Hi there,

I currently live in the Channel Islands and met a lovely girl from Liverpool re online dating. She has 2 children, 1 aged 8 the other 13, I have a 12 year old girl who lives with her mum here.. I have been with my g/f for a year, see each other once a month for a few days, but she wants to come and live here but her eldest does not, and my leaving the Channel islands to come over to UK and leave my daughter, well I can't bear to leave her not yet anyway.. we see each other most nights on webcam, constantly email, text each other, and when we are together its great, but I am 40 and really want to settle down and as much as we are in love I know deep down it may end, we have spoke about it and we both get upset at the thought of leaving things, I worry and stress about most things and it became too much for my g/f that she finished with me about 3 weeks ago, I was so upset and have just started to come to terms with it when I get an email from her saying she misses me and would like us to try again, and even though friends have said leave it I have arranged to meet with her in 3 weeks time, I know when we meet the weekend will be great, then I have to return home and feel lonely and may be another 4 weeks before we meet again, this is not the way I want to have a relationship, thing is do I meet and we can talk and both try harder to make it work, she knows I struggle with the distance as does she, we are both a little jealous and insecure as we have had cheating partners, we feel comfy with each other and help each other when we are worried.. she is the most caring, lovely person I could wish to meet and the fear of losing her is too much for me, but I know I may have to except we may never be together full time... thing is what do I do..? :rolleyes:

Normally, children stays with the mother when couple separates, so your Gf's daughter is present in your decision

1. You can just visit your daughter once a week and stay with your GF.
2. You can take your daughter and all live together in different place.
3. Demand your Gf to be firm with her daughter that they should live your area.
4. You all live in different place: not yours, not hers and just visit your daughter in Channel Islands.

Roll 4 pieces of paper, numbers it 1-4 then pick if you are having a hard time to decide.

Take it one step at a time.. long distance relationships are a very strenuous situation.. I know I been there for a year without contact so you guys have it a little better I think you should just take it as it comes you guys make plans you see each other you go back.. it may seem sad but either way time away from each other makes you guys stronger this story really touches me only time will tell if you guys can make this work hopfully after some time you guy's need to be with each other overcomes most of your obsticales and it willa ll work at for the better... GOOD LUCK

Work together to solve the distance, or forget it. Communicate and compromise.