I am 20 years old and have a tiny 4 month old. Her father and I split up when I was 7 months pregnant but I decided to be civil when she was born. He saw her quite frequently and I never argued. But when she hit about 2.5 months he started to go a little crazy, calling me harassing me and. And called the cops on me trying to get me in trouble with my daughter. Finally he got really bad one night at a visit so I ran out and left with my daughter and told him that he can still see her after we get visitation set up because I don't trust him about anything. Is it wrong to not be letting him see her? Atleatst until things are determined.

Ok... Im 20 years old and have a beautiful baby girl. after i left her father i moved back with my mother at 8 months pregnant. Now i love my daughter, i am also a full time employee and full time college student. Lately the last few weeks i have been really stressed out and after my daughter goes to bed i have been going outpretty late but i still get up and do my daily routine. My mother just came at me the other day and said i was a horrible mother not putting her first and for going out all the time and if i still want to go out i need to temporarily sign my daughter over for a year or so and i can have her back when i want to grow up. Or if i go out frequently anymore she will fight me for custody. I am so scared this will happen. Yes she is a better mother but this is my first. Will you please tell me what i should do and if i am seriously in the wrong. thank you


Are you a neglectful or dangerous parent to your child? If so, I would worry. If not, I wouldn't worry.

I see both sides here - it sounds like you are stressed out. Your mother, the Grandmother, appears to be raising your child 90% of the time if you are in school, working, going out. I'm sure she is stress out.

Maybe you need to talk to somebody - both of you - or this situation will turn poisonous.

But if she is the better, more fit parent (financially, emotionally, physically available), maybe you should both see an Attorney, draw up papers acceptable to both of you, file them with the Court, grant your mother temporary guardianship - again, along lines you both can live with now and in the future.

You need a legal custody agreement in place with specific visit times