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xnix
Aug 27, 2008, 05:18 PM
My boyfriend is a little older than me. He's a muslim and I'm not so its hard for us in terms of his family accepting me. He wanted a baby so badly he begging me to have a kid for him. At first I didn't want to then I realised that I loved him and I wanted a part of him with me forever so we conceived it.

Some time went by and I found out that I was 8 weeks pregnant. I don't know if it was because of his family but told me he wants me to get rid of it. He manipulated me and guilted me into it. I didn't know how I let him play mind games with me. Even on the day of the termination I begged him not to make me go through with it but he insisted I do. So I did.

Literally as soon as I came out and he saw me he said what have we done I am so sorry. I became very depressed. I had nightmares about it. It was really traumatic for me espcially since I had NOBODY to to talk to about it. I really wanted that baby more than anything. He realised that he made a mistake and that he wanted his baby back so after a week we started trying again. We had sex about every other day for 2 weeks. It is now 3 weeks since we started trying to conceive again and 4 weeks since we had the op done.

I took a home pregnancy test yesterday and it came up positive. The lines were very strong and not faint. I know that the hormones from the last pregnancy could still be in my body so that might ulter the results but I just want to know:
HOW LIKELY IS IT THAT I AM PREGNANT AND WHEN IS THE EARLIEST TIME I CAN GO AND HAVE A SCAN TO MAKE SURE?

DoulaLC
Aug 28, 2008, 03:26 AM
If you had sex, particularly unprotected sex, pregnancy will be possible. A bigger question might be why are you with this man? You can love someone, but that doesn't mean they are the best partner for you.
Sorry if that is harsh, but it sounds like he is using you to get what he wants, when he wants it, and yet he is still swayed by what his family will think, and needs to be in control. You said it yourself, he manipulated you into having an abortion, then talked you into getting pregnant again? Scary stuff... be very careful.