ZeroGrav1984
Aug 31, 2008, 09:56 PM
Greetings.
I'm a 24 year-old who's had absolutely no success with girls or dating. I've had one girlfriend in my life, but our relationship was, in no sense, "intimate", so I'm completely lacking experience in dating. There have been a few times when I've asked girls out, but they've all played games with me and strung me along, and just couldn't say "no" to me. It's been very hurtful.
Recently, my friend of four years or so came out of a tumultuous relationship (about two months ago now). We started hanging around a lot more, and I told her (in a note) that I had feelings for her. She seemed very optimistic and receptive and told me that she would "get back to me" in a note of her own. We haven't talked about that note since. It's been about a month now.
We've been hanging out a lot more than we used to, and sometimes I think she might be dropping me hints, but it's hard to tell. I'd like to hang out with her a lot more, but I'm afraid I may be smothering her. When we do hang around, I've been avoiding the issue or making moves, and have basically been keeping our relationship platonic.
But now, I'm afraid that my friend is playing the same game that everyone else did, and is just avoiding telling me "no". Should I tell her I'd like to talk to her about how she feels about me, or would this be too forward? Should I wait to see if she ever brings up the note again? Please help!
I'm a 24 year-old who's had absolutely no success with girls or dating. I've had one girlfriend in my life, but our relationship was, in no sense, "intimate", so I'm completely lacking experience in dating. There have been a few times when I've asked girls out, but they've all played games with me and strung me along, and just couldn't say "no" to me. It's been very hurtful.
Recently, my friend of four years or so came out of a tumultuous relationship (about two months ago now). We started hanging around a lot more, and I told her (in a note) that I had feelings for her. She seemed very optimistic and receptive and told me that she would "get back to me" in a note of her own. We haven't talked about that note since. It's been about a month now.
We've been hanging out a lot more than we used to, and sometimes I think she might be dropping me hints, but it's hard to tell. I'd like to hang out with her a lot more, but I'm afraid I may be smothering her. When we do hang around, I've been avoiding the issue or making moves, and have basically been keeping our relationship platonic.
But now, I'm afraid that my friend is playing the same game that everyone else did, and is just avoiding telling me "no". Should I tell her I'd like to talk to her about how she feels about me, or would this be too forward? Should I wait to see if she ever brings up the note again? Please help!