Hey everyone,
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 and a half years. I am 19 he is 21. We are very close, first off I met him when I was 16 and he was 18 in college, then he moved back home where I reside and his parents lived, we have been together almost everyday. It was mutual decision. My boyfriend works and I go to school. I feel we pretty much balance each other out. My boyfriend is almost like the son my mother never had, he is always around the house, cooking or helping with things, even when I am not there. He chooses to be, he likes my home. He is very family oriented and I like that. Anyway, we have had our normal relationship arguments here and there, but mostly I think everything is pretty good. Although The past couple months we have been arguing a lot. I believe part of it is because, you can't spend every day with someone, especially when the both of us don't have to many other friends. Maybe one good friend for the both of to hang out alone and do our own thing, and even then It was hard for us not to be happy for one another, it is like jealousy aroused even though we want that for one of each other to have our separate friends and our relationship so it can maintain being healthy. Well Obviously were not use to being away from each other. My bf's brother got engaged this year and was married on August 31. My boyfriend was the best man, which he was invited to all the activities in which the groomsmen attend. My birthday is August 30th I was planning to go away that weekend but I couldn't due to the wedding so I changed it, to Aug 7-9th, to go to san francisco. I was planning everything and mentioned the dates my boyfriend said OK, I mentioned it a couple days later about plane prices when he says, Oh I think that is the date of the bachelor party, I got upset we got in argument, I re-scheduled. He was missing work for his brothers bachelor party and he told me he couldn't miss work to san francisco, the bachelor party was a 4 day excursion, I wanted san francisco the same. We did. Anyway the final thing is when I had planned a birthday dinner on August 30th with my friends and my boyfriend as well. Weeks down the line we got an invititaion to the rehearsal dinner in which I said I would not go to that , it was when I had set up the dinner. Obviously he was going to attend the rehearsal dinner, which he thought I was rude not to go. He did tell me though he would be with me during the day until about 5 o clock. 3 days before my birthday he told me the groomsmen are having lunch and watching the usc football game. I said can you eat the lunch and not watch the game you promised you would be with me, and he wasn't. So the wedding came the next evening and we had a good time, that was up until 12 30 when I got very tired, I wanted to go back to the hotel room, and he got a little angry I wanted to leave. I didn't have a purse and he had handed me 20 dollars for a cab, in which I loss. His mother actually gave it to me. Well when he found out I lost it he pulled his mom aside and said that I lost the money and was getting angry at me. I began to cry in front of her and his aunt and uncle, whom ended up taking me back to the hotel. I got back and passed out. My boyfriend came an hour later yelling at me telling me I'm belligerent and a helmet head and that I should have stayed, and that I embarrassed him. I felt like wasn't I suppose to tape my eyes open, I was tired, and I had a lot of school work to do the next morning. He wouldn't stop yelling so I packed my things and said Id leave I left to he lobby, when he called me I came back up because I JUST wanted to go to bed, we had a breakfast to be at in the morning so we weren't going to talk about it then, although he said I think we should maybe talk to someone and he seemed like he wanted to work some issues out but I told him Im tired, and fell asleep. The next morning when we woke up he asked if I was coming to the breakfast. I said yes. He asked if I was going to be normal I said yes. I wasn't going to argue or look upset in front of his parents. After we left the breakfast we picked up our dog took her out to play with another dog and our friend and we eat lunch and went on with our day, when we got to my place I saw his phone on my bed with a text from his cousin talking to him saying maybe he should move on. I confronted him asking why he couldn't talk to me, and that is when he said he's not in love with me any more and needs his space. He left crying with our dog. I tried calling him he told me no, he needs space, I went to his house the next morning with a sorry note if I hurt him, by embarrassing him. He didn't talk to me up until Wednesday when I asked if I could have my dog for the weekend, he said sure, he texted me and instead of telling me to come outside and get her, he said I am picking you up. I got happy and went outside he had his window down and said I ran into this guy, and rolled down the back seat which was our friend and our dogs friend coco in the back seat. He drove to the park so we can watch them play, he said I thought you would like to see them play. I said yeah. The whole time we were there and there was conversation, he didn't give me eye contact he only looked at our friend. And when he dropped me off with my dog , I gave him a note which he said to put down, he looked at me and gave me a hug and kissed me on my cheek, I started to cry leaving the car saying why would you do that. He drove off . He has sent me texts asking how the dog is, and tell her hi. It is killing me I don't know what it means and I don't know what to do.

I think the smug b@stard is punishing you.

