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hjpan
Aug 14, 2008, 11:59 AM
Sup guys & girls

Many of you know me.. LoL~ my break up was bad.. and thanks for your support!

Anyways, I've been going to community college for English class and there was this girl who is really cute (in my opinion) who I spoke a little bit. Today was our final exam so I finished a bit early. Before I stopped writing, I took out a piece of gum, chewed on the gum and wrote a small note on the gum-paper.. I wrote "hey there~ Even though we didn't really know each other, I think you're really cute. Sure, we won't see eachother but I'd like to know you a bit more. If you have facebook, add me *insert my name*.
Good luck on your finals -S-"

what would she think of that? For some reason, I got a good and bad feeling =/

Romefalls19
Aug 14, 2008, 12:25 PM
It could go anywhere man, women love confidence and that took some guts to do. You took a shot, now don't sweat it and worry if she accepts or not. You did your thing

hjpan
Aug 14, 2008, 12:27 PM
It could go anywhere man, women love confidence and that took some guts to do. You took a shot, now don't sweat it and worry if she accepts or not. You did your thing

Thanks rome :D

The issue is that she's late for class so I don't know where she'd sit =/
During the finals, she sat before me and asked me how much would the exam packet cost and such...

Romefalls19
Aug 14, 2008, 12:36 PM
Have u slipped her the note already?

Janmarie
Aug 14, 2008, 12:39 PM
Confidence!, Confidence!, Confidence! You are making great strides. As a woman I think this is very cute in you and she will too :-)

hjpan
Aug 14, 2008, 12:45 PM
Have u slipped her the note already?


Well, I got up.. packed my backpack and walked slowly.. as I passed her, I slipped the tiny note on her desk xD

Then I picked up my other papers and left

hjpan
Aug 14, 2008, 12:46 PM
Confidence!, Confidence!, Confidence! You are making great strides. As a woman I think this is very cute in you and she will too :-)


Thank you xD

Although, I found her on Facebook :O

She's a senior in high school xD

Janmarie
Aug 14, 2008, 12:48 PM
That makes it even more cuter....so innocent yet brilliant.

hjpan
Aug 14, 2008, 12:59 PM
That makes it even more cuter....so innocent yet brilliant.

haha :D

thank you :D

I'm just nervous cause I don't know if she'll add me or not =/

hjpan
Aug 14, 2008, 01:25 PM
There's also another uncertainty I am facing..

there is a 15 year old girl who likes me... as a relationship status even though we're just friends. I met her on a public forum (not AMHD)...
She lives in Texas, I live in California... so another LDR

any ideas?

lmangileri
Aug 14, 2008, 01:37 PM
I wouldn't try the long distance thing, personally. See where it goes with the other girl =)

liz28
Aug 14, 2008, 02:58 PM
Since your 19, if I remember right, just note that the age of consent in Texas is 17. There nothing wrong with being friends but a simple kiss could get you in trouble.

Glad your over your ex, did you ever think you would be here? Not a few months ago! Hope the girl likes the note.

hjpan
Aug 14, 2008, 08:10 PM
Since your 19, if I remember right, just note that the age of consent in Texas is 17. There nothing wrong with being friends but a simple kiss could get you in trouble.

Glad your over your ex, did you ever think you would be here? Not a few months ago! Hope the girl likes the note.

Yeh.. I'm pretty over my ex...

it's just I don't know if the girl wants to be friends or not =/

I still haven't gotten any confirmation from her D;

hjpan
Aug 14, 2008, 08:11 PM
I wouldn't try the long distance thing, personally. See where it goes with the other girl =)

Well.. the girl I slipped a note may be a long distance as well cause I'm in Southern Cali and she's up north... =/

friend4u178
Aug 14, 2008, 09:25 PM
I think you did the right thing Hj... nothing ventured nothing gained right?

hjpan
Aug 14, 2008, 09:34 PM
I think you did thee right thing Hj.................nothing ventured nothing gained right?


I did venture by slipping a note... but she hasn't PM on Facebook or add me =/

Guess it didn't work out D;

friend4u178
Aug 14, 2008, 09:37 PM
I did venture by slipping a note... but she hasn't PM on facebook or add me =/

Guess it didn't work out D;

Be patient mate... she may not have yet but its only day 1

hjpan
Aug 14, 2008, 09:40 PM
Be patient mate...............she may not have yet but its only day 1


Thanks

How long should I give her time xD?

friend4u178
Aug 14, 2008, 09:42 PM
Thanks

How long should I give her time xD?

Lol... not really your decision right.

As long as it takes , if she does then great , if she doesn't so be it you gave it a try.

hjpan
Aug 14, 2008, 10:16 PM
lol................not really your decision right.

As long as it takes , if she does then great , if she doesn't so be it you gave it a try.
Give her a week?

friend4u178
Aug 14, 2008, 10:35 PM
Give her a week?

Why do you want to put a time limit on it?

Janmarie
Aug 14, 2008, 11:03 PM
The fact is that you have put yourself back out there on the market and that is awesome. Don't worry so much about this one girl and how long you should wait for her to "reply" to your little note. You are free to persue anyone you like providing they are of age and you don't get yourself in trouble :-) This is like a baby step into getting back on track and living your life again. Meet others and slip all the notes you want to. I actually know people who make up business cards with all there contact information including, facebooks, myspace etc and leave them on tables at cafe's and coffee shops. Warning though...you may end up with more females then you can shake a stick at!!

