I know most of you don't live in rapid city but I'm desperate... my girlfriend that I love so much and I want to have a very special first kiss in a romantic spot and well we are in South Dakota and thers not really any place I can think of at all that is romantic for us. She wants to be alone with me and it has to be in rapid city which is in South Dakota. I even Google searched romantic spots in rapid city and all that came up are hotel stuff. I'm only 16 and my girlfriend is turning 16 soon so we can't even get a room but can anyone give me ideas?

The Dances With Wolves movie set is pretty sweet! Take a picnic out to the set... eat where Kevin Costner worked...

Its all about the people, not the place, that make a moment romantic. Really. YOU make it romantic, not what you're doing!

Taking a picnic ANYWHERE is over the top romantic! Especially if there is chocolate, flowers, and candles in the basket! :)

I'm 16, and I think for teens, a park at dusk/night is perfect.
And as Historian said, a picnic is always a good idea :)

Good luck

Well me and my girlfriend want to have sex sometime and well we are taking it slowly but I know that we both have urges and I want to make sure if we do we have a condom. I do know where to buy them and I have enough money but I'm 16 in South Dakota and I think I can buy them at my age but if I'm not tell me . Also I'm kind of nervous about buying them. Could I get arrested for this?

O and one more thing I forgot to mention. Do you have to have proof that your 16 because it says the law repealed 16 and I'm in 10th grade with a id of the school I go to

Walmart, any drug store, most corner stores, You should never be scared to ask for them. You should be scared and ashamed not to.

The age of consent is 16 in SD, so its legal to buy them. However if your girl is under 16, its illegal to have sex with her.

I understand you have urges, but there are ways to satisfy them without sexaual intercourse. No one should engage in sexual intercourse unless they are prepared to be a parent.

Have you discuss sex with your parents? Most clinics like planned parenthood offers sex education for teens, including boys. Sex is risky even when your using condoms. Condoms can break and if not put on properly it's useless. They also show you how to properly use a condom and how to use one that fits because it comes in different sizes. With sex not only can it result in a child but there are many diseases out there, some treatable some not.

Do any stores near you have those self serve lines? If you don't no what those are, its where you scan your own groceries and such.
That way you don't have to look at a cashier and be embarrassed. And you can't get in trouble for buying condoms. And why are you going to have sex over urges. Is there even any love involved? Don't just have sex to have sex, because if things go wrong she will be pregnant and you will have a child.

Many Clinics have them, as well as any drugstore. 16 would be the proper age. You Won't get arrested, and don't be ashamed, be proud that you are one of the few men who actually respect themselves and their girlfriends enough to use protection. But remember everything has consequences. Sex can lead to pregnancy, be prepared for these things. As well, if your girlfriend is not 16, by law it is illegal to have sex with her, but that sideIm sure if you both want to you will, regardeless of how people react to the idea. I just believe if you have your minds set on it, to be safe. And make sure you understand that the first time for a lot o women will hurt. Be respectful of this, and give her time. If you start and she changes her mind, don't get frusturated at her. Well be safe and be smart.

OK we went on our first date like Friday and we got home a hour late and her parents got mad and said she was grounded till she is 16 and she is turning 15 in a few weeks... we just started dating and she lives like a hour and 20 min away and I don't know what to do. We want to go on another date and not when she is 16... help I don't know what to say because she is really mad

With cell phones everywhere, why didn't she call her parents to let them know where she was and that she would be late?

And why WAS she late? (This sounds like very poor planning or losing track of time or lack of responsibility.)

Were you the driver?

She's only 14? I'm wondering why her parents allowed her out of the house on a DATE alone with a guy instead of in a group.

Has she dated others before you?

She is 14 almost 15 and I'm 16 this year and she went with her sis and 2 cousins and her brother. And well they droped us off at walmart and stuff and wel it was late and we forgot to call her cousin to pick us up because she was at her bfs house for a while and they came after like 30 min
And then it took another 30 min to get to my house and another 30 min to get to her brothers house but we called and said we would be late and we got lost and lost track of time but you

But yeah...

She's 14. If I were her mother, I would ground her for the rest of her life.

Haha parents say things... I wouldent worry too much about it. IF your really intrested do some things for the parents and earn their trust. Find some ways to lessen the sentence.

My girlfriend and I are dating. I Am 16 and She is 15. We both can't drive and we are very upset that we live a hour away from each other. Yesterday she stayed at home because she felt sick because she missed me and what am I saposed to do about this?

Mass transit works very well in most major cities. It may not be cool or hip to ride the bus, but in today's economy it makes perfect sense. Especially since you do not drive.

I rode a bus an hour each way several times a week to visit my girlfriend for an entire summer. It was fun its own way.

Yeah, mass transit would work. If you don't live in a major city, or don't have the means to get to each other, than I don't really know...

At 16/15, you won't like this, but I would say to break up. Sadly, living an hour away from each other at 15 years old is practically a long distance relationship, and they very rarely work out. Your young, so get out and date other (closer) people. I know it is hard to accept, but what else is there?

If your parents are willing to drive you, I guess that would work, but I doubt they would. Or, if you meet at some point half way, so it's only 30 minutes...

Just sounds like a whole lot of trouble. How long have you been dating? And how did you two begin to date, living so far away from each other?

