Revival
Oct 8, 2008, 07:53 PM
Have you tried using toys?

Synnen
Oct 9, 2008, 04:01 AM
How old are you?

450donn
Oct 9, 2008, 11:16 AM
Have you talked to your doctor about this? It could be a medical problem preventing you from enjoying sex. Now, there are many people that enjoy sex, but it is not very high on their priority list. That does not sound like your situation. So first off go see a good doctor and ask him if there could be a medical condition.

Choux
Oct 9, 2008, 01:14 PM
Women have to get to see and know themselves as sexual animals... men don't have this problem. No more good girl, no more people pleaser, no more avoiding real sexuality.

All this against a backdrop of phoney sexual messages from the media, porn, friends, pretty much everything...

Women have lots of societal(religion) and parental forces at work causing them to repress and suppress their sexuality. If they go along with the flow, they have to work at releasing their sexual nature.

I recommend you stop having sex and get some help from a professional... a sex therapist so you can fully enjoy being a woman. :)

a1b2c3
Oct 9, 2008, 01:19 PM
I am 20 years old , and I have tried using toys, but nothing still.

simoneaugie
Oct 9, 2008, 02:59 PM
You would probably feel little or nothing if you are attempting to only stimulate the vagina, the hole. This baby and blood passage has few nerve endings. Your penis is your clitoris.

See a physician and get tested and examined to rule out a medical condition. A therapist may be able to help too, if the condition is psychological.

a1b2c3
Oct 9, 2008, 05:37 PM
have you tried using toys?

Yes and still nothing at all

hexades
Oct 11, 2008, 11:31 PM
Are you taking any medications? For instance some depression meds can have this effect. A suggestion- Sometime when you are alone, Lie back, and think about someone who you are now or have been attracted to physically. Close your eyes and try to visually imagine them touching you and doing other sexual things to you. As you are laying back fantasizing. Slowly and lightly ,very lightly caress your body. Take your time and make sure you are relaxed. Keep doing this and pretend it is the other person fondling you.

Chebaby
Oct 13, 2008, 06:01 AM
The first thing I would look to telling you is talk this over with your doctor?. how ever this can be that your partner is not doing something right or it may just very well be on you...

a1b2c3
Oct 14, 2008, 07:14 AM
Are you taking any medications? For instance some depression meds can have this effect. A suggestion- Sometime when you are alone, Lie back, and think about someone who you are now or have been attracted to physically. Close your eyes and try to visually imagine them touching you and doing other sexual things to you. As you are laying back fantasizing. Slowly and lightly ,very lightly caress your body. Take your time and make sure you are relaxed. Keep doing this and pretend it is the other person fondling you.

No medications at all

a1b2c3
Oct 14, 2008, 07:16 AM
the first thing i would look to telling you is talk this over with your doctor?... how ever this can be that your partner is not doing something right or it may just very well be on you....

I know for sure that it is not mypartner

simoneaugie
Oct 14, 2008, 03:55 PM
I know for sure that it is not mypartner-a1b2c3

Have you had sensation in the past with him?

a1b2c3
Oct 16, 2008, 07:01 AM
i know for sure that it is not mypartner-a1b2c3

Have you had sensation in the past with him?

No never with him , or myself

simoneaugie
Oct 16, 2008, 02:34 PM
Doctor visit.