Hey everyone,
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 and a half years. I am 19 he is 21. We are very close, first off I met him when I was 16 and he was 18 in college, then he moved back home where I reside and his parents lived, we have been together almost everyday. It was mutual decision. My bf works and i go to school. I feel we pretty much balance each other out. My boyfriend is almost like the son my mother never had, he is always around the house, cooking or helping with things, even when I am not there. He chooses to be, he likes my home. He is very family oriented and I like that. Anyway, we have had our normal relationship arguments here and there, but mostly I think everything is pretty good. Although The past couple months we have been arguing a lot. I believe part of it is because, you can't spend every day with someone, especially when the both of us don't have to many other friends. Maybe one good friend for the both of to hang out alone and do our own thing, and even then It was hard for us not to be happy for one another, it is like jealousy aroused even though we want that for one of each other to have our separate friends and our relationship so it can maintain being healthy. Well Obviously were not use to being away from eachother. My bf's brother got engaged this year and was married on august 31. My bf was the best man, which he was invited to all the activities in which the groomsmen attend. My birthday is august 30th I was planning to go away that weekend but I couldn't due to the wedding so i changed it, to Aug 7-9th, to go to san francisco. I was planning everything and mentioned the dates my bf said ok, i mentioned it a couple days later about plane prices when he says, Oh i think that is the date of the bachelor party, I got upset we got in argument, I re-scheduled. He was missing work for his brothers bachelor party and he told me he couldnt miss work to san francisco, the bachelor party was a 4 day excursion, I wanted san francisco the same. We did. Anyways the final thing is when I had planned a birthday dinner on august 30th with my friends and my bf as well. Weeks down the line we got an invititaion to the rehearsal dinner in which i said i would not go to that , it was when i had set up the dinner. Obviously he was going to attend the rehearsal dinner, which he thought i was rude not to go. He did tell me though he would be with me during the day until about 5 o clock. 3 days before my bday he told me the groomsmen are having lunch and watching the usc football game. I said can u eat the lunch and not watch the game u promised you would be with me, and he wasnt. So the wedding came the next evening and we had a good time, that was up until 12 30 when i got very tired, I wanted to go back to the hotel room, and he got a little angry i wanted to leave. I didnt have a purse and he had handed me 20 dollars for a cab, in which I loss. His mother actually gave it to me. Well when he found out I lost it he pulled his mom aside and said that i lost the money and was getting angry at me. I began to cry in front of her and his aunt and uncle, whom ended up taking me back to the hotel. I got back and passed out. My bf came an hour later yelling at me telling me im belligerent and a helmet head and that i should have stayed, and that i embarrassed him. I felt like wasn't i suppose to tape my eyes open, i was tired, and I had alot of school work to do the next morning. He wouldn't stop yelling so i packed my things and said Id leave I left to he lobby, when he called me i came back up because i JUST wanted to go to bed, we had a breakfast to be at in the morning so we weren't going to talk about it then, although he said i think we should maybe talk to someone and he seemed like he wanted to work some issues out but i told him Im tired, and fell asleep. The next morning when we woke up he asked if i was coming to the breakfast. I said yes. He asked if i was going to be normal i said yes. I wasn't going to argue or look upset in front of his parents. After we left the breakfast we picked up our dog took her out to play with another dog and our friend and we eat lunch and went on with our day, when we got to my place i saw his phone on my bed with a text from his cousin talking to him saying maybe he should move on. I confronted him asking why he couldn't talk to me, and that is when he said he's not in love with me any more and needs his space. He left crying with our dog. I tried calling him he told me no, he needs space, I went to his house the next morning with a sorry note if I hurt him, by embarrassing him. He didnt talk to me up until wednesday when I asked if i could have my dog for the weekend, he said sure, he texted me and instead of telling me to come outside and get her, he said I am picking you up. I got happy and went outside he had his window down and said i ran into this guy, and rolled down the back seat which was our friend and our dogs friend coco in the back seat. He drove to the park so we can watch them play, he said i thought you would like to see them play. I said yeah. The whole time we were there and there was conversation, he didn't give me eye contact he only looked at our friend. And when he dropped me off with my dog , I gave him a note which he said to put down, he looked at me and gave me a hug and kissed me on my cheek, I started to cry leaving the car saying why would you do that. He drove off . He has sent me texts asking how the dog is, and tell her hi. It is killing me I don't know what it means and i don't know what to do.
BTW, my boyfriend also sent an email saying that he is not considering himself single, that he just needs his space, it could be tomorrow next week or a month, that he doesn't know how his brain works, and he wants to come to a rational conclusion. He said I can email and text if I want. And signed the email as Sincerely.

After his behavior, what do you think?? Give him what he asked for... space, and do your own thing in the meantime. He made his choice, so why should he get what he wants, and your continued company, and attention too?? Does it sound fair you waiting for him, to get his own head together?? What kind of space is that?

Stop trying to figure him out, and just look at his actions lately. He wants space, that could last a while but keeps in contact, and wants you to contact him.

He has another interest, but he keeps you close just in case. Sorry, that's the way I see it.

I try to figure the situation out because I don't want to wait unless Its just him really needing to find himself. I mean he doesn't have guy friends I am his best friend and I recently have been doing my own thing. I think the wedding and the love of a wedding just highlighted the things that were upsetting or wrong in our relationship.

YOU ARE PUSHING HIM WAY TOO MUCH.

Did you realize everything is about you?

