I need some advise on getting the father-to-be to sign over his legal rights of our unborn child.

What steps do you have to take to get the paperwork and who is it that you go through?

I recently moved to Washington State and the father-to-be is in Massachusetts. He does not want to move here. His top concern is paying child support.
I told him I would agree to giving up child support if he would give up his parental rights.
He said he needs to think about it first and will get back to me in a week.

Any advice would be Greatly appreciated.

Thank you.

(This is also posted in Family & People - I did not realize there was a forum under Family Law)

This isn't legally possible. The two of you can agree that when the child is born you don't go after child support and he will leave you and the child alone but he can't just sign away his rights.

Sorry this is a fairly tale, you can just not ask for child support and not list him on th birth certificate and you can hope he never contacts you to see the child.

1. nothing can be done on a unborn child.

2. he can not just give up his rights,

3, if for some silly reason a judge allows him to give up his right, you are allowed to still ask for child support and often the court will order it as part of the agreement.

If you latter meet someone else and they want to adopt, then you can get him to sign over his rights to allow someone to adopt

I do not want child support from him as I do agree is isn't fair for him to be paying for a child he will never meet nor raise.
My mother told me to contact a lawyer and they will give me the paperwork for him to sign to relinquish his rights - I guess I need to do some research. I was under the impression that if both parents agreed on one or the other giving up rights it would be okay and easily done.
I guess this is not the case.
Thank you for your help.

No it is seldon done and almost never done legally, oh there are lawyers that draw up contracts that each sign but they are not legally binding normally if one party wants to fight it latter.

The issue is that the state holds the right to hold him liable for support, lets say that you latter get welfare or the child gets some government assistance, the state holds the right to go after the father for repayment, so any agreement not to make him pay support wouid not be binding.

Next of course I will be rude, it does not matter what you want, really, it is the child's money, not yours, it is for his welfare. If you just put it in the bank for his college or something, It is not "your" money really to decide it is the child's money.

So the court is looking out for the interest of the child.

Also child support and visiting is not related, they are separate issues.

True that is not the case. You also have to be able to convince the judge that it would be in the best interest of the child. Which given your situation you would not be able to do. So like fr. Chuck and I said the two of you can come to the agreement but neither you nor he can legally end his rights.

Thank you both for all of your help.