My one friend who I really care about seems very depressed lately, he's scaring me and really worrying me. Everyday I think about him and want to cry and cut myself because of how much I care for him. I don't kow what I can do to help because I'm just as depressed, could someone please give me some ideas on how to let him know I care and that it would break my heart to have him die or something.

Please anybody??

I don't know a lot about mental health - hopefully someone else will answer this questions who does. However, I do know from experience that some of the signs of being suicidal are:
Loss of Appetite
Sleeping or Wanting to Sleep All the Time
Loss of Interest in Activities/Hobbies
Alienating Friends and Family

Your friend needs professional help. And so do you if you are cutting.

If I were you I would try to talk to him. Let him know that you care that he is going through a hard time. Make sure he knows that you love him and are important to him. Tell him that everyone feels depressed sometimes. Tell him that he can talk to you anytime. But also tell him that you think it would help him to talk to an adult - his parents, a priest or minister, a guidance counselor, a teacher, a counselor.

Share with him that you have problems too and that you know that you need help. Make a pact to get well together.

Then you need to talk to an adult. He might see this as a betrayal at first, but if you are fighting to save his life you must try everything.

He's cutting too, he keeps a couple razors near his bed at night. I'm really stoned right now.. . But yeah I loves him

An adult needs to know about this as soon as possible...

He needs help and so do you. Why are you stone? What are your ages?

It's good that you care about your friend well being and he needs help, fast. If he's cutting hisself he can be placed in a hospital for observation because he's sudical. Do you know why he is acting this way. Tell someone asap before he do succeed at what's he is doing.

Also, in your post you stated you care about him so much you want to cry and cut yourself. Do not cut yourself, how your cutting yourself going help him and by the way, do you cut yourself?

You can call this number and give it to your friend too:
1-800-273-talk

Have you and this friend ever been involved with each other?

You both need to get counseling for depression and cutting. You are no good for each other if you are both bringing each other down. Cutting yourself over him is not fixing anything. How does it improve your life or your life? To have a healthy relationship it takes to healthy people working at the relationship. You can't get anywhere the way the two of you are headed.

Im 14 and yes I do cut, also you mean involved like ever dated or anything? No but he likes me and I like him (but won't admit it).

Hi, xxnomoresmilesx!

I do feel badly that you are in the situation that your are in! I do agree that you need to be letting an adult know about what is going on. And, I would like to add, that it's important to be letting an adult know who can speak with you in person and not via the Internet. Over the phone is okay, but in person is much better!

What are you feeling and thinking right now?

Thanks!

I feel really bad because like all this time I'm worrying about him and how sad he seems, he's worried about me being out all the time in the middle of the night getting really drunk and high on weed and e and stuff. Ex: (heres a text he sent me earlier) 'Ive already told you that I like you and I worry about you doing drugs... alot. Send me a message when you get home'

Are the both of you at your respective homes right now with parents?

Uhmm I don't know I'm really confused, his dads dead and his mom it like a crack addict, my parents are divorced and as of this coming Sunday I'm not going to go back to my dads, at least not for a while.

Then you don't really know how your friend is doing. I'm not sure that we can do anything about that. But, my concern for you right now is that you are safe.

Are you?

Uhmm yeah I guess, but kind of not really because I have 4 caps of e on me and I wna pop them so bad :P

Please don't do the drugs! Taking them isn't going to help anything! How are you affording to get them?

My parents give me allowance of $20 a week if not more

Are there some things that you really like to do besides getting high? Do you have any ambitions? How do you do in school, please?

It would help us to help you the best here if we could have a little more information about you.

Thanks!

I do really why in school. But that's fine, I don't want to do good. My parents expect too much of me and I hate it.

I don't understand what you mean by, "i do really y in school". Would you please explain that and also not use any chat acronyms here?

This site operates on an international level. If you use chat speak of any kind, you might not be understood by the people who could help you the most.

Thanks!

Oops srry my keyboard messes up sometimes I meant badly

Would you like to do better in school?

Yeah, but then my dad would put even more pressure on me

If you showed him by your actions of what you do in school, that you really did want to do better, then he probably wouldn't be putting the pressure on you that he already does.