Well we are dating and she asked her mom and she was fine with it and her brother and fiancé are comeing here to shop and stuff so we will see each other then hopefully

Nice to hear :)

OK I've been dating this girl for almost 6 weeks and christmas is coming up and I gave her some good jewellery for her b-day and I don't know what to really get her. She likes black and he likes some of the scene/emo style stuff and she likes romantic music and stuff. We kissed a lot and other stuff and you. Any ideas on what I should get her for christmas??

You don't want to get her any more jewelry then?
Because jewelry is always a great present no matter if you got it for her birthday already.
But perhaps you could give her a CD of some music you know she likes or a DVD.

In the immortal words of my fiancée, "you can never go wrong with something shiny".

Well my girlfriend doesn't want to go to school and I've tried to tell her that its very important for every reason and that its for the best but she won't listen. Her friend told me I should just let her be but I just really don't like that she isn't going to school and I'm not sure what to do. Right now were not talking...

Well not talking isn't going to solve anything!

Go around and tell her how your feeling and why your feeling this way, that you care for her and that is why her future matters so much to you.


Do this calmly and cool.

She is obviously going through a lot now, tell her that your there for her if she needs to talk or if there is anything else you can do.

Communication is key.

I think if you have shared your very reasonable viewpoint that school is necessary and you would like her to attend, beyond that you as her boyfriend can not force her to attend. I think it is time to focus on your own schooling and leave her to fail, but I wouldn't have her as a girlfriend anymore.

I have told her about the goods and the bads and that the cost of everything is rising in the economy and about jobs and all that and I said it nicely and she still doesn't want to

Well then you have no choice, it is her decision at the end of the day and you have to respect that.

Not the easiest pill to swallow I know.

Not long ago I found out that my girlfriend drank beer. When she does drink its not usually just a little and she is under age by a few years. She says she knows why its so bad and that she can get arrested for it but it doesn't seem like it gets to her. What should I do?

You could rat her out, call the cops, she'd get fined and then maybe she'll stop.

You can call it quits, walk away, find someone older and more mature.

You can talk to her, and then be prepared to walk if she doesn't do what you want.

Really, there's not much you can do. You either accept it, even though it's wrong, or you walk away.

Good luck.

Sounds like she might be trying to deal with some stuff by using alcohol. Do you know why she started in the first place?

If she just told you she drinks and you didn't know about it ,how do you know she only drinks a little?Since you have never seen her drink?

If you cannot accept what she is doing you need to have a discussion about it.

Tell her your concerns and be open minded to her. Drinking beer is not that bad! Believe me it is really not a sin ,unless your religion prohibits it.

By the way,depending on how you *found out* ,I would make sure before I point any fingers.

Okay. I don't condone underage drinking but it does happen. I did it- I'm sure a lot of people have. However there is a difference between a 14 year old drinking and a 18 year old drinking.

Now that being said, if she's drinking a lot to party or loosen up then there is a problem. If it's occasional drinking then I don't see one.

If it bothers you that much then tell her and maybe you'll come to a compromise. If she fights for the booze then this is the relationship for you to be in.

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Well she use to live with me and we just started dating a few weeks ago and she moved but were like a little less than a hour away. She told me over the phone and some stories about drinking with her friends and parents and she is 15 and she does it around people mostly all the time and she does it once so often. She said that she drinks 12 packs with her friends and there is around 5 people only or less so she drinks a few cans every time and she has had a bad past and she drinks when she thinks of that sometimes.

How old are you?

Why was she living with you at the age of 15?

Sounds like she didn't have a lot of supervision if she started at 12 and might have came from a broken home.

I believe that drinking is not wrong for underage drinkers as long as its in moderation. Some people do drink to get rid of their problems but they come back the next day when they wake up to a hang over =P so it never really goes away, its just a temporary relief. Talk to her about how you feel it and afterwards if nothing happens then maybe she isn't the right girl for you? Find someone that you would find more suitable. Good luck =P

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i believe that drinking is not wrong for underage drinkers as long as its in moderation. some people do drink to get rid of thier problems but they come back the next day when they wake up to a hang over =P so it never really goes away, its just a temporary relief. Talk to her about how you feel it and afterwards if nothing happens then maybe she isnt the right girl for you? Find someone that you would find more suitable. Good luck =P

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I agree with you noney as I sarted drinking when I was 17, but it was always in my parents presence and I was never allowed to have more than 1-2 drinks, It was good because I wasn't tempted to sneak out and drink without them knowing.

But 15 is far to young to be drinking a 12 pack of beer! The health implications alone are enough not to mention the emotional and behavioral complications.

I would also like to know why a 15 year old girl has moved out?

Drinking to get away from past problems is only a short fix and could lead to alcoholism and other drug abuse problems. You should try to talk to her if you are close and tell her this bothers you.

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Your g/f needs some adult supervision and has a lot more problems than you are capable of handling at this time. You can't change her, and doubt you will be together a lot longer.

For one she is way to free to do to many things she shouldn't be, and has to many friends who are doing things that can lead to trouble.

Your trying to do the right thing, but your not having any luck with stopping her from getting into things she shouldn't, and have no authority to tell her anything and make it stick.

For these reasons, your up against a brick wall, and really need to let her live through the consequences of her actions, Without you being there to soften the blow.

My girlfriend wants to try drugs and drink, but she is only 15 and its just soooo horible but she says she wants to and that includes weed and well its just so bad and horrible expecialy at her age and I don't know how to get here to stop but I do love her more than anything but I just really hate this. She said that she wants to live her life but I said how is it living your life when your making it much shorter. Please help

Does she know how much you love her?