This is about 2 sisters. I don't know who is right. Their parents were alive in 1994 when this began. Their parents owned a home. The home was in both sisters name. In 1996 one sister had to file bankrupt. So her name was taken off the house. But if any things was to happen the sell of the house would still be split. Years passed. In Oct. 2002 mother took sick one daughter asked her mother if she wanted her to move in with parents to help take care of mother and father, Answers was yes. She said she would move in right after the holidays. Mother died before the holidays were over. But moved in to take care of father the first week of January. Father had the beginning of Alhizmers. She took care of him for 1 1/2 years. With no help from other sister. Was hard so she moved out. Got an apartment. Then the other sister wanted to rent a house and asked for the two of them to share the cost of the house and move in together. So they did. For about 4 months things were kind of OK. The sister who wanted to rent the house had a boyfriend. He stayed in the house most of the time. But the two sister were the only ones paying the bills. One evening the 3 of them went out for a few beers. After 1 1/2 beers, The boyfriend called the other sister a bad name 2 times she slapped him and walked away he then came back to she and ended up pushing her out the door whiched ended up breaking her ankle. She had to go to hospital. Ankle was so badly broke she had to stay in hospital for 4 days a plate and screws were put in both sides of her ankle. She had no insurance, she went to ploice station to press charges against him to help pay for medical bills. A program to help people with no insurance steps in and help her pay for 80% of her bills. She dropped the charges against him to keep peace with her sister. Things didn't get any better with the 2 sisters. The one sister told the one with the broken ankle she had to move out in 2 weeks while she was still in crutches, out of work on disabilty, The sister did end up gaving her until she was off crutches. So she did move out and back with her father told care of him again with no help. Took him to all his doctor appointments. Hair cuts, any thing he needed.he wanted to get a new car so she went with him to find one they did. He bought it. About 4 months down the road he wanted to buy this liitle car for 2 hundred, and wanted to give that daughter his car he just bought to her for helping out. But he said not to tell the other daughter. So she didn't tell her. The father was getting worse to the point were the daughter living with him was losing time from work because of the things that he was doing mostly at night were she wasn't getting any sleep. She would called the other daughter when these things would happen in the night, but she wouldn't help. Said she had to work in the morning. The daughter living with him took care of all his needs paid out of her own pocket for this life line each month for him. Paid for meal on wheels to bring meals to him when she had to work. It came to a point that he got to bad she had to put him in an adult home. He was there 1 week when the other sister took him out and took him back home to the other sister while she was at work. She didn't know any thing about it until she got home from work. 1 1/2 years passed that he was way to bad to stay alone for any time. So she talked to the family about putting him in a nursing home they all agreed. To put him in a nursing home, There was a lot of time to get together from banks, papers that had to be signed. And other things which only the one daughter did all of them. Father collected a lot of stuff. Cellar was full and 2 stall garage full. Things neede to be cleaned out and they were going to have a garage sale, the one sister called the other one to tell her she was cleaning these things out to come and help but she didn't help. The day of the sale. She was there to collect her share. The daughter that took care of her father is still living in the house. The house is only worth $24,900 Not a lot of money.
Their father died July 2007. Father funeral was not all paid for, so the daughter living in the house is paying for that $1,212 and flowers $220. She is paying the taxes on the house and any work that has to be done on the house. Which is enough because of it being a very old and very small home. She still lives in the house. The other sister wants her to sell the house and split the money from the sell of the house. The sister living in the house doesn't see that as being right. Who is right? Please help this has stopped the sisters from talking.

Hi smallsteps... wow!. that's quite a story.

I think I have it right in my mind... 2 sisters, 1helpful other selfish.

Initial house in both their names, but 1 sister went bankrupt so house is now in the other sisters name only.

If both their names are on the deeds to the house and the wish of your parents was to split the house value when sold, then that would have to be honoured, unless some agreement can be made between them both... usually one buying the other out.

If there is only I sister on the deeds to the house and no mention of sharing proceeds of house if sold,and no will to clarify one way or another, then the sister demanding the sale would have to go through the courts legal process to decide whether or not there is a case to answer.

My advice to the sister who has cared for her parents and still lives in the house is... seek legal advice

Goodluck

Hi smallsteps ....wow!... thats quite a story.

I think i have it right in my mind ..... 2 sisters, 1helpful other selfish.

Initial house in both their names, but 1 sister went bankrupt so house is now in the other sisters name only.

If both their names are on the deeds to the house and the wish of your parents was to split the house value when sold, then that would have to be honoured, unless some agreement can be made between them both....usually one buying the other out.

If there is only i sister on the deeds to the house and no mention of sharing proceeds of house if sold,and no will to clarify one way or another, then the sister demanding the sale would have to go through the courts legal process to decide wether or not there is a case to answer.

My advice to the sister who has cared for her parents and still lives in the house is......seek legal advice

Goodluck You have this right. The parents will has nothing in it about the house it was put in the daughters name in the case they were to ever go in a nursing home and the wouldn't lose the house. So legally the daughter who did the caring really owns the house legally. The daughter who did the caring feels after what she has none and the money she spend on fathers, funeral, meals on wheels. Hair cuts, life line and mush more. And also if she would have pressed charges against other sisters boyfriend it would have cost him at least $10,000. The other sister who didn't do much wants them to sell the house and have 1/2 the money.

Hi... I totally understand where the caring sister is coming from,the problem is if both sisters names are on the deeds to the house,then they would have joint ownership, in which case, the selfish sister could by law make the caring sister sell the property and divide the proceeds.

I think the caring sister must get some legal advice, it could be that there is a case to argue given the facts and hopefully the caring sister will win.

Given all of the expenses that the caring sister has already paid for... funeral etc... it could be ruled that should the house be sold then the selfish sister will receive not half of the proceeds but a lesser amount due to the bills that the caring sister has already paid.

My advice is please go and see a solicitor, put your story to him and he will most definitily give you legal guidance on this matter, please don't leave it, I'm sure the selfish sister will not give in until she has what she believes is rightfully hers...

Goodluck

What ever the details and story is... If the sister's agreed to share the house.. then SHARE THEY SHALL. How is all the drama and details more important that the relationship between the sisters? If they are estranged then get together and discuss it all w/out the men involved. This house belongs to both the girls. If one has bad luck w/ money, or one is fighting w/ the other's man... it's all JUNK. The girls need to just peel it back down to the original. Sisters... They're family. If one needs the house for a while then set a chalender date as to when they can finally sell the home and share the profit. It's JUST MONEY, family is more important. Just choose FAMILY... no one is right if it makes the other one wrong. Why does one have to be the winner and one the loser? Just try and understand that life is too short for this dumb heartache. Tell the sisters to sit together, have a nice dinner and chat about what works for them both. COMPROMISE. It's the other "C" word... LOL!