Okay. I can see that you are no longer logged onto this site. Please realize that we do care a lot about you here as well as for your friend.

There most likely will be others who will be coming onto to respond to what you have posted. Some of the advice will be quite fine. Others will post who haven't read through any of that which has already been posted. It's important that you realize that that is probably what's going to happen.

Please do talk with an adult who can visit with you in person. If you happen to be where school might not be in session yet, that doesn't mean that there still might not be counselors from the school who can help you.

I am usually on here really late at night. I do hope that we meet again here. If this thread does continue, then I do know just the right people to ask to post on it who could be a tremendous help to you!

I do wish you well, xxnomoresmilesx!

By cutting yourself you is abusing your body and it does not help solve any problems and it not helping you nor is it helping your friend. You may feel it helps ease the pain but it don't. Whenever you feel like cutting yourself:
*Talk to a trusted person about your feelings
*Keep a hotline number with you at all times in case no one is available, like 1-800-273-talk. 24/7
*Remove any cutting tools or sharp objects from around you.
*Try painting, drawing, writing, eating ice cream, singing, playing video games, or whatever you like to instead of cutting yourself.

You must realize cutting yourself is a serious problem and talking to a professional is best. What state do you live in because there are many teens problems available to you that offers many programs for free and counselling is one. Do not feel ashamed to ask for help doing this takes a lot but shows how mature you are. Did you know there have been cases where people have bleed to death from cutting even though they did not want to die? If the urge of cutting yourself is too intense, get a rubber band and snap yourself. This way you don't cut yourself.

xxnomoresmilesxx, why are there no more smiles as you have in your name here? Please explain. I imagine it is more than just sadness over this friend. It would help if we knew the underlying causes of your sadness.

We have a very limited amount of information regarding you, your family, the friend or his family. It would be helpful if you give us a bit more background information.

What do you see yourself doing in three years, five years, twenty years? This is the only life you have! You have some really important decisions to make regarding your life. You are the only one who can make the decisions that make or break who you are. Drugs are going to break you, cutting is going to break you and both can possibly kill you.

STOP the drugs. I have a friend who has just 'burned up his brain' on drugs. He shakes all the time, has to be on meds from a doctor just to stop shaking enough to lift his arms. He hears voices and is up now on felony charges for beating his mother badly.

You sound like you have a tender heart by the fact that you wrote about your friend who is hurting. If you are who you show us here that you are, you will take charge of your life, stop the drugs, stop the cutting, get cleaned up and be there to help your friend. You CANNOT help him by joining him in doing the very things that are concerning you about his safety. You are worrying him by your choices which is not helping him but adding to his already existing problems. How much do you want to help him?? You need to decide that before you can move forward in helping him.

Begin a regimen of exercise (just fast walking for short distances at first will be great) and eating right foods, drink 8 glasses of water per day to help flush your system out. If, after three weeks or so, you do not feel a difference, then get to a doctor and see if you need to be on antidepressants to lift you out of your depression. IF YOU CANNOT get yourself to the point of exercising and eating right then at least tell an adult you trust and get yourself to a doctor and tell him what his going on and that you need help. We all need help from time to time.

I hope you keep posting. We are losing way to many precious kids to early death just by their choices of putting poison in their system. You are precious. You were created for a special purpose in this life. Only you can determine if you are going to find that purpose.

Chose well new friend!! We want you to win this battle for your mind and body and soul! Only then will you truly be able to help not only your friend but many others as well.

Get help now! Who knows what can happen. Soemtimes you even have to bring a suicidal person to the ER even if they haven't tried anything. This can prevent it.

Talk to him. Tell him that you care. Tell him how you feel. Let him pour his heart out. Encourage him to talk. Ask him why he's depressed. Tell him that so many people care and you'd hate to lose him. Hug him and b there for him.

I feel awful bad for you. Maybe you should turn to God in this matter. I don't know if you believe in him or your friend,but Ido know one thing. He can do anything and everything. Just ask him. He'll help. But if I were you I'd be persistent. Keep asking what's wrong. If you don't get an answer do some things for him that'll make him happy or smile.make him forget his troubles.dont give up.