j_daniels55
Sep 2, 2008, 02:31 PM
Well I know this has been on here before, but I don't need advice about other people, I need advice about my situation which really isn't all that different but let me get to the details.
Ok, I dated this girl for a year, and in the last month of our relationship I got, rather selfish and needy, not good on my part I know. So for the first 2 days I started to beg and plead with her to come back (and that does not help at all). She told me she didn't want to speak to me for a while and wanted to move on. I was heart broken but took it for what it was worth. So for 4 days I made no contact with her. In that 4 days I decided what the heck I'm free lets go meet some new girls, not to date but to see where things go, and one of them one night kissed me. Well my ex found out and one of our common friends told me I should call her and tell her why, so I did just that. Well the phone call should have only been like 5 minutes, and then I told her about the other girls and explained myself. Well I expected her to say well good go on with your life, I got the opposite, she said how could I do that it was too soon and so on. So I replied you broke it off me me its done, I'm not going to have a hole in my plate with so much on it. Now at this time I have been going to the gym and working on myself which has been real good to me. Now I have confidence again and feel really good, so I after she started to cry about how she still loved me and couldn't come back right now cause she needed to be single for a while and get herself together and the I bad thing again, went into needy mode. So I asked her if I could visit her and she said yes, my mistake. So when I went to see her she said she still cared for me, I got upset and then she does what I really didn't think would happen, she kissed me. So I asked her if we could go on a date and she said yes. Well that was good and all but now one of the girls that I went out with asked me out. So naturally I had to tell her the truth, at least I thought I did but I guess I really shouldn't have. So when I told her she got, well, hot under the collar, telling me why do I need her anymore, I have everyone after me, she went as far as to call me a scumbag. So I let her calm down a bit and called her 2 days later and asked her if we could go out the following weekend because by this time the last date has past and I did that stupid mistake, now she tells me she has to think about it, she tells me that if she went back out with me I would go back to my ways in a month. So now I ask her if I can call her on Monday to see what's up and she said sure. Well since then I have read about people going no contact which makes the ex wonder why hasn't he called me or stuff to that nature. So I never called, I wanted to though. So my question is, does absence make the heart grow founder if she saw that I wasn't there, and does her actions about the other women means she still cares? I have only been in no contact for 4 days, and like everyone else in this world its killing me. Am I really doing this the right way? Going through all the changes and working out has made me feel better and more leveled headed, but its also made me realize that I can live life with out her, but I prefer to have a life with her. Do I still have a shot to get her back, I figured I would give her a month and then call her and just ask to hang out.
Ok, I dated this girl for a year, and in the last month of our relationship I got, rather selfish and needy, not good on my part I know. So for the first 2 days I started to beg and plead with her to come back (and that does not help at all). She told me she didn't want to speak to me for a while and wanted to move on. I was heart broken but took it for what it was worth. So for 4 days I made no contact with her. In that 4 days I decided what the heck I'm free lets go meet some new girls, not to date but to see where things go, and one of them one night kissed me. Well my ex found out and one of our common friends told me I should call her and tell her why, so I did just that. Well the phone call should have only been like 5 minutes, and then I told her about the other girls and explained myself. Well I expected her to say well good go on with your life, I got the opposite, she said how could I do that it was too soon and so on. So I replied you broke it off me me its done, I'm not going to have a hole in my plate with so much on it. Now at this time I have been going to the gym and working on myself which has been real good to me. Now I have confidence again and feel really good, so I after she started to cry about how she still loved me and couldn't come back right now cause she needed to be single for a while and get herself together and the I bad thing again, went into needy mode. So I asked her if I could visit her and she said yes, my mistake. So when I went to see her she said she still cared for me, I got upset and then she does what I really didn't think would happen, she kissed me. So I asked her if we could go on a date and she said yes. Well that was good and all but now one of the girls that I went out with asked me out. So naturally I had to tell her the truth, at least I thought I did but I guess I really shouldn't have. So when I told her she got, well, hot under the collar, telling me why do I need her anymore, I have everyone after me, she went as far as to call me a scumbag. So I let her calm down a bit and called her 2 days later and asked her if we could go out the following weekend because by this time the last date has past and I did that stupid mistake, now she tells me she has to think about it, she tells me that if she went back out with me I would go back to my ways in a month. So now I ask her if I can call her on Monday to see what's up and she said sure. Well since then I have read about people going no contact which makes the ex wonder why hasn't he called me or stuff to that nature. So I never called, I wanted to though. So my question is, does absence make the heart grow founder if she saw that I wasn't there, and does her actions about the other women means she still cares? I have only been in no contact for 4 days, and like everyone else in this world its killing me. Am I really doing this the right way? Going through all the changes and working out has made me feel better and more leveled headed, but its also made me realize that I can live life with out her, but I prefer to have a life with her. Do I still have a shot to get her back, I figured I would give her a month and then call her and just ask to hang out.