I am a hard working student and I finished high school at the age of 16 and now I'm in my first year of college. In my junior year of high school I meet this guy who I love so much right now. He has helped me with my personal issues with my mom and family and I helped him with his personal issues and habits. He is now 19 and he's looking for an apartment. I want to move in with him but I can't because I'm still under age and my mom doesn't want me too nor does my family. I don't just want to move in with him just to be with him but I also want to get some what away from my mom and experience new things. I feel like I'm always on my toes when she's around. She expects a lot out from me since I'm the oldest for example, Since I'm a girl she wants me to cook, clean, and take care of my two brothers who are 12 years old and 2 months old.

This passed week I've gotten sick and my thoart was hurt so my mom told me not to take care of baby because she doesn't want him to get sick and I said OK. And this week is the week that college starts, Monday thur Thursday I have been at the college walking to class to class and trying to fix my schedule. Its my first year and I'm learning how college works. Most of the week I didn't eat all day because we had a lot of money. My mom said to ask her boyfriend who doesn't work and has been living with us for about a year now. I didn't want to ask him because I knew he knew I didn't have any money. My boyfirend picked me up everyday from school and takes me home and we hang out at my house. My body hasn't had the time to fully recover from being sick and me working myself all day in the hot sun or cold rooms, I just don't feel good after school. I get drop of at campus around 8-9 and get picked up around 5-6. Since my moms boyfriend isn't working he watchs the baby and we only have one ride. My mom tells me to call him when I need to get picked up but I rather go with my boyfriend then with him because we have to pick up my mom and brother then sit in traffic all the way home and after a few years doing that I just don't want to anymore. Besides my boyfriend always know how to make me smile when I'm down :)

Well this Friday morning I didn't have to go to school but I wanted to because I could get my schedule fix to were it can be easyer for me and I was planning to take a the accuplacer test again. Usually I get woken up but this morning no one woke me, I woke right when everyone was about to leave. I went into my moms room and I was kind of grouchy because I wasn't ready and they thought I was staying because I have no school. Anyway I had a little tones when I asked my mom why I wasn't woken up and she got mad and said "Are we suppose to wake u up?" and I know its my reponabitily to wake up but lately they been wake me up so I relid on them. Then she also said that I didn't want to take care of baby, that I was avoiding him, which is stupid because I've been dealing with school and trying to get over my cold.

When baby was born I helped my mom and her boyfriend take care of baby and you can say I took care of him just as much as they did but just a little bit more. I washed his clothes, put the clothes away, feed him, wash his bottles, give him baths, changed him and I got his stuff packed when we leave to grandmas for the weekend or even just going to the store. This week my mom and her boyfriend have been taken care of him. So I thought they were being understanding know that I am getting ready for college and that I'm sick. But no This morning she said that I didn't want to take care of my brother which pissed me off so much and she thinks that I don't want to take care of him because I told her my boyfirend said I watch baby more then she does so she brought him into it. :mad: then she says I don't help out around the house and that's all I didn't the past month. I made sure that the kitchen was clean, the floors were mopped, the dinning room floor was vacuum as well as the living room floor, I made sure the couches were fix and looked nice, I washed baby's clothes, towels, and my clothes, and I give the dog baths and clean the bathrooms. No one does that besides me. The only thing I don't like to do is the dishes and my 12 year old brother does that and lately this week my moms boyfriend has been doing it. After all that, She has the nerves to tell me that I am avoiding taken care of my baby brother and that I don't help. That pisses me off and I don't want to live with someone who isn't going to appreate my help.

The thing is that my family and my mom don't want me to have a boyfriend but yet my mom allows me to and now I want to move in with him... The only thing that I like to do to enjoy myself is watch movies or be with my boyfirend... I don't know what to do... I want to move out and get on my own so I can live my life but I can't because I'm not 18 yet... :confused: and to top it all off my mom brithday is tomorrow and she wants to go out of town and my body is tried and today I'm cleaning the house... all I want to do is relax and enjoy myself... :(

All I want to do is relax and enjoy myself.... :(

It is a hard transition from child to adult. Remember that you are still living in her house and you didn't mention paying any rent. Helping around the house will be expected as long as you're living there. When you move out you will still have responsibilities around the house plus the bills every month.

If you are getting along with your Mom enjoy the time you have with your family. Very soon you will be gone and all you'll have are the memories. It will be easier to focus on your school if you don't have to work full or part time to pay the rent.

Be careful not to take your mother for granted while you're feeling like you're being taken for granted. When life starts coming at you fast pause for a second and catch your breathe.

So to answer your question “What should I do?” Enjoy life and don't take your family for granted (even if they are taking you for granted). When you are 18 you'll have to decide if you still want to move out. Until then cherish each moment.

When you are 18 you’ll have to decide if you still want to move out.

... And,believe me,it will happen soon enough!!


Until then cherish each moment...

Take one day at a time as,once it's in the past,you can't get it back :(
Also,all this work that you're doing around the house,is good practice for when you leave.

After all,as you've said,you're now in your first year of college. You could transfer your skills at home,to help you at college. :D

All the very best with your studies :)

The thing is that my family and my mom don't want me to have a boyfriend but yet my mom allows me to and now i want to move in with him.... The only thing that i like to do to enjoy myself is watch movies or be with my boyfirend..... I don't know what to do... I want to move out and get on my own so i can live my life but i can't because im not 18 yet... :confused: and to top it all off my mom brithday is tomorrow and she wants to go out of town and and my body is tried and today i'm cleaning the house... all i want to do is relax and enjoy myself.... :(


Your mother is probably very concerned about your ability to make sound judgments - when you were picked up for shoplifting she did come and get you, I don't know who is going to pay the ticket and it probably scared her that you are making decisions which are not appropriate.

I realize you are angry about getting caught shoplifting and think it was "unfair" to have to make restitution.

This probably worries her.

Be a good idea to get yourself prepared to live your life, after you become of age. Trust me, as bad as you think you have it now, the stakes are a lot higher in real life, when you have to support yourself. You may have your freedom, but you will also have responsibilities also.

Getting away from mom or out of the house, is not a good reason to live with your b/f. Being an adult is not always fun, and games, but reality is a good teacher.