OK so I'm here on a kibbutz in israel and I have a 16 year old girlfriend I'm 18 but I'm from another country. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 months... thing is when we hang out alone there's hardly anything to talk about between us and I think she might still be uncomfortable around me even though she says she's not. I have my own bedroom and she comes and chills... thing is she coems for the same reason I want her to come(I think) and its not sex its just foreplay.. I don't know if she wants it though I mean we sit on my bed looking at each other then at things and I don't know whether I should just kiss her to get it started or what. Can anyone help me on what I should do about maybe the "uncomfortable feeling" or the whole forplay thing and what I can say or do to get her to be more open with me... we were just now hanging out on things and I was thinking so hard for things to say but I just couldn't think of anything and I'm usually a talkative person and we sit ion silence a lot which feels like an awkwarrd silence. So she got up and said she was tired and she was going to sleep so we kissed and she started grabbing and holding me then we stopped kissing and she went. I then smsed her I'm in my room if you want to chill if you can't sleep and she said sorry babe not tonight:).shes on Facebook now and we aren't chatting :S!! Help someone please??

I forgot to mention during this time she broke up with me then 2 weeks later wanted to get back with me... we been back together for like 5 days

SOMEONE PLEASE :'( I'm supposed to be enjoying this and I want to with her but I can't without working these things out so p[lease help me

OK so I'm here on a kibbutz in israel and I have a 16 year old girlfriend I'm 18 but I'm from another country. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 months... thing is when we hang out alone there's hardly anything to talk about between us and I think she might still be uncomfortable around me even though she says she's not. I have my own bedroom and she comes and chills... thing is she coems for the same reason I want her to come(I think) and its not sex its just foreplay.. I don't know if she wants it though I mean we sit on my bed looking at each other then at things and I don't know whether I should just kiss her to get it started or what. Can anyone help me on what I should do about maybe the "uncomfortable feeling" or the whole forplay thing and what I can say or do to get her to be more open with me... we were just now hanging out on things and I was thinking so hard for things to say but I just couldn't think of anything and I'm usually a talkative person and we sit ion silence a lot which feels like an awkwarrd silence. So she got up and said she was tired and she was going to sleep so we kissed and she started grabbing and holding me then we stopped kissing and she went. I then smsed her I'm in my room if you want to chill if you can't sleep and she said sorry babe not tonight.shes on Facebook now and we aren't chatting :S!! Help someone please??
We broke up and are now back together for 4 days by the way so?? Yes I know I posted this before but I wanted to change the subject

Why don't you two try to rent some DVDs so you can watch them together then have something to talk about after? Try asking her how her day was. Get to know her more. Don't just stare at the walls for goodness sake. Tell her about your day, or your most embarrassing moment or SOMETHING!! Get the ball rolling, talk about your and her interests. What kind of music she likes. Pick a topic.

I would but already spoken about all of that like the first night we hooked up and I ask her how her day was. Embarrassing moment? yeah randomly saying that isn't going to make it weird :P?? I'm not sure she's weird all the girls that live here are

You need to do something without the hormones involved and forget all the horniness for awhile. Its only been 2 months. Get out and do something, she's probably board to death! Since you guys are in your teens I have a few suggestions:

1. Go ride go carts
2. Batting cages
3. Zoo
4. water parks
5. concerts
6. Amusment parks
7. Roller Bladding
8. Get some friends together and have a pizza party, this will give the both of you a chance to get to know eachothers friends and learn something more about each other.

Any of these sound like something you might be interested in trying?

You, I don't think go carts, batting cages, zoo's, concerts, amus. Parks, actually EXIST in kibbutz's LMAAAAOOOOO! However, those were all super mega awesome suggestions, say if you were not in kibbutz or even Israel, for that matter... (No offence akez).

Well, I wonder how you would feel asking her if you make her feel uncomfortable. Say, "Hey, i get the feeling i make you a bit uncomfortable". Then say, "I hope not because i really like you". Now you've put it out there... telling her not only do you like her but you really feel like she's uncomfortable. Let her react to that. Maybe she's just the quiet type. Or maybe you make her nervous.. or she's having a hard time at home w/ her parentals. (or maybe there's something wrong w/ her?), no disrespect. If she's never going to chill then perhaps she's just not worth it... but IF she's like this girl that has you totally mesmerized... then just keep an open line of communication about how quiet she is and how you get the feeling that she's not feeling comfortable in your company. Maybe you mesmerize HER... and she's like in heat every time you're aroundddddd!! :O lol

LOL, that is super funny! I didn't pay attention to where he said he was from. Sorry! Ok, more thought... (running and ducking)

OK,
1.play a board game,
2.cook something together,
3.video games,
4.cuddle up and read,
5.watch a movie while holding hands,
6.put on some music and dance with her, not just slow music. Get your boogie on!

Im trying here!

Yeah yeah none exist on kibbutz and all her friends are good friends of mine so we always chilling togethter with them and I said that uncomfortable thing already she says she's not??

well if she's not uncomfortable then this might very well BE her personality. Maybe's she's chill like that... perhaps YOU need to learn to feel OK w/ random/awkward silence... hmmm?

Cursed - Get a new chick! Its not going to change sadly! Usually when people are content, comfortable and relaxed they tend to talk. Its been long enough to suffer through the painful, awful silence. Sorry man... it is what it is. Sounds like you've done all you can.

Lol hah don't know I give up hhahhahahahahahahhahahhahahahahahahah

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Keep it as a group, and hang out, and leave the private staring party altogether alone.

OK well now I know she doesn't want it god I give up we went to my room the other night and we started kissing we moved towards the bed and she lay down I was over her started kissing her then moved to her neck and I could hear she was getting turned on then we stopped all of a sudden and she said sorry I don't want to I asked why she said she was sweaty and she feels uncomfortable being sweaty and me taking her clothes off when she's like that sigh she's looking for ing excuses WHAT DO I DO? >??

Back off the physical stuff, and have you noticed the personal communications is non existent? Could it be just lust between you, and nothing else?