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DoodleBug
Apr 18, 2006, 10:46 AM
I met a guy a couple of weeks ago and we went out last week. We had a nice time and both agreed that we'd have to get together again soon, but there were no plans made. We text message a lot, so when I ended up being free on Friday night (we had just gone on our first date that wed.) I texted him that I might be out later. He told me to call him if I was. So I did and he was busy, which was OK, so he said call me later and I said call me later and that was it. I didn't call him or text message him all weekend, but couldn't stand it anymore last night so I just sent him a text asking how his weekend had been. I still have gotten no response from him still. He has never done that before, he always at least responds, so now I'm wondering if I scared him off? I know we just met and have only had one date, but I thought we had a nice time and both wanted to get together again. Now I'm not sure what's going on. What do you guys think?:confused:

Jayjay027
Apr 19, 2006, 05:48 PM
Relax, you guys just met. Maybe he's been busy or maybe he's forgot that you texted him.

Give it a few days then text him and ask how he's been etc... If he doesn't reply to that, then you'll know where you stand.

JoeCanada76
Apr 19, 2006, 06:23 PM
You just met this person a few weeks ago. I think your expecting way too much way too soon. Like the above mentioned you need to relax. Give it a few days. Do not look desperate. It is not attractive to most guys.

Joe

DoodleBug
Apr 20, 2006, 09:05 AM
I know, I tend to get nuts sometimes, lol. I have regained my senses and have actually already talked to him. We are going out next weekend. I don't mean to seem desperate because I'm not, I just really like hangin out with this guy. Thanks for your advice.

Hypatia
Apr 20, 2006, 09:18 AM
My husband still nags me about how we met. He gave me his number, we both were completely interested, and I didnt call him for a week. Sometimes things come up and while you want to contact the person, you get busy dealing with life. Just give him time. If he likes you, he will call eventually. If he doesnt, he will not. Just do not call him over and over as it will make him run run run. Men see persistance as a sign of clingyness.

Hypatia

DoodleBug
Apr 20, 2006, 09:33 AM
I realize this but I lose my mind sometimes and do things I don't mean to. We have talked and are going out next weekend, so I will not call or text him, I will wait for him to call me about it. I definitely don't want to make him run away!

JoeCanada76
Apr 20, 2006, 03:47 PM
It is all right. Do not worry about it. Many of us have experienced that at one time or another. Being crazy about somebody and it is natural. Just need somebody else to remind you to relax a bit. Thank you for your question. I just want to let you know what men do not like. Good luck and enjoy your get together. Everything will be fine.

Joe

DJ 'H'
Apr 21, 2006, 03:02 AM
You just met this person a few weeks ago. I think your expecting way too much way too soon. Like the above mentioned you need to relax. Give it a few days. Do not look desperate. It is not attractive to most guys.

Joe

Tried to comment on you rpost, but got a pop up.

Jesus helper is right. You are trying to run with this guy before you have both learnt to walk with each other.

You need to carryon doing what you were doing, before you met him. Don't let your entire world start evolving around one guy - that's when girls seem obsessive and let themselves slip. Just be yourself, keep busy with the things you enjoy , keep a smile on your face and wait for him to call. At least then if he dies call and he says "What have you been up to" - you will have loads of stuff to tell him and perhaps even some funny stories that will make you both giggle. That will make you seem very outgoing and adventurous - which is very attractive to guys.

If he does not call then you have not lost anything and you know where you stand. You just put it down to experience and move on. I have been there plenty of times, but I did not let it ruin my life!

fredg
Apr 21, 2006, 05:35 AM
Hi, doodlebug,
This was a date. Dates are to get to know someone, find out if you want another date with them. He doesn't!
If he did, he would be calling you. Meeting new people is great, cause you meet all kinds. You will find the person who will call you, and keep calling you; both liking each other.