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creativeguru
Aug 14, 2008, 03:42 AM
I am25 year old from Mumbai, I meet a gal online in dec 2005 we use to chat daily for a month we become very close friends, then after a month she took my cell no she use to call me daily. We even got closer friends but she denied giving her no saying her parents won't like it so I didn’t forced her. But after ix months she gave me her no so we use to talk daily at night, I told her to meet me after every 15 days she told me to meet up, but at the end of the day she never turned up, I really got dejected evrytime she was able to convince me that because of so and so reason she was unable to come.
It happened for a year and it really affected my work life and even studies not to very large extend but you it did. On the one hand I use to think that she always cheats you so dump her but than my heart never allowed me by that time I was in deep love and very eager to meet her. She even told me about her ex boyfriend and everything related to that and even she told she have a boyfriend now and that was not true and finally one day through one of her friend I came to know that while chatting she lied me about her age, she was 16 then and told me she is 20. When I asked her about the truth she told me yes I lied to you about my age and that is the reason I never turned to meet you. I was afraid after knowing truth you will leave me. The very next day she met me, but after a month she started dating some other guy and started ignoring me. I use to ask her about that but she always denied thinking it will hurt me, she never had the time to meet me. We did met up once in a month but then its also whenever she needed something. Once it was a mobile which I gifted, then it was sim card, once it was books and that also hardly for as half and hour. She says she love me as a friend and don’t want to hurt me I really love her a lt and she even accept that no one loves her and care for her as much I do. But then she never meets me I want to spend time with her every weekend and she meets once in 2 months or so. I do not know why it is so, now she says she broke up with ex boyfriend but still mis him. She says she respect me and my love. I have feeling for her and I think I can't force her to love me if she doesn’t. I think to leave her but unable to stay without talking to her many times I tried not calling her but after a month I call up. I do not know if she loves other guy then why she is continuing with me is she respect me or because she fulfill her materialist needs. Sometime I think she is using me but then I know my love is truth and she accept that and say that is the reason she don’t leave me. Please tell me what I should do to win her love please. I know I can't force anyone to love me but I can try to get my love back

talaniman
Aug 14, 2008, 08:26 AM
Give this game up. Your believing any malarkey story she tells you. That's so pathetic, and know matter what she says, she doesn't respect you at all. Your actions tell her you have no respect for yourself, because you put up with her BS.

Come on, you can do much better for yourself, than be used by a silly girl.

Janmarie
Aug 14, 2008, 08:36 AM
So how old is she? 16 or 20? Because she is acting like a 16 year old immature brat.

This girl is playing games with you for as long as you are willing to be played with. Talaniman is correct in how much you respect yourself because allowing this to go on is not putting much value on yourself and in not doing so, she will not value you.


You are a 25 y/o man...ask yourself how much of your life are you willing to waist on such BS?

aldaine
Aug 14, 2008, 08:45 AM
Your already old and I know you can make a decision on your own.. do whatever you want but be sure you do it with your heart.. but sometimes don't use only your heart but also your mind.. my advice to you is step away in her life you just make your life miserable when you still continue connecting with me, maybe you just can't do that easily just take your time.. and last you can't get her love until she doesn't love her own self!