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prideandjoy
Aug 30, 2008, 07:07 PM
[F]First of all, me and my boyfriend have been together for over a half a year now, no one knows that were even together. And on top of that, my parents don't even know that I've had sex. I'm going to be 17 in less than a month, and lets just say, he's a few years older than me... Were close and so happy we have each other. He had told me a while ago that when he was younger he was in an accident and he couldn't have kids, I was kind of bummed out after hearing that, but it wasn't going to change how I felt about him. He also told me that he had been with another girl for 2.5 years and tried to have a kid with her, but it never happened... so, when I started feeling like I did, I didn't think nothing of it, I thought I just had a little bit of the flu, but it didn't stop, and it wasn't getting sick like I would if It was the flu. So, we ended up getting a test and it was positive. I couldn't believe it, I still cant. There is no way that we are going to give it up or get an abortion, its exactly like we were meant to be together. Were so happy now, and I just wish that I could share that with everyone else. But I already know that no one will accept him, or that I'm having his baby. And I don't want to stay around my house while I'm pregnant, because I want him with me. Also, there's not many jobs around here, and its going to be hard. So I'd like to leave, but I don't know how to tell my family that I'm pregnant and I want to leave here. I just want to start my own family far away from here, but I'm just worried about what someone could do if they found out because of our age difference and all the laws I just wish that I knew all my limits. And I can't be without him through this, and there is no way that he should not be able to be with his kid. I'd just like some advice from someone so I have an idea of what to do... :confused:

DoulaLC
Aug 30, 2008, 07:31 PM
Is he in a position to be able to support you and the baby? While you could possibly work for awhile, there is always the possibility that you may not be able to. Any ideas of where you would go? How would you get there? How you would pay to set up a home? Would you be able to finish your education? What about his family, would they be of any help? These are just a few of the questions you will have to consider.
What's done is done, but I would have wondered about his telling you he was unable to have children due to an accident when he was younger, and yet he then says he tried to get a previous girlfriend pregnant.
There are state agencies that can help you out with some of the issues you will face. Might want to ask about them at your health department, planned parenthood, pregnancy center, or doctor's office.
Obviously your parents will need to know sooner or later... might be best to make sure you have a plan in place and tell them as soon as possible. They may surprise you and become supportive, after the initial shock wears off, or they may not, but better you tell them before they hear it somewhere else.

prideandjoy
Aug 30, 2008, 08:20 PM
Is he in a position to be able to support you and the baby? While you could possibly work for awhile, there is always the possibility that you may not be able to. Any ideas of where you would go? How would you get there? How you would pay to set up a home? Would you be able to finish your education? What about his family, would they be of any help? These are just a few of the questions you will have to consider.
What's done is done, but I would have wondered about his telling you he was unable to have children due to an accident when he was younger, and yet he then says he tried to get a previous girlfriend pregnant.
There are state agencies that can help you out with some of the issues you will face. Might want to ask about them at your health department, planned parenthood, pregnancy center, or doctor's office.
Obviously your parents will need to know sooner or later....might be best to make sure you have a plan in place and tell them as soon as possible. They may surprise you and become supportive, after the initial shock wears off, or they may not, but better you tell them before they hear it somewhere else.


I'm sure that we would be fine, and his family would help us. I just don't want my family to get in the way. If they want to help that would be fine, but if their not going to be supportive or understand how I feel about this I don't want to be anywhere around them. And I also want him to be with me through all of this. And although I live with my dad and we have a huge house, there is no possible way I see my dad letting him stay here, but if we move, he can get a job that pays so much better than the one that he has now and we would be better off.
I'm pretty sure that when he told me about his X-girlfriend, he just meant that they tried for that long, but nothing happened, and then their relationship diddnt work out... I guess if he diddnt tell me the truth about that I'll find out the hard way.
I really appreciate your imput about this, I've got to figure out what the next thing to do is, and your advice really helped out... If you got anymore let me know, because I could use all the help I can get about this.