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asif84
Sep 24, 2008, 04:20 AM
Hello there,
I have a wife and 2 children 7 and 11. In our relationship every other daye have serious arguments,sometimes about children,money,likes and dislikes etc.
Our argument have become violent in to thumping each other,my wife is British citizen and I feel we are on the road to separation.
She's a housewife and I work full time.

Is there any way I could have her deported,since it was me who got her here in the first place,when I got married 12 years ago.

Please give some advice..

Thanks

JudyKayTee
Sep 24, 2008, 05:25 AM
Hello there,
I have a wife and 2 children 7 and 11. In our relationship every other daye have serious arguments,sometimes about children,money,likes and dislikes etc.
our argument have become violent in to thumping each other,my wife is British citizen and I feel we are on the road to seperation.
she's a housewife and i work full time.

Is there any way I could have her deported,since it was me who got her here in the first place,when i got married 12 years ago.

Please give some advice..

Thanks


My thought is if you keep "thumping" on each other you won't need to deport her to avoid arguments because one or the other of you will be in jail.

If you're that unhappy, file for divorce.

I see no grounds for you to "have her deported."

Peter Wilson
Sep 24, 2008, 05:49 AM
ASIF, you should be trying to work out how to stay together, not separate.
You will not only wreck your own life, but those of your wife and children as well!
I know that you have needs, but they will only be met when you meet the needs of others, namely, your family.
You are the head of the house, whether you believe it or not, you are responsible before God for your actions toward your wife and children.
The Bible says that we should love our wives the way Jesus loves the Church, and He lay down His life for the Church.
Don't expect others to change, they won't as long as you don't.
The only one you can change is yourself, if you are having problems, start by changing your attitude and stop blaming others for your problems and take the responsibility for your own mistakes.
Ask your wife to forgive you for your actions and stop telling yourself how much you hate her.
Start telling yourself that you love her and need her and your children, because you do, even if you don't know it now.
If you leave without giving it your best shot, then you are doomed to make the same mistakes again and you will have a miserable life.
You are not here for you, the most important people in your life are your children, they need you and your wife to be as one.
Don't throw their precious little lives on the scrapheap of your poor choices and bad judgements, nurture and love them, give them the father they deserve.
Stop being selfish, it's a problem that many people have these days, don't be like the rest of the crowd, start making good choices for your family, this will bring you the greatest happiness.
By running away, your problems only follow you and eventually overpower you.
Make the most of what you have, there are so many people in the world that would give their right arm to have what you've got.
So many unhappy singles or divorced people are trying to find "the right one", and only find that everbody they meet are only out for themselves.
Their lives only consist of hoping to find happiness with a partner that doesn't exist because they don't realise that the problem lies within them.
Don't throw away what is in your hand, nourish and cherish it, lay down your life for it, you won't regret it.
Cheers :)

JudyKayTee
Sep 24, 2008, 05:56 AM
ASIF, you should be trying to work out how to stay together, not seperate.
You will not only wreck your own life, but those of your wife and children as well!
I know that you have needs, but they will only be met when you meet the needs of others, namely, your family.
You are the head of the house, whether you believe it or not, you are responsible before God for your actions toward your wife and children.
The Bible says that we should love our wives the way Jesus loves the Church, and He lay down His life for the Church.
Don't expect others to change, they won't as long as you don't.
The only one you can change is yourself, if you are having problems, start by changing your attitude and stop blaming others for your problems and take the responsibility for your own mistakes.
Ask your wife to forgive you for your actions and stop telling yourself how much you hate her.
Start telling yourself that you love her and need her and your children, because you do, even if you don't know it now.
If you leave without giving it your best shot, then you are doomed to make the same mistakes again and you will have a miserable life.
You are not here for you, the most important people in your life are your children, they need you and your wife to be as one.
Don't throw their precious little lives on the scrapheap of your poor choices and bad judgements, nurture and love them, give them the father they deserve.
Stop being selfish, it's a problem that many people have these days, don't be like the rest of the crowd, start making good choices for your family, this will bring you the greatest happiness.
By running away, your problems only follow you and eventually overpower you.
Make the most of what you have, there are so many people in the world that would give their right arm to have what you've got.
So many unhappy singles or divorced people are trying to find "the right one", and only find that everbody they meet are only out for themselves.
Their lives only consist of hoping to find happiness with a partner that doesn't exist because they don't realise that the problem lies within them.
Don't throw away what is in your hand, nourish and cherish it, lay down your life for it, you won't regret it.
Cheers :)


I know you mean well but this is the legal board and this is not legal advice. Perhaps this should be moved to a relationship board, marriage board or Christianity board.

No question the OP is in a lot of pain but he is asking for legal advice.

And not everyone on the Board is Christian and/or believes in Jesus.

ScottGem
Sep 24, 2008, 06:31 AM
When you married, you conferred citizenship on your wife, so deportation is not an option, unless you can prove the marriage was a fraud just to obtain citizenship. And having two kids kind of negates that argument.

So you really need to explore a divorce if you find your marriage no longer works.

excon
Sep 24, 2008, 06:44 AM
Hello asif:

I understand that you don't like your wife, but your children too?? If you get what you want, she'll take YOUR children with her. However, considering WHO YOU ARE, they'll be better off.

excon

KISS
Sep 24, 2008, 07:17 AM
This excon guy is quite the no nonsense type. Why don't you post the type of problems your having on the relationship board and see if they can make suggestions.

lawanwadee
Sep 24, 2008, 10:05 AM
Twelve years marriage with 2 children can be interpreted as she is now a permanent resident or US citizen, which in both cases, she can't be deported unless she commits serious crime, which she does not.

Marriage counseling should be your first priority because if you jump to a divorce right now, it means she gets child custody while you get visitation/pay child support & spousal support, etc. and on top of this, 12 years is long enough for family court judge to grant an "alimony". Good luck...

Lowtax4eva
Sep 24, 2008, 01:17 PM
As said by Lawandee, you can't deport her, she is considered to be a citizen (even if she didn't take a citizenship test)

You can divorce her but you can't make her leave the country. Even if you had only been married a few months ago you couldn't deport her.