But you get the point.

hjpan
Aug 14, 2008, 11:06 PM
Why do you want to put a time limit on it?

Well.. if she doesn't respond.. then why wait more?

Janmarie
Aug 14, 2008, 11:06 PM
PS....some of these people who do the business card thing are men in there 30's and 40's...but whatever works I guess.

hjpan
Aug 14, 2008, 11:07 PM
The fact is that you have put yourself back out there on the market and that is awesome. Don't worry so much about this one girl and how long you should wait for her to "reply" to your little note. You are free to persue anyone you like providing they are of age and you don't get yourself in trouble :-) This is like a baby step into getting back on track and living your life again. Meet others and slip all the notes you want to. I actually know people who make up business cards with all there contact information including, facebooks, myspace etc and leave them on tables at cafe's and coffee shops. Warning though...you may end up with more females then you can shake a stick at!!

But you get the point.


Well... I really don't know who to pursue cause there are a lot of girls who aren't my type (I guess)... Not to mention the age is a factor as well as me not having a drivers license nor car =/

friend4u178
Aug 14, 2008, 11:11 PM
Well.. if she doesn't respond.. then why wait more?

You don't have to wait... you've done your bit , now the balls in her court so don't dwell on it.

Janmarie
Aug 14, 2008, 11:23 PM
Well if you have a perfect "girl" list then I suggest tossing it. You won't believe just how amazing people are until you get to know them. I had a perfect man list once...he had to be tall because I am 5'6 and like to wear heels and it would feel weird to be with someone shorter then I..he had to be athletic and look great without his shirt on, he had to at least make a certain amount of money because I wasn't going to support his butt and he had to have the same values and likes that I liked.....you know what that led to? BORING!

So I tossed the perfect man list and met so many vibrant men that at first meeting them I would say, "He's just not my type." But after I got to know them and allowed myself to stop judging them against my likes and dislikes...Oh my God, I have never had so much fun in my life after the list was destroyed.

And guess who I am with now? A very caring, loving man who is not so tall yet still taller then I...I tossed the heels for something not so high, he is in great shape but not muscular and he makes more money then I had originally excepted. And way more handsome. The point is don't limit yourself to a certain type, you will be amazed at all the wonderful experiences awaits you when you open your mind to new possibilities.

liz28
Aug 15, 2008, 03:48 AM
I hope you put your name on the note.

hjpan
Aug 15, 2008, 07:18 AM
I hope you put your name on the note.


I did xD

hjpan
Aug 15, 2008, 08:34 AM
You don't have to wait.........................you've done your bit , now the balls in her court so don't dwell on it.


Or should I randomly send a friend-request?

Romefalls19
Aug 15, 2008, 09:11 AM
No, might come off as too pushy

hjpan
Aug 15, 2008, 09:21 AM
no, might come off as too pushy

All right :O

I'm just so nervous =/

talaniman
Aug 15, 2008, 10:02 AM
Relax and see what happens dude. While your squirming in your seat worrying what she will do, your not paying attention to what you can do NEXT. I'm quit sure she isn't the only one available for your attention. Keep a couple of packs of gum handy, just in case. Its good to see you more outgoing and less cynical. As Janmarie said throw that perfect girl list away and be open to the endless possibilities that others can offer, you would be surprised.

During my single years I liked 'em short, tall, fat, or small, blind, cripple, or crazy. Did I have a blast!!

hjpan
Aug 15, 2008, 12:05 PM
Relax and see what happens dude. While your squirming in your seat worrying what she will do, your not paying attention to what you can do NEXT. I'm quit sure she isn't the only one available for your attention. Keep a couple of packs of gum handy, just in case. Its good to see you more outgoing and less cynical. As Janmarie said throw that perfect girl list away and be open to the endless possibilities that others can offer, you would be surprised.

During my single years I liked 'em short, tall, fat, or small, blind, cripple, or crazy. Did I have a blast!!!

LoL
All right...

hjpan
Aug 15, 2008, 03:18 PM
Anyone else want to help me relieve the tension?

hjpan
Aug 15, 2008, 09:33 PM
I found out there's a 17 year old girl living about 10min drive away from my place...

I'm sort of anxious cause we just met (online)... same with the 15 year old girl in Texas...

hjpan
Aug 16, 2008, 05:38 PM
Well guys.. I gave it a shot but she didn't add me =/

talaniman
Aug 16, 2008, 06:33 PM
Quit messing with girls, and get a woman.

talaniman
Aug 16, 2008, 06:38 PM
I think it would help your cause greatly, if you would have less expectation for a relationship, and more into fun with a much broader range of people. Older females especially. I mean 15, and 17,? 19, 20,21!!

hjpan
Aug 16, 2008, 08:57 PM
Quit messing with girls, and get a woman.

Hahaha! Get a woman?


I think it would help your cause greatly, if you would have less expectation for a relationship, and more into fun with a much broader range of people. Older females especially. I mean 15, and 17, ???????????????? 19, 20,21!!!!!!!!!!!

I don't have high expectations now... It's not my fault the 15 year old girl likes me :O

hjpan
Aug 18, 2008, 04:02 PM
Thanks guys/girls

The girl I gave a note to never responded nor added me on facebook

Guess she wasn't interested... so =/

liz28
Aug 18, 2008, 04:27 PM
Their will be others.

hjpan
Aug 18, 2008, 05:32 PM
Their wil be others.

For some reason, I also ponder why my guy-friends are always flattering me about how I will have a lot of girls in the future and I'll be rich... yada yada yada