I am currently married with a child. However I was married once before and have two children with that marriage. The marriage ended due to her extra martial affairs, the children were very young, four and five. They are now 11 and 12. I pay child support and provide insurance for the children. We live in different states. She married the man she was having an affair with shorty after our divorce was final and basically he has been their father ever since. My exwife and done nothing but cause problems with my current wife, harassing phone calls, harassing emails. This has been going on for four years now and my current wife now wants to leave ,me because she can't handle the stress it causes in our marriage. It does make us argue a lot and worse our son hears the arguing. I don't want to loose my wife. I basically don't have any contact with my other two children as my ex wife has done nothing but fill their heads with lies. My question is I think its time to bring up having her current husband adopt the children and what all that includes as far as my rights and obligations. I don't mind paying child support but she does things on a whim and expects me to pay for everything. For example, she called me two weeks ago and said she was at the orthodontist and both kids were getting braces on and she needs $1000 down payment. I knew nothing about them getting braces and she also sent both billing coupon books to my house. Its things like that as well as much worse things that my current wife and I cannot deal with anymore. I am in desperate need of some advice.
Thanks

What does your child support agreement say? Does it outline certain medical/dental expenses should they arise? If it doesn't, then tell her you already pay x amount and that is all she is getting.

It says we are both responsible but basically she is saying I need to pay the full amount for both children or she wilol take me back to court.

Well first you need to get a better agreement in court, 1. no phone contact except for children, any communication between parties could be email or though a third party. So if she calls and fusses to new wife, you take her to court for contempt.

As for the money, you get what you pay set, you only pay what the document says, if she wants extra or more money you say no, and end it.

Sounds more like you merely need to inforce the agreement or get a better one written

I have told her several times not to call my home phone, to call my cell only with anything to do with the children. We have three of her #'s blocked but somehow she keeps getting through. I want to bring up having her current husband adopting the kids but I don't know where that would leave me.

It says we are both responsible but basically she is saying I need to pay the full amount for both children or she wilol take me back to court. so laugh at her and say of course take me back to court

That is what my wife said to do but Im afraid if we do I will end up paying more in child support. Can that happen?

That is what my wife said to do but Im afraid if we do I will end up paying more in child support. Can that happen?

Has anything changed with your income since the agreement was written up?

It could go up or it could go lower - it is hard to tell. But judging what you are currently going through, I would say it would be worth going back to court and setting some things straight.

As for asking the kids to be adopted - that is a very slippery slop. What if the new husband doesn't want to do that? Are you arming her with more ammunition? That maybe a subject that she needs to bring up.

And you want this man to adopt your children? Don't you care for your children?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/children/ex-wifes-bad-parenting-decisions-251538.html

Yes I am makimng a lot more. She is married to a doctor and she has never worked.

Okay, I have read your other posts. I am confused. Do you want the kids out of your life - responsibilities and all or just your ex-wife?

It sounds like you are concerned about the well being of the kids, but are kind of lost right now.

What is the priority?

I smell a troll...
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/marriage/thinking-leaving-husband-because-his-ex-wife-251549.html

At the very least somebody that thinks multiple posts will get different results.