So I was wondering if it was possible to move out of your parents home when you are 16 without getting emancipated. I have already found someone to stay with and who can take care of me. And the problem at home is I have no REAL family. We get into huge fights all the time and sometimes my step dad hits me and my mom always says I deserve it then she threatens me. Also my friend ran away when she was 16 and the police brought her back three times and on the third time they said the couldn't bring her back anymore because they had no sufficient evidence of her being in danger where she ran away to. Could I do that?

The problem with 'running away' for ONE thing is that your parents can press charges at any time they choose to. Even if they tell you and the other person they are okay with it they can change their mind. Then your friends can get in trouble for harboring a minor as well as possible other charges depending on the circumstances the police feel they can be charged with... aiding and abetting, accessory to your running away, contributing to the delinquency of a minor,

Okay. So the real question is can I move? Like I said I have a place and someone willing to take me in.

You need your parents permission and it is best to get it through the court as in adoption.
To get emancipated you have to be working and able to afford your own place and have your parents approval, NOT move in with somebody.
What state/country do you live in? Is this a family? A boyfriend? A female friend?

North carolina. And its my boyfriends grandparents who said they would take me in. And my mom would never give me permission to move.

Then you need to wait until you turn 18

But I know my mom would also never press charges or go to court.

You say she would never give you permission or go to court but the question is would she call the police and report you as a run away or missing?

You can not move with out your parents permission. You can not even be emacnipated in the states that allow emancipation if you aren't able to live on your own (not with your boy friends grandparents) you would have to prove that you have a job that will pay your rent and utilities with money left over to finish school and food. If you decide to run away your mother just has to call the police and they will bring you back and if you do it again you mother can actually let you sit in juvy for a while if they offer it to her (I've seen it happen). If you think your problems are that much worse than any other teenager then talk to your school counselor they will know who to contact in your area if they think it is bad as well.

She might call them. But she wouldnu report me. She already knows where I am most likely to go. And she wouldn't get me involved in court. Because she don't have the money. And she is too lazy to care.

She doesn't have to have money to report you or anything like that.
So you THINK you can just leave home and she will just go about her life as if you are there and not do anything??
Realistically can you tell me what you think your mom would do?
You say she already knows where you would be so all she has to do is get the police to go with her to pick you up and bring you back home. She can press charges without having the money to go through court.

Nohelp beat me to it. She dosen't need money. You are the one that needs money to be able to support yourself. She can press charges for free! She has the state on her side it would be you that would have to hire a lawyer to prove that she is an unfit parent.

What abot adoption then

Do you have someone that would be willing to adopt you? If so they can ask your mother if she would be willing to relinquish her rights. Do you have a bio father somewhere? He would also have a say in if you are able to be adopted.

You have already said your mother would not approve of anything so how do you think she is going to go for allowing you to be adopted?

My bio father doesn't want me. He hates me. He told me to never visit him. But do I have to have permission from her to be adopted if I'm being hit and cursed at and threatened

Yes!! You are still a minor you have to have your mothers permission for everything! If you are being physically abused then call family and child services or child protection (the same thing but different names depending on where you are). The can come and document all your bruses and what not and remove you from the home if they find evidence of abuse. Then you will be in foster care with one of their pre approved families taking in fosters. So, if that will be better than where you are now then do it.

You would have to get Child Protective Services involved and then they have to determine that she is abusing you which she most likely would put on a perfect mother act. Then if they were to determine she was abusive then the CPS would MAYBE consider your bf's grandparents to adopt you BUT you very easily could end up in a foster home with strangers.

My mom isn't the one doing it. Its my step dad. She is the one agreeing with it though and yelling constantly.

So now you are saying that your mother will not agree to you being emancipated but she WILL agree to you being adopted?

North carolina. And its my boyfriends grandparents who said they would take me in. And my mom would never give me permission to move.

Have you really thought about the fact that your too young to have a boyfriend with easy access ? Lets be real for a minute. You can see how many posts are about unwanted pregnancy etc here on this board and the legal questions that follow. How old is this boyfriend ? Maybe it would be best to remain where you are and stick it out till your 18. What is it your doing that your getting in trouble for ?

She just doesn't seem to want to face the fact that she can't simply move with her boyfriend and thinks there is some way her mother will allow it to happen or ignore that she just up and did it on her own when she has already said her mother will never give her permission to move, nor agree to emancipation, yet go along with adoption. She just doesn't want to accept NO as the only choice she has until 18 as long as her mother does not consent.

my bio father doesnt want me. He hates me. He told me to never visit him. But do i have to have permission from her to be adopted if im being hit and cursed at and threatened



This makes no sense. Your bio fathers doesn't want you; your stepfather abuses you; your mother goes along with the abuse. Your mother won't sign to emancipate you (and I have posted the legal guidelines for emancipation in NC below and you have to meet every condition) but she will sign to allow you to be adopted.

So - if you have someone who is emotionally and financially willing and able to support you and they can pass a stringent background check and both your bio parents will sign to allow the adoption, the party that wants to adoption you would file an Adoption Petition with the Court, present the paperwork, have a home study or two and you could be adopted.

Or - you could be emancipated if you are over 16 and present the Court with your "plan for meeting your and living expenses which plan may include a statement of employment and wages earned that is verified by the petitioner's employer."

In order to emancipated in NC you must be totally self supporting. You cannot move in with someone else and the plan is for that person to support you.

As far as running away is concerned - your mother may or may not report you "missing." If she does, you can be brought back. If she doesn't want you brought back she can petition the Court and have you placed in foster care as a chronic runaway (which usually takes more than one time running away) OR she can declare you a person in need of supervision and have you placed in a detention center.

The people who take you in can be arrested for custodial interference as well as various charges of "corrupting" a minor.

If you are being abused you can either call the Police or the local Child Protective Services, they will have a Physician examine you and then a Court hearing can be ordered. Obviously if they find you are NOT being abused you are back to the running away/being a person in need of supervision situation.

If it is found that you ARE being abused you can be put in the foster care system until someone is appointed your guardian - which, apparently, people are willing to do.

Those are your options in NC.

:D greenie JKT it sums up all her choices pretty well
But you missed one
She can stay home until 18 and just visit her boyfriend

:D greenie JKT it sums up all her choices pretty well
but you missed one
She can stay home until 18 and just visit her bf



That almost seems too easy, not nearly complicated enough! :D

Plus, now you have nothing to explain - :D

Have you really thought about the fact that your too young to have a boyfriend with easy access ? Lets be real for a minute. You can see how many posts are about unwanted pregnancy etc here on this board and the legal questions that follow. How old is this boyfriend ? Maybe it would be best to remain where you are and stick it out till your 18. What is it your doing that your getting in trouble for ? well my boyfriend is seventeen and I'm sixteen that's no big deal. And first our sex life is noones business. And its not my fault people get pregnant. That doesn't mean its going to happen to me. Its called protection kiddies. And its not my fault if they are stupid enough not to be on birth control. And I am so I can't get pregnant. And second my step dad and mom apparently don't need a reason as to why they hit me.

Plus my boyfriend DOES NOT live there. His grandparents just love me.

Well no matter what the only options you have are the ones JudyKT has listed and what we have told you. You can not simply go live with the grandparents without your mother turning you over to them unless you are willing to risk them getting in serious legal problems.
Do you really want that for them?