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dani04
Aug 25, 2008, 07:35 PM
Ok well Ive been with this one guy for 2 years like together... his name is zach. But it's a long distance relationship.. We seemed so close but now it seems were fading apart and I comforted him about this and he said it hurt to know that I think that. He says its him and me forever.

Well there's this other guy name andrew and well he says he loves me and he doesn't know me ethier. And I don't feel the same way. He always wants to commit suicide... and I've been stopping him. But he keeps making me promise him Im going to be the one he ends up with and I don't want that. I want to end up with zach

Then yesterday A friend of mine name Janko told me he liked me. He says he can releate to me. He is the first guy in real life that I know of that has wanted to ask me out for at least a while now and its really bugging me I want to say yes because I've never been asked out in person before but I can't I love zach.

Then there's james. Him and I have been going to school together since grade 1. We dated for a year. We have a special bond. His dad was in a bad accident this year. He was so close to dying but he made it threw. But every day for about 3 weeks I was with james non stop trying to make him feel better. Always hugging him everything. But he does like me... but he I don't think he wants to ask me out or anyhting.

I don't know what to do. I can't meet zach for another 3 years but I REALLY like him and he REALLY loves me. We talk on the phone and everything. His family knows about me, and my Family knows about him. Ive told zach about all this I think that may have been a stupid thing to do. BUt he says he trust me and he made me promise I would not leave him. And I did.and then he told me he loved me. Zach is the one I really want to be with but I don't want to hurt anyone.

Fr_Chuck
Aug 25, 2008, 07:39 PM
First no, if you have not even meet someone and won't meet them for years, that is not a relationhsip, next anyone saying they are going to kill thierself all the time, is just using you, and trying to control you, tell them you are calling the police to get them help next time ( and do it)

So the guys that are actually there in person, see all of them, and find out who you like, you don't choose anyone till you get to know them

dani04
Aug 25, 2008, 07:42 PM
So its not a relationship.. even if we have promised each other so much and have devoted so much already and promised its was us forever. No dating, no going to dances, etc..

drag_girl
Aug 25, 2008, 07:42 PM
Um well dats a hard one but you have to with your heart and if you are only going to be with someone because he wants to commit suicide that is not a good reason it mite seem like one but that is his own choice just try to talk him out of it I haven't got great advice bu follow your heart and go with the person U LIKE not a person that likes u

dani04
Aug 25, 2008, 07:44 PM
the only one I like is the long distance one. Zach. I have devoted myself and I have gaven my heart to him. I have tried to stop liking him and wheneever I do that I come back and lke him 10x more

hjpan
Aug 25, 2008, 10:39 PM
Stop fooling yourself with excuses. You don't know who you want... so keep being single until you're 100% sure.

And if I was Zach and found out your promises were just words and not reality, I'd be depressed. Guys have feelings too....

dani04
Aug 26, 2008, 08:16 PM
I know they have feeelings

hjpan
Aug 26, 2008, 09:23 PM
I know they have feeelings

But fooling around with 2 other guys?

So it is OK if you & Zach had a relationship, but Zach decided to get other girls as well?

BlakeCory
Aug 27, 2008, 04:05 PM
How did you meet Zach?

hjpan
Aug 27, 2008, 09:41 PM
How did you meet Zach?

Interweb :D