There this man that I'm head over hills for and I don't know what to do should I text him or just leave it alone I really want him and I can't stop think about him oh I know he wants me were both married I know its wrong but I got married when I was 16 my husband a contol freak he grounds me like I'm a little kid I'm 19 now and I just want to have a little fun the man I want is 34 and he always scared to be around me face to face because he thinks I will change his mind about have sex he usually text me back unless I start talking sexully then he stops. But I want to change his mind I haven't text him in a week or so but I want to so bad I just can't stop think about what could be

Are you married? Give me some history. Thanks

I think we're going to need more info. Does he tell you he's not interested? Does he text back? Do you get the impression he wants you to leave him alone?

You're both married, he's made it clear he doesn't want to be sexually involved & you should leave him alone.

There are lots of ways you can have a "little fun" without cheating or chasing married men.

You time would be put to better use trying to work on the marriage you already have. Cheating isn't going to change anything at home for you except make it worse in the long run even if short term you do get a "little fun" with someone else's H. Making it clear to your H that you aren't getting what you need from him & the marriage gives you a better chance at a better life with your own H.

He is married and he gets scared off because he doesn't want sex so basically he is flirting for the flattery he gets from you. Sounds like he is just infatuated with you but knows and wants his commitment to his wife. Your enticing him would only cause a lot of problems and he could end up resenting you for it.

If your husband is treating you like a little child maybe you need to leave him BUT not for another man, especially a married one. IF your marriage is that bad you need to get alone and rethink the direction you want in YOUR life in a self sufficient way and get YOU together before you go for a guy. Otherwise you are being co-dependent to need a guy so bad that you would go after a married man. Get independent and find yourself without relying on a guy to be there for you.

I thought I recognized your name.
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/marriage/im-married-he-married-241082.html

You have a child to think about and going after this guy is not good. Don't try to be a home wrecker... leave the guy alone.
He is just flirting!

What do you call a married female, that is actively pursuing sex with a married man, just to have fun??

It seems as if your good, at making really bad choices for yourself.