mimi03
Sep 11, 2008, 04:39 PM
I know this isn't new and I have read answers to others' questions but I feel as if I need to add my personal info to get advice specifically for me.
So, I'm looking to make new friends (girls) but feel like I've been out of the loop since high school and have gotten a little lost about what I should do.
I'm a junior in college so you'd think it would be easy<<I'm around people my age all the time>>.
I have a condition that makes me tired (a lot) and when it gets really bad makes me physically limited to doing anything beyond lying in bed. The girls that I do talk to in class and at work like to go out at night: to clubs, have martini nights at their apartments or go to fraternity events...
1) I'm not into the club scene
2) Even if I take a nap during the day I must be in bed at night to have energy I need for the next day.
3) and I also invest a lot of my time in studying (I care about my education/grades)
I like to do artsy things around campus etc.: I've gone to open mic nights, I like to see local art exhibits, plays and musical events but the girls that I have made friends with do not seem to be into those things... My lovely boyfriend will go with me to these things but doesn't really enjoy them, he goes because he knows I like to share those things with someone (I do go alone if need be) but would like to share these interests with a girl friend who also likes these things. My best friend lives in my home town and I rarely see her... our friendship has been reduced to Facebook chats (we're still close but so busy and the distance is saddening!)
I just want a girl friend to do girly things with so that I won't have to drag my boyfriend along with me to do things we both know he doesn't like :)
Also, I'm not shy I easily make friends/associates, I just never seem to get close to or meet people who are like me... and I like the variety of personalities I meet I just want to meet someone like me/with the same interests and values to build that lifelong friendship with.
Please any advice is welcome,
Thanks in Advance!
I should add... I go to a college where football is BIG, people love to tailgate and go to the games. My boyfriend and I watch them on TV or he goes but I can't go mostly because of the weather. My illness is heat sensitive and it gets ridiculously HOT here in the south so I stay out of it as much as possible and I really want to join in on the festivities, any suggestions?
I hope this doesn't read like whining and complaining I'm not that type of person, I think outside opinions are useful and I will always listen/apply helpful alternatives to enrich my life.
So, I'm looking to make new friends (girls) but feel like I've been out of the loop since high school and have gotten a little lost about what I should do.
I'm a junior in college so you'd think it would be easy<<I'm around people my age all the time>>.
I have a condition that makes me tired (a lot) and when it gets really bad makes me physically limited to doing anything beyond lying in bed. The girls that I do talk to in class and at work like to go out at night: to clubs, have martini nights at their apartments or go to fraternity events...
1) I'm not into the club scene
2) Even if I take a nap during the day I must be in bed at night to have energy I need for the next day.
3) and I also invest a lot of my time in studying (I care about my education/grades)
I like to do artsy things around campus etc.: I've gone to open mic nights, I like to see local art exhibits, plays and musical events but the girls that I have made friends with do not seem to be into those things... My lovely boyfriend will go with me to these things but doesn't really enjoy them, he goes because he knows I like to share those things with someone (I do go alone if need be) but would like to share these interests with a girl friend who also likes these things. My best friend lives in my home town and I rarely see her... our friendship has been reduced to Facebook chats (we're still close but so busy and the distance is saddening!)
I just want a girl friend to do girly things with so that I won't have to drag my boyfriend along with me to do things we both know he doesn't like :)
Also, I'm not shy I easily make friends/associates, I just never seem to get close to or meet people who are like me... and I like the variety of personalities I meet I just want to meet someone like me/with the same interests and values to build that lifelong friendship with.
Please any advice is welcome,
Thanks in Advance!
I should add... I go to a college where football is BIG, people love to tailgate and go to the games. My boyfriend and I watch them on TV or he goes but I can't go mostly because of the weather. My illness is heat sensitive and it gets ridiculously HOT here in the south so I stay out of it as much as possible and I really want to join in on the festivities, any suggestions?
I hope this doesn't read like whining and complaining I'm not that type of person, I think outside opinions are useful and I will always listen/apply helpful alternatives to enrich my life.