You want to go to San Francisco.
You want your boyfriend to go along.
You didn't want to go to the rehearsal dinner cause it was same day as planned dinner.


I do agree that he over-reacted cause you were tired from the wedding after-party.

Just stop trying to contact him. Give him 2 months....

I didn't read your entire long post, but the just of it... he's obvisouly asking you for something (space) you need to respect it and give it to him. Writing him notes, calling him etc when he is asking for this, will just push him away farther and will probably cause a break up. Keep busy, do things to get your mind off it, and most of all DO NOT CALL HIM OR CONTACT HIM, let him reach back out to you. If he truly loves you and wants to be with you, he will come back around soon. Give him time, and in the meantime DON'T put your own life on hold, as hard as it may be.

I am trying my best, I have like one other good friend, so I am a little lonely and the thing is we share a dog, so I saw him when he dropped her off, he contacted me and asked how she was. And today he is picking her up I will get her again Thursday. I don't know if this will make the situation worse. Is that still space?

I am trying my best, I have like one other good friend, so I am a little lonley and the thing is we share a dog, so I saw him when he dropped her off, he contacted me and asked how she was. And today he is picking her up I will get her again thursday. I don't know if this will make the situation worse. Is that still space?

Why do you care?

He needs to his private time... don't start thinking he's going out with other girls...

My boyfriend just came in my alley, where I put our dog in the front seat. He asked me if I would like to maybe later get some coffee and smoke a cigg. I don't know if I should, go if this is a means of talking or if he is trying to ease to be my friend. Its very in my face

My bf just came in my alley, where I put our dog in the front seat. He asked me if i would like to maybe later get some coffee and smoke a cigg. I don't know if i should, go if this is a means of talking or if he is trying to ease to be my friend. Its very in my face

Then meet up.
Maybe he wants to talk?

I am trying my best, I have like one other good friend, so I am a little lonley and the thing is we share a dog, so I saw him when he dropped her off, he contacted me and asked how she was. And today he is picking her up I will get her again thursday. I don't know if this will make the situation worse. Is that still space?


No that's not space and it is making it worse. It sounds like you guys need some time a part. You should keep the dog or let him keep the dog and give him total space. You are being a doormat. Men tend to break up with women who can't be independent. Who can't go out and live their life etc. so go out, meet more people make more friends forget about him for the time being. Of course its going to be emotionally confusing for u if he says he wants space and then sees you twice a week for the dog. Not fair to you or him. Why don't you have more friends have you devoted all your time to him? You should read why men love bi)tches.

It sounds like you two need to talk and see what's up. Tell him you don't like being confused. Talk about it and see what pages you both are on. Don't be so available for him, do the opposite and be busy... I promise you he will want you more if remain a chase to him.

I know I shouldn't be snoooping but he knows I know his password to myspace and he sent a message to some random girl introuducing himself saying she is the most beautiful thing he has laid eyes on and he knows it was random but he is going through a break up and just wanted to let her know he tried talking to her. I don't know if I should confront him, because he said he wasn't considering himself single

I know i shouldnt be snoooping but he knows i know his password to myspace and he sent a message to some random girl introuducing himself saying she is the most beautiful thing he has laid eyes on and he knows it was random but he is going through a break up and just wanted to let her know he tried talking to her. I don't know if i should confront him, because he said he wasnt considering himself single

Umm... he pretty much wants to break up with you then.

We both have devoted all our time to each other, and yes I bought that book a few weeks ago haven't got to read it. And as far as you saying he wants to break up with me, why wouldn't he just say it. And the thing is he is messaging a girl who doesn't even live in the states, its like he is desperate, because he has no friends either.

For whatever reason he put you on the back burner. Bet that if he gets something going with another all he has to do is slowly stop talking to you without the emotional break up.

If it doesn't work with her, your still there for him. If its not her, then it will be someone else. Your hope of a future with him is not realistic because of this. You would be settling, if he decides to pursue you and not another.

Never make a person a priority in your life, while allowing them to make you a option in theirs.

He wasn't trying to talk to someone interesting it was like she was a slut

I can't explain it , my boyfriend is a jewish guy, who wants to date a white jewish girl , his parents have high standards, and he doesn't know anyone, this girl he messged doenst live in our state and she is hispanic I think he just wants to get a response from a girl, because if he wanted to actually see soemone don't u think he would go in our own city or state?

i can't explain it , my bf is a jewish guy, who wants to date a white jewish girl , his parents have high standards, and he doesnt know anyone, this girl he messged doenst live in our state and she is hispanic I think he just wants to get a response from a girl, because if he wanted to actually see soemone dont u think he would go in our own city or state?

I laughed a bit when I read about the Jewish part.

Alright, everyone will change no matter what circumstances. One of my friends was a Muslim and when he went to SFSU (San Francisco State Univ.), he drank a lot of alcohol, smoked weed/hash/pot, had random sexual acts, ate all sorts of meat etc. which broke all the Islamic Qu'Ran laws.

Regardless of religion and parental high expectations, people will not obey all rules.