Hey guys well this is not really a question haha but I just felt that the people who gave me advice during my breakdown would be interested and I would like 2 update you. For all those that have no idea my boyfriend cheated.. he kissed 3 girls when we were together for a year and when he broke up w/ me he did it wit sum girl at college twice... the thing that sucks!! Is we weren't together when he that so I couldn't count that as cheating but I still do... he was confused and lost and wasn't ready to commit and I didn't do anything wit anyone because I was soooo hurt and depressed. After I broke up wit him he said he had never been that lost... he needed sumone to talk to but that person was no longer there and he just went phyco because he realized just how much he loved and needed me to love him and be his girl friend and I believe him very strongly... I honestly can't believe how everything turned out because I was so determined it was over when I broke up wit him...

I'm 20 years old now and I am completely in love wit him.. which sux lol but you know the saying you love them but you hate them haha... anyway before I decided after 3 weeks that I was going to give it a chance but I told him everything that I would be expecting.. EVERYTHING and I told him I was sooo numb from all the pain that I honestly would care less if I left him again and he was crying yea some harsh stuff hah but he deserves it actually he deserves worse but we need to all understand that people make mistakes.. I have realized that me and him are both young and we have never had the intestion 2 get married or anything.. it seems that girls are always quicker when it comes to maturing.. it was his first year in college people went out and got drunk like it was college life and him a dumbass went wit the crowd.. now a majority of you said leave him once a cheater always a cheater..

I will tell you guys that when I got back wit him I told him I will NEVER forget what he has done and don't know if I can forgive... its such a hard situation to be in... I know he loves me and he told me when we got back together that he's in love wit me and I told him your words are garbage from now on lol I said I will only be looking for the things you do physically mostly I mean I'm not saying I'm not guna listen to him but when it comes to our relationship I need to see ACTIONS.. this means him coming home every weekend to c me and taking me out to dinner, he made me dinner 2 weeks ago and he has really been steping up. I honestly can say to all the girls out there don't take others advice immediately ony YOU can be the decision maker and you have to go with your gut... he has always been sooo scared to hurt me and make me cry that he has held back and hid these things from me because he was afraid of losing me.. but he felt that our relationdhip was a fake because he knew that if I knew everything he did it would be over.. now he has nothing to hide everythings out in the open and he is more honest than ever.. he tells me everything his friends what he did what he's doing because he cares.. I feel now he repects and UNDERSTANDS now, how much this relationship meant to me and I feel he's under pressure to please me in evey way because he doesn't want me to walk out if his life again.

We have had a couple of arguments and yes I did bring up the past.. but we eventually sat as grown ups and discussed why this was a constant behavior and found a solution... if the both of you are willing to talk and work it out wit out yelling and long faces well than you have sumtin very special.

So I just want to thank everyone who helped me during that time and please give me your opinions on my decision..

Well congrats on showing that as long as there is communication that anything is possible! I am glad to see you both have handled the situation with maturity and keep us updated, far too often people get advice on here and disappear and fall back into their old ways.