A quick update; We broke up a month and a half ago the first 2 weeks being the hardest but with the advice and support of everyone here I've been keeping NC for a month. It really is the best way to go. Thank you everyone.

The problem is she sent me a message:
" sometimes..... i know i can be such a fool. "

That's it. I've been staring at it since yesterday, I couldn't sleep because of it but it's now or never that I reply to this.

How does one handle an ex regretting a breakup that they initiated.

I've been doing really well for myself the past month and a half, but there are still things I need to handle.

I thought she was happy with her decision and direction in life since she left, that's what gave me strength to improve mine. But now I just feel lost. Please help.

Do not reply to it she is just trying to test the waters with you. What you truly should do is look back at what happened and what went wrong.

You went NC for a reason and for that same reason you should continue NC.

The cause of the breakup was me and I accept that.

I was directionless and aimless, her leaving was the motivation to get my life together.

With or without her I know I have to pick up the pieces of my life.

Delete the text as it is just to see if you are still hanging onto her every word. Don't stray from your path simply because of a text where her intentions were not even made available

Pay attention to what a sentence can do to your mindset, emotions, and how long its staying in your mind.

Imagine responding, and being disappointed after a 5 minute conversation, because you thought she had changed her mind, and wanted you back.

Delete the message as it means nothing, is not a commitment, nor promise of a darn thing, and is only meant to get a reaction from you.

I am sorry to be harsh, she sounds like bored with you but doesn't want to be alone. For 3 1/2 years of being together, your use is an "old boring but faithful bf". This will not change. She wants something that you are not so just ignore the text. Or else you will